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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by ceejace(m): 1:12pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
I've been an addict just like you...I once stopped and after 2weeks I went back to it. I spent my masters degree programme money on virtual, my wife was pregnant, I couldn't pay the bills, my rent expired I couldn't pay, until my landlord started threatening me....I usually skip work just because of virtual. All these happened to me bro, but eventually I told myself that I have lost out, so I called my wife I told her everything, I seeked the face of God, I went for counselling, during this period I started something that I can be addicted to that does not involve gambling and that is going to the library and the gym. It's over 5months now and I don't even think if bet9ja shops still exist..The next step starts with you admitting that you've lost out, and so u need to start afresh. 7 Likes |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by lakkyflow(m): 1:12pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
it so sad my brother because I know what u are talking about.. I am also addicted to bet9ja virtual like you , I have been working on myself and together we can work thongs out... know surely that it takes another addiction to stop addiction ... don't mind people that are talking anyhow , they have not been there and are just full of condemnation ... Be my friend, I am a married man and we will stop this together ... Add me on WhatsApp with 08082940899.... With God all things are possible . take care 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by DonPikko: 1:15pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Johnsown1:Best advice, he's the only one that can make that decision to quit |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by aluma(m): 1:28pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife:send me ur wats app num |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Henryfour(m): 1:29pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife:my guy , you r not alone in this poo. mine was the worst. I started 2015 in my third year. this was because hardship was too much but virtual brought real hardship to me . I could not buy sandars , could not change clothe was so very dirty all time. most times I would spend 60000 on virtual daily . my guy I stopped, how did I do it? dress well , eat fine , don't drink goto that virtual shop again . order for malt and fresh fish start drinking and eating your fish as you seat down . look at everyone playing virtual, watch their dressing , look at their shoes. take picture with some of them . go home and look and picture check , like ask your self this queztion. " so this is how I use to dress while playing virtual; stop being greedy and stop wanting it sharp sharp 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Oluwaesko(m): 1:38pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
adegeye38:I need your help BROTHER, how can we get talking. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by els0nm0rali(m): 1:44pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife: This is so so sad. I don't even know how or what to type. Are your parents living together? Are they literate? You need to tell the full story to an adult, probably your parents. Let them realize how much of a hole you've dug yourself into. Let them know that what you're looking at ahead of you is suicide. If I was your dad or mom these are the things I'd do to help you: register you for school again, make sure it's a school in the same town as your home. Make sure you go to school from home. In fact I will drive you to school myself. Go and familiarize myself with a lecturer in your department and hand you over to him. You must report yourself to that lecturer before and after all classes. I must have your time table and know when each class is finishing and when you're to leave school and get home. I will only give you just enough money for transportation back home. I will buy your handouts myself. Of course you'll be ashamed that I'm doing all this as your father, but that will help knock some sense into you. I'll ask for your class rep and probably pay him to send me an SMS if you ever miss any class. I'll engage you around the house with menial jobs. The only time you'll ever step foot out of the house would be when we take you with us to church. I'll register you with a psychologist or at least a good counsellor and I'll take you there myself for the weekly sessions. Do you have a father or mother who can sacrifice their lives to do all these for you? You are in a very critical stage. And yes, suicide is a real threat in your life. On the other hand, you could look for an experienced and proven hypnotherapist. She will help you overcome such desires after a few sessions of hypnosis or hypnotherapy. I really wish you the best but you need to struggle hard with this addiction. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by MeinKampf: 1:51pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Op, search for a song called the gambler, listen to every word and follow it, sport betting isn't that bad but gambling which virtual is one is terribly bad . |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by stagger: 1:51pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
I just read two pages of this thread and I am convinced that the youths of this country are on a highway to destruction! |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by TheLoser: 1:55pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Wow people are really Interested in your story, Which is rare of the Very judgemental and unforgiving nairalanders, funny world I can see some people willing to even send you something Childofdoom, but anyways tour life is not half as bad as mine |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Cee007: 1:57pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Bro ..Play 1-10 Goal Goal, stake with 50k and all your problem is over . |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Hardlife: 1:57pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Amberon11:Thank you for your concern. God bless you sir. I stay in delta none of those churches around me. Thanks for this encouragement. I feel so hopeful and determined now. God bless you |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Silumi(f): 2:03pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife:Tell them ...he who covereth his sin will not prosper...tell them they can join you in prayers and hold u accountable you have opened the door to a beast you cannot tame alone you need people who can be your support system physically and spiritually. don hide what you are going through there is no true help on nairaland your help in God ,you and the people you choose to surround yourself with.be honest to them that you have a problem it's the first step to redemption you have a problem and u need help. My brother had the same issue but with alcohol ...bright future wasted because of alcohol terrible grades and even taking people things to buy it.its became a family battle every one had to join hands with him to fight we are still fighting it but it gets better. Hang on you are not a lost cause the enemy will try to wear u out with the battle don't give up from now on your mind will be your biggest enemy out to ruin u with thoughts that you can never be better but u can it starts from today.i want you to realise that this is war a battle that you need to equip yourself with the word of God while he fights for you..you need the word from the Bible for the battle of your mind.you need to quit complaining about the problem and start calling upon God and declaring his promises over your life. I feel so sad for you but I wish you all the luck and God's grace for what is ahead. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by salford1: 2:05pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
fuckwell2080:I hope you are not an agent to one of the online bet shops. After reading this guys trouble and addiction, i would start packaging curse to those their agents that add me on instagram. Bunch of nuisance. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by 2eggs1goal: 2:08pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Plenty people are in ur shoes or worst., Problem spoken about is problem half solved. Get someone to be in control of ur money, someone who knows about ur gambling problem. Make sure you don’t have access to ur ATM and all. The only way to win is to not gamble my brother. And remember the house always win. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Pharovo(m): 2:11pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Plz text me on whatsapp 07035525151 COdeGenesis: 1 Like |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by AxceX(m): 2:16pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
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Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by tkintell(m): 2:32pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
You're not addicted to gambling, it's the greed in every man that it's appealing to. Deal with the greed, and the addiction would be off. Deal with the lust,and addiction to Indecency will be off. No one has the power to deal with the greed and lusts of the flesh except the Lord Jesus. In humility come before Him and surrender yourself to Him. He will take it up from there. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Godson32(m): 2:35pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife:Sorry bro, i can feel ur pain. I was many times in ur situation, If u cant stop it, u can set a limit to ur gambling ie stack as u can bear and dont see it as a source of livelihood, see it as a part time game. U can be doing that, gradually u can stop it when u realized that it is not taking u anywhere. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by simoney(m): 2:37pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife:truth is, ur situation is critical, but there's a way out. Only Christ can save you now.. give ur life to Christ study about Jesus and receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.. gradually ur mind would be transformed and ur life changed. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by AbbeyvanPersie(m): 2:44pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Well, if you really wish to quit... 1. Don't let some negative comments weigh you down more than you already are. 2. Forget about all what you have lost. Otherwise you may not be able to quit. 3. Don't be alone, always stay with good friends who don't gamble. 4. Pray, whether you're a Muslim or a Christian. Your wish to quit gambling needs prayer. When one is frustrated too much, the belief that God exists may begin to fade away. But truly, God exists so pray. 5. In this life, we all have things that happen to us that hurt and make us feel sad. It is just that yours is gambling. So don't feel sad too much. All those people commenting have/are also gone/going through different problem. There is a price we have to pay as human being and that is trial. So see this problem as a trial and overcome it. Lastly, whether the story is true or not, I believe this kind of problem must have happened to someone we know and I hope the positive advices given above alread will be useful. Conclusively, OP, you can overcome it. Just have the will. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by oyetpel(m): 2:56pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Dear Hardlife, this thread have gotten to page 15 and i know you must have gotten a lot of advises, i just want to chip in because of my own life experience too. I graduated from public Sec school in '09 with a very good Waec result, passed jamb the following year and gained admission into UI. I think my problem started when i questioned many things wrong with Nigeria and being that i was a science student i thought studying abroad will improve me. So i was obsessed about going abroad after my sec school, but couldn't find a way. 1st year in school i had 2.2/7.0 gpa, despite being a brilliant student in sec school and i lost because i don't think i will ever make first class. 2nd year in school, my older cousins started talking about how easy it is going abroad, so luckily i found US thread on nairaland, where i got a list of things i needed. Despite my cousins warning me that even though i am processing traveling i shouldn't neglect my school here for now. They didn't know my gpa, they thought my cgpa is very good because i didn't tell them. In my mind i have zeroed UI, the US rejected me twice, and i had to remain in UI with a very low cgpa. I pushed it till 500L till i gave up. Mom taught i will be serving that year 2015. When i told her about extra year and so many carry overs i had, she burst into tears. My father had died earlier that year. When it was time to go for extra year, i told her i couldn't do it. But she was adamant that i get a degree, so i took jamb last year after wasting 8 YEARS. Now i am in another federal university in southwest, and i am trying my best to do well this time around. A female classmate of mine in sec school saw me in school the other day and ask what i am doing in her school, that am i here for my Masters or Ph.D? When i got home i couldn't cry, see the level this girl rated me not knowing i just started 100 level. Sometimes i feel depressed and have suicide thoughts but the pains i will cause my mom after loosing a first son and husband keeps me in check, and also hope that i would one day have children that i will train and achieve what i couldn't (because i know i can't really make a difference in life again). Also my dad founded a church before he died, and along the line i started teaching these kids in children class, and they love my teachings and look up to me. I love these kids and they are also part of what keeps me going in this life. Growing up i never thought i could find myself in this mess, seems like a dream but it's real and torturing. I sometimes do the betting too, because i was a football addict. But i didn't get addicted. Why i wrote this summary about my life is that hardlife, you can still start your life again, yours is 5, me i am starting again after 8 years. Peace 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by akinszz: 2:58pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife:ha! you need deliverance... masturbation will finish you totally ... |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 2:59pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
U have to learn to let go ...very important ...In my experience people who lost a certain sum will wantu chase it. See bah, just like drugs u v to tell ur self small dose is enough ...if u wrr doing 1k do 5h now. And gradually go downwards up until 50 naira . At a point u wouldn't see the need. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by devdanArthur98: 3:02pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
My brother I won't judge you... Everyone,I mean every single person on earth is battling a demon... However, I'm quite impressed that you acknowledge that "[b][/b]You have a problem " Don't let the negative comments spiral you into depression... At this point, the help you need is THERAPY... try to see a psychiatrist they are in a better situation to help... My prayers are with you |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Obalegend: 3:02pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
There is an apparent contradiction in your story. Your heading says "bet9ja" and your body says "nairabet". This is a mere cook up story Hardlife: |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by adegeye38(m): 3:03pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Oluwaesko:here is my contact add me 09084940650 |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by adegeye38(m): 3:04pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Emmy9ite02:exactly sir, thank God for your life glad to see you are a winner too |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Nobody: 3:06pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Chikicaka: lol, the op is still a learner compared with others I've seen. my theory there is a gradual process, it has worked on many people, his wouldn't be an exception. Thanks madam |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by Ijaya123: 3:08pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Hardlife: Stop being alone and start being in the company of those you respect, consistently. Once you can achieve that, you're half way there. |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by dennel(m): 3:16pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
Mr Hardlife! There's no smoke without fire and I personally blivd that for you to recognise and got to the point that it's a problem, then it's halfly solved...! Try these tips * * check your spiritual life bro, we not all holy and 100% perfect but we all striving into perfection, just c that as a past life and pick up yourself, I learnt smtn over the years about God, he would always receive you back, so go back to him and reconcile. * you a man, tho m aware some guys do have this light/soft mind, but just put up with a stone mind this time, rebuke and run away from those tns... you just have to make up your mind* * thirdly, believe in yourself; your destiny is in your hands and you and you alone will take charge. * improve on your prayer life. And lastly, set your priorities right... you no longer a boy, you a man! God help us all |
Re: I Am Finished. Bet9ja Virtual Has Ruined My Education,my Life And My Soul. HELP! by sprints1: 3:19pm On Jul 08, 2018 |
always gamble responsibly am a gambler though I lose at times because I afraid to lose money theirby playing bets I think its safer...I think the best way to gamble is to lay down certain rules for yourself eliminate fear to lose, avoid playing with sentiment the same way I played it against Brazil which I lost and I am happy I lost because I played with sentiment..., have ur own rules...everything in life is guided by rules...always bet having ur own rules learnt this technique from a German guy..he doesn't bet on some certain games and odd no matter how sure the game might be...gambling could be fun and the same time a sure way to make profit and lose...u have to be risk tolerant and gamble responsibly with ur spare money let's say y earn #200k bet with 20k or 30k |
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