apocalypse:

Last week turned out the worst week in my relationship.

I started dating this girl last year and I must say things have been rosy ( altho I was a bit bothered about her past initially ) but everything changed last week. We just had s3x and she goes to ask me if she's the best I've had , not to put her down I tell her she's best I've ever had , which might be true cos I don't remember any memorable s3xual in the past. I go on to tell her that the sight of her alone gives me heavenly feeling and praise in every imaginable way possible to boost her ego. Wanting my own dose of healthy praise and ego boost , I ask her if I'm the best she's ever had and she gives me a shocker - I'm no good in bed. She just didn't say that alone but adds that she can remember bout six guys who gave her the best fkuc of her life while I'm some where down the ladder , the lower part of the ladder. It's not just what she said but how she said it , I could feel the glow in her when she was describing ( she actually described how she was humped and the size of their schlongs ) her experience with those guys and the frustration she felt with mine.
The problem I'm having now is I can't bring myself to make love to her as I feel inadequate , I don't even get a hard on. Things have gotten from bad to worse ( she dey complain say I no dey perform wella now the thing no dey gree stand up ) and the frustration is getting to her.

Why did I have to ask her

apocalypse:

@ SA goddess : I can't say where the relationship is headed but her words and actions have really lowered my self esteem and I continually ask myself , ' am I that bad '.
@ googles : Thanks for your words and I'll take your advice.

googles:

Blunt or not, she shouldn't have said all o dat. there are other ways to tell your partner he/she is inadequate sexually rather than totally deflating

wat seems to be their ego . and we know men and their ego, there is no way he would want to sleep with her and not remember wat she said

and that look she had on and that would affect his ego and libido.psychogenically,its going to affect you trust me even if u break up with her and go

into another relationship wat she said will still haunt you.its girls like dat who make guys run from pillar to post looking for harmful aphrodisiacs

i think you should just work towards your deflated self-esteem rather than focusing on how to improve your prowess. its just her judgment, not a

general judgment.they say one man's trash,another man's treasure you might be down her ladder but up on another chic's skyscraper  

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apocalypse:

Funny thing is she carries on as tho nothing's amiss. This is really affecting psychologically.

googles:


i think you should let her know wassup . . .nobody i repeat nobody has the right to make u feel bad about yourself or your sexual performance

if its affecting your psych the best thing is to talk about it, make her realize she has said sommin wrong instead of carrying on like nothing is wrong

while dying inside. if you want to continue with her fine and if u want to move on fine but dont bottle up your feelings