Not really bad for him to marry a woman that has gotten three kids from her first marriage.
Let him take a proper check on himself and the woman.
Once he is satisfied with what comes out of his analysis of the previous, the present and future life of the woman and the children, he is good to go.

It is funny. A divorcee or even a widow with kids can't get married by Nigerians standard but if it was the man who is a divorcee with even 7 children none of you advising against it would have told the lady not to go ahead! Such hypocrisy.

That lady is really strong, courageous and independent. She sounds like she knows what she wants cos it won't be easy being solely responsible for those kids. But he should really find out the real reason for her divorce in order to avoid matters that touch.

Capital No...No...No... and if you do, you will regret throughout your life time.

cococandy:

If my brother is entirely sure that he’s up to the responsibility, why not?

But I won’t fail to outline in detail the work that comes along with being a father especially with three kids that you acquire suddenly. It’s just a whole different world and not something that should be undertaken lightly.

Other than that, there’s absolutely no reason why a divorced woman can’t find love and marry again.

No one is saying they don’t deserve love, but three kids is a bit too much especially in Nigeria where there is no child support coming from the ex husband. The new husband will also want to have his kids, too much.

What a rare responsibilities, it's good bcs such a woman will be so much careering but he should think twice bcs. It's Not easy, Best of luck.

It is very very wise. Infact, it is the wisest decision any man can make right now.

majamajic:
it's wise, your bro is cultivating on a fertile soil ,

where were the family members when your bro was going through difficulties ?

my own be say, wetin a man see and run leaving his 3kids �

you are confusing me in 3D, going x, y and even z axis at the same time

onyekabe:
There is this my brother, he has never been married. But now he said he has seen a woman he wants to marry.

But the problem is that his family members are not in support of the marriage because the woman is a divorcee with 3 kids under the age of 10. The kids live with the woman.

The question is, is it wise for this man to marry this woman and take responsibility of the kids because the woman says her kids must be with her.

I'm 100% sure that you've already known the answer to your question. So, why seeking for justification?

I hope you don't find yourself in some shiit



Then you will know there is different between six and half a dozen

Swint:
so cos she has three kids you automatically see her as not good enough for marriage. The ex is obviously irresponsible for leaving the kids and she’s a very strong lady especially for having the mind to insist her kids must stay with her women with lesser strength will dump the kids and follow the man. Everyone deserves a second chance at happiness

any man that marry a divorced woman commits adultery with her

Well if the man knows deep down in his heart, he cannot impregnate any woman, which means he's infertile? Then he can go ahead and marry her with her children. But if he knows he wants his own child to be born as well, through that same divorcee, then he's digging a deep hole for himself and his own unborn kids.

It's not in Nigeria, one can try such. Not even at this recent times where most people no longer appreciate anything their partner's do for them.
He's on a suicidal mission and regrets will be the end result.

milemimi93:


women always playin the victim card since 15BC.

And for the ex to leave the kids with her shows those kids do not belong to her ex.

You latter statement is glaringly lacking in intelligence

Maybe you've not see or heard about some shiits about women before



If you ask me im ready to tell you



Im a living expenses

dominique:


What kind of talk is this? Nobody was created to tolerate a cheating partner, I don't know what makes you men think women were created overlook infidelity. Besides, you conveniently left the part that said the divorced man was violent as well. Should she continue to endure that till she's beaten to death?

I can read some sentiment in your comment



But alot is happening that you don't know



Women do play a victim game alot




I'm a man with experience of you don't know

SapphirePRINCEX:
Dear u don't have to think like that...

You have met wrong bad women, likewise some of us have met the wrong bad guys.. The ex might not even be paying for children support, all I could say is, the said woman is a strong lady, I admire her strength for taking up those kids alone. Whatever the reason for there divorce.

That’s definitely true

ItzBIM:

No one is saying they don’t deserve love, but three kids is a bit too much especially in Nigeria where there is no child support coming from the ex husband. The new husband will also want to have his kids, too much.

Yea each to their own

franchasng:
lol, how single never married before young men fall in love with an after one or two lady baffles me sha.

A woman that has given birth to not just one, but two, three Hmm....people de for this world sha.

I thank for the way He created me. The mere imagination that a lady has given birth makes me lose sexual interest in her talk less of marrying her, odiegwu

milemimi93:


women always playin the victim card since 15BC.

And for the ex to leave the kids with her shows those kids do not belong to her ex.

Not true

ladyverere:
It is funny. A divorcee or even a widow with kids can't get married by Nigerians standard but if it was the man who is a divorcee with even 7 children none of you advising against it would have told the lady not to go ahead! Such hypocrisy.

That lady is really strong, courageous and independent. She sounds like she knows what she wants cos it won't be easy being solely responsible for those kids. But he should really find out the real reason for her divorce in order to pavoid matters that touch.

if it is a man he will remarry with problems because he provides for everyone in the family but if it is a woman she will shift the responsibility to the new husband. Just like this my brother is facing now. Imagine a struggling man taking another man responsibility.

As a result of this bros relationship with the witch he has has never contributed money for the upkeep of his mother.

Adavizeisaac:

I'm 100% sure that you've already known the answer to your question. So, why seeking for justification?

I posted this here so that he can see how bad his plan to marry the witch is

bukatyne:

Not true

What's not true?

onyekabe:
There is this my brother, he has never been married. But now he said he has seen a woman he wants to marry.

But the problem is that his family members are not in support of the marriage because the woman is a divorcee with 3 kids under the age of 10. The kids live with the woman.

The question is, is it wise for this man to marry this woman and take responsibility of the kids because the woman says her kids must be with her.

To marry a divorcee, you must know their story. It is not enough to say her husband was abusive. What was/is the proof? You do not want to be number two for a serial monogamist.

What striking character does she possess that makes him leave all the single ladies to marry a divorcee with three kids?

Is he financially capable to care for them? How would he feel if later, the kids refuse to accept correction from him because 'he is not their dad'?

How would he feel if three years after the marriage they are unable to conceive for whatever reason?

What happens if the wife 'loves' her first kids more than his?

So many what is that the woman must be expectional to worth it.

But again, if she was amazing... why is she divorced?

milemimi93:


What's not true?

That men only allow the kids go with their mother when they are not theirs.

bukatyne:


That men only allow the kids go with their mother when they are not theirs.

According to op, those kids are not infants.. So why will a man allowed his grown up children to be in the custody of a prostitute?

Bad idea. I have an uncle rich and single who got married to a lady he met in one of the Nigeria cities who is divorced with three kid,the eldest 12 at the time. she left them with her mother somewhere. When she became pregnant her real attitude began to show.When family member started finding out stuffs about her she claimed that her children were adopted at first, but when it became obvious her story changed to Her ex is a ritualist, he deal in drugs, he is into human trafficking and so on.

May God help us when it come to who to marry. [color=#000099][/color]

Your brother indeed

hmmm

He is about to embark on a journey that leads to a destination of lasting regrets and sorrows.

ladyverere:
[b]It is funny. A divorcee or even a widow with kids can't get married by Nigerians standard but if it was the man who is a divorcee with even 7 children none of you advising against it would have told the lady not to go ahead! Such hypocrisy.[/b]

That lady is really strong, courageous and independent. She sounds like she knows what she wants cos it won't be easy being solely responsible for those kids. But he should really find out the real reason for her divorce in order to avoid matters that touch.

The only funny thing here is you women sees everything as a competition or it must be applicable to both genda not realising that every genda has peculiarity and role.

If a woman marries a man with 7kids, she is sure those children are not her responsibilities, in fact on many occasions the woman dominates and overshadow the presence of the children at home. Many time those women ends up molesting and abusing those children. It also does not prevent the other woman from having her own children.

If a man marries divorcee woman with 3 kids, this is Nigeria that child support is not in existence, the man is certain to take partial or full responsibilities of those children.
After 3 children, how many more children is the woman willing to give birth to for the man? Don't you think the man also needs 2 or 3 kids of his own?

This should not be seen as gender thing, it goes beyond common gender sentiment.

What the woman needs is divorcee or widower like herself who really does not need children and his own children are old enough to cope with competing interest and dominance rivalry in the family.

Interestingly a couple that were our good friends got divorced. The wife is hot, competent successful, born again. The husband is my friend, but I blame him.

Anyone who marries the ex wife will how they say, have found a good thing.

the gods are wise and they knew no native doctor can cure self poisoning, the child who is not guided when looking for yam Beatles to eat might end up eating Beatles that eat shit.