jaybee3:

awwwwww niceeeeee

Rolls eyes

zaragal:


So I should encourage sex before marriage like it's not wrong smply because it now a norm??.

Except you are reading a different post, I am not addressing sex before marriage, I am addressing your mentality towards sex. (that was why I put the caveat that 'except you have a different code for the married'

zaragal:
What in what I wrote is a wrong mentality??

Read my response above

zaragal:
Young lady, I believe I am entitle to my own opinion and you are entitle to yours so please respect that I am not you and you are not me. Thnx!

I agree.

bukatyne:


Except you are reading a different post, I am not addressing sex before marriage, I am addressing your mentality towards sex. (that was why I put the caveat that 'except you have a different code for the married'

Read my response above



I agree.

All is well sisterly, hope you are having a great day??

crackhaus:

How far is she willing to go in helping you out with your sexual frustration without actually having vaginal sex with you?

making out will still be fornication.

if her reasons for not wanting sex is religous/moral then that advise will not work

if her reasons have nothing to do with religion then OP should respect her wishes and end the relationship

cococandy:
What do guys want?

In one moment they are desiring virgins for marriage and in the next moment they have a problem waiting for the so called virgin.

Unserious

When I said it that sex is a collateral to some of them in a relationship, they came for my head. If these guys ain't fcking you, they feel they are being cheated

Mmmguy:
Plz I know there are men on this forum that has passed through what I'm facing.


I am a working class young man in his early 20s, my fiancee is in her final year in the university. She will have to do internship before service, so basically she still needs at least 3 years b4 she can settle down. she is younger than me. She is a virgin and I'm her first. She wanted us to wait till marriage which is still 3 yrs away based on her education. Our parents are aware of the relationship, so also is our religious leaders. I am not a virgin and as such it's difficult to wait. My job exposes me to different beautiful girls everyday and I give some free rides sometimes. In fact, I have one who intends to visit me this coming weekend but I haven't given her my final response. I have resorted to masturbation in order to quench my thirst for sex but it's not working.

She has made it known to me that she will rather quit than have sex before marriage.

My options are either to cheat or end the relationship ( I don't know of any other option for now). The latter is tough considering that we have both made sacrifices for the relationship, also her parents take me as their son. She is actually very good in other aspects including respect, submission, cooking, dressing etc. I don't want to loose a good woman yet I find it impossible to convince her. But I'm dying of konji everyday.

Anybody who has passed through this stage should pls give me the best advice.

P. S For the trolls here, I intentionally avoided romance section in order to get mature responses, so I wont dignify u with a response if u want to troll me.

since she is a virgin it is worth waiting for

monex:

making out will still be fornication.


if her reasons for not wanting sex is religous/moral then that advise will not work

if her reasons have nothing to do with religion then OP should respect her wishes and end the relationship

Then we are at an impasse. I fail to see the point in any one seeking to remain chaste still involving herself in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex.

That she wants to keep her virginity until they're properly wedded is honourable by all accounts, however, considering the sexual needs of a partner is also paramount in showing commitment.
This is why my earlier question to him remains valid - knowing how far she's willing to go in pleasing him will let him know if he should wait for her.

How can a guy be constantly mastûrbating when he is in a relationship? The least she can do is fill her hands with some lube, take that dîck in her hands, and stroke it till he cûms while kissing him at the same time - the feeling a guy gets from this is 50 times better than what is felt when using his own hands.

There is an instant emotional connection established by that act and I honestly doubt if any reasonable guy who values commitment will still be thinking of cheating when he's getting this occasionally from his virgin girlfriend.

pocohantas:


When I said it that sex is a collateral to some of them in a relationship, they came for my head. If these guys ain't fcking you, they feel they are being cheated

They feel cheated because the girls keep asking for favours like its their birthright. The guys gotta get something in return amiright?

crackhaus:

Then we are at an impasse. I fail to see the point in any one seeking to remain chaste still involving herself in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex.

That she wants to keep her virginity until they're properly wedded is honourable by all accounts, however, considering the sexual needs of a partner is also paramount in showing commitment.
This is why my earlier question to him remains valid - knowing how far she's willing to go in pleasing him will let him know if he should wait for her.

How can a guy be constantly mastûrbating when he is in a relationship? The least she can do is fill her hands with some lube, take that dîck in her hands, and stroke it till he cûms while kissing him at the same time - the feeling a guy gets from this is 50 times better than what is felt when using his own hands.

There is an instant emotional connection established by that act and I honestly doubt if any reasonable guy who values commitment will still be thinking of cheating when he's getting this occasionally from his virgin girlfriend.

Wtf dude, graphic much?

crackhaus:

Then we are at an impasse. I fail to see the point in any one seeking to remain chaste still involving herself in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex.

That she wants to keep her virginity until they're properly wedded is honourable by all accounts, however, considering the sexual needs of a partner is also paramount in showing commitment.
This is why my earlier question to him remains valid - knowing how far she's willing to go in pleasing him will let him know if he should wait for her.

How can a guy be constantly mastûrbating when he is in a relationship? The least she can do is fill her hands with some lube, take that dîck in her hands, and stroke it till he cûms while kissing him at the same time - the feeling a guy gets from this is 50 times better than what is felt when using his own hands.

There is an instant emotional connection established by that act and I honestly doubt if any reasonable guy who values commitment will still be thinking of cheating when he's getting this occasionally from his virgin girlfriend.

And no, that up there won't work for six months talk less of three years. That up there is a rape case waiting to happen cos eventually our man is gonna get frustrated and DEMAND for more.

Mmmguy:
Plz I know there are men on this forum that has passed through what I'm facing.


I am a working class young man in his early 20s, my fiancee is in her final year in the university. She will have to do internship before service, so basically she still needs at least 3 years b4 she can settle down. she is younger than me. She is a virgin and I'm her first. She wanted us to wait till marriage which is still 3 yrs away based on her education. Our parents are aware of the relationship, so also is our religious leaders. I am not a virgin and as such it's difficult to wait. My job exposes me to different beautiful girls everyday and I give some free rides sometimes. In fact, I have one who intends to visit me this coming weekend but I haven't given her my final response. I have resorted to masturbation in order to quench my thirst for sex but it's not working.

She has made it known to me that she will rather quit than have sex before marriage.

My options are either to cheat or end the relationship ( I don't know of any other option for now). The latter is tough considering that we have both made sacrifices for the relationship, also her parents take me as their son. She is actually very good in other aspects including respect, submission, cooking, dressing etc. I don't want to loose a good woman yet I find it impossible to convince her. But I'm dying of konji everyday.

Anybody who has passed through this stage should pls give me the best advice.

P. S For the trolls here, I intentionally avoided romance section in order to get mature responses, so I wont dignify u with a response if u want to troll me.

OP: If u really love your fiancée,make una fix una wedding date sharp sharp. Discus with her. She too faces a battle as regards sex. No one is immune. Temptation is everywhere, bro. Is it a crime, if U guys get married NOW while she is school /internship? Just plan a low key wedding together & shikena! The longer u guys put off going to the aisle, the more small small things go dey come up & God forbid if..... adighi ama ama ooo (u know what I mean). Long courtship dey bring plenty gbege , I tell U. Never let a good girl walk away since U believe U've found one. Real men delay gratification through self discipline, prayers & God's infinite mercy. Pls, stay clear from one chance.

Prognose:


They feel cheated because the girls keep asking for favours like its their birthright. The guys gotta get something in return amiright?

And the girls also feel cheated because guys keep asking for sex lie it is their birthright. The girls gotta get something in return.

You see, una fit unasef for this country.
Do y'all love?

pocohantas:


When I said it that sex is a collateral to some of them in a relationship, they came for my head. If these guys ain't fcking you, they feel they are being cheated

I don’t even have a problem with a guy who admits that sex must be a part of his relationship. You know, let the lady know where you stand before hearts and feelings all get involved. There are many ladies who like that too.

But when a premium is put on being a virgin and at the same time sex is a requirement, it just makes for a biased situation that damns the lady if she does and damns if she doesn’t. Like whatever she chooses to do will never be good enough.

pocohantas:


And the girls also feel cheated because guys keep asking for sex lie it is their birthright. The girls gotta get something in return.

You see, una fit unasef for this country.
Do y'all love?

Yin and Yang, all is balanced at at peace, so no side should complain

Rukkydelta:
I'm not suprised of the comments I'm seeing
I pity anyone that takes his/her relationship to nairaland because if you take their advise seriously such relationship will surely end. Op if you know you can't wait for her instead of cheating just break up, you couldn't have agreed innitialy when you know you won't cope with the no sex law cos cheating might cause something you don't want. You can still marry her now than waiting for 3years talk to her about it and make her understand you and your needs
Goodluck

no time to pet anybody for any bleeping pvssy. Pvssy yapa! O ti poju ni gboro!

Prognose:


And no, that up there won't work for six months talk less of three years. That up there is a rape case waiting to happen cos eventually our man is gonna get frustrated and DEMAND for more.

Not if he really means any of those fancy things he typed in his first post.

Thanks everyone, I have been able to pick a few things.

zaragal:



Is this something to be proud of??...you should be ashamed of yourself. What if someone does this to your sister or wife??. We live in the world where men are proud of how many girls they disvirgined like there is a trophy for it. Good riddance.

His comment was quite irritating.

bukatyne:


@OP:

Your problem is that you and your girl are mixing and matching.

How?

You cannot have a relationship, claim to 'love' the person and yet not desire sex.

It is natural just like hunger.

What you two are doing is cooking delicious meals and pastries with the aroma all over the house at 12 noon when you want to break your fast at 9pm.

In plain English?

If you want to have a no sex relationship, don't date..... wait till a year plus or two you are ready to marry.... approach the girl you are sure is the one and study her character. When you are set, get married.

You are doing it the 'worldly' way to achieve 'godly' results. Take stats of people who waited until marriage and investigate what is common to all of them (religious or not).

And truthfully, if your girl has not shown any restrained sexual desire for you, then there is something wrong with the feelings she professed for you.

My advise: get married or end the relationship. You can decide to delay kids until she is done with school.

There is also no difference between her giving you BJ or whatever and the actual sex if she is staying pure for the spiritual aspect and one day, you guys will have sex.

Goodluck.

I couldn't agree any less. Very apt!

PrimadonnaO:


His comment was quite irritating.

The fact that he is proud of that nonsense is even more irritating. May crazy guys like this never see me. Because na my hand he go die .

zaragal:



The fact that he is proud of that nonsense is even more irritating. May crazy guys like this never see me. Because na my hand he go die .

Lol.

zaragal:



Is this something to be proud of??...you should be ashamed of yourself. What if someone does this to your sister or wife??. We live in the world where men are proud of how many girls they disvirgined like there is a trophy for it. Good riddance.

It's not like what that guy did was right but I didn't see where he wrote there that he was proud of it

anath:

Nice one guy, my advice don’t ever talk about sex to her again,period! Just see her as ur sister. Anyway pM me let’s chat very well, I can be of good help to u

Why chatting in private?
But posting here what you have to say, you will help more than 1 person.