There is a recent proliferation of this question among women. Most guys get asked this question "why do you want to marry?"

To me this question is dumb, illogical, and not necessary.

To women
Most guys do not know why they should marry. One of the goal of due diligence carried out on any approaching potential husband is to know if he has the right mentality about marriage and why he needs one. So when you discuss marriage with your partner/girlfriend, she will throw forth the question "why do you want to marry". To ladies, most men marry out of desperation, pressure, and lust. So what is the purpose of getting married to him when he can't give a convincing reason why I should follow him to the alter?

To guys/men

This question does not make sense. Why ask a grown man like me such a question? To a man, asking him such question is synonymous to questioning his maturity, integrity, and sense of responsibility. Of course he knows what marriage is, before deciding to go into one, he understood the need for it. Having come to terms with everything, including the troubles therein, responsibilities, and other demands of marriage, there is therefore no reason why you should ask him such question.


Analysis
The problem I have with the question is that every lady who ask such question believe they know the reason for marriage while the candidate/guy/man may not know why he needs to marry. So who gets to ask women same question?

That question isn't necessary. If a man whom you've been with for sometime asks for your hand in marriage, you have two options, YES or NO.

While I might be wrong, I want to get opinion from guys who have answered this question before. And to the ladies who ask this question, what is your aim and purpose for asking? Guys, how do you feel when asked this question?

Would you ask a man why he is a man

The answer is your answers.

Same way most guy feels, "Strange", followed by a little smile, then a big "Am not ready" kinda answer.

Only a guy that is ready for marriage will feel neutral

Honestly, marriage to unmarried guys is kinda scary to most.
Nobody wanna get stabbed, or baptized with hot water, or worst get hospitalized with a severed powerhouse (dhick) for any reason.

I always tell them am never going to get married.i have already married myself

KingTugreat:
I always tell them am never going to get married.i have already married myself

Bros.

Marriage is beautiful but the kind of news coming out from that union scare some of us but then, we must overcome it.

Bluezy13:

Would you ask a man why he is a man

The answer is your answers.

Exactly bro. My friend was asked same question last week, and he was just shocked and didn't know how to answer that question.

To me, it's either you say yes or no. Don't start asking me question as if I am not sure of what I want.

SenorFax:
Same way most guy feels, "Strange", followed by a little smile, then a big "Am not ready" kinda answer.

Only a guy that is ready for marriage will feel neutral

Honestly, marriage to unmarried guys is kinda scary to most.
Nobody wanna get stabbed, or baptized with hot water, or worst get hospitalized with a severed powerhouse (dhick) for any reason.

Hehehehe. That question is a big turn off.

mrphysics:

Bros.

Marriage is beautiful but the kind of news coming out from that union scare some of us but then, we must overcome it.

its good for some people its not good for me

KingTugreat:

its good for some people its not good for me

Hmmmmmmm. Don't get me scared bro

hello, I wish to contact you but does not know how to reach you my e-mail is: njelefacfel@yahoo.com

Most guys are asked this question by who?...I'm confused. I can understand a guy being asked by his guys/friends...especially if they have good reasons to believe his 'fiancée ' is not wife material. But for the 'fiancée ' to be asking that question makes no sense unless she senses the man has an agenda...wants to marry for some other reason....like getting a Green Card... getting in on her family wealth etc.

mrphysics:
There is a recent proliferation of this question among women. Most guys get asked this question "why do you want to marry?"

To me this question is dumb, illogical, and not necessary.

To women
Most guys do not know why they should marry. One of the goal of due diligence carried out on any approaching potential husband is to know if he has the right mentality about marriage and why he needs one. So when you discuss marriage with your partner/girlfriend, she will throw forth the question "why do you want to marry". To ladies, most men marry out of desperation, pressure, and lust. So what is the purpose of getting married to him when he can't give a convincing reason why I should follow him to the alter?

To guys/men

This question does not make sense. Why ask a grown man like me such a question? To a man, asking him such question is synonymous to questioning his maturity, integrity, and sense of responsibility. Of course he knows what marriage is, before deciding to go into one, he understood the need for it. Having come to terms with everything, including the troubles therein, responsibilities, and other demands of marriage, there is therefore no reason why you should ask him such question.


Analysis
The problem I have with the question is that every lady who ask such question believe they know the reason for marriage while the candidate/guy/man may not know why he needs to marry. So who gets to ask women same question?

That question isn't necessary. If a man whom you've been with for sometime asks for your hand in marriage, you have two options, YES or NO.

While I might be wrong, I want to get opinion from guys who have answered this question before. And to the ladies who ask this question, what is your aim and purpose for asking? Guys, how do you feel when asked this question?

this mrphysics is like someone I know outside nl Njoku Chukwu..