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| Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by zicoraads: 2:24pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Why do guys think it normal to 'reward' ladies who dated them when they were not rich? I don't get it, was she doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you? It has become commonplace to read about rewards, car gifts especially, purchased by guys as rewards for ladies who they were in a relationship with when they were poor. I think in constantly doing that, guys are making it look abnormal, the idea, that a lady is supposed to stick with her man, come rain or shine. She wasn't doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you. No one is doing you a favour by being in one with you now. Whether it ended or not, you owe her nothing for that period the both of you were dating. Guys should stop making it seem like dating a particular lady is a privilege they don't deserve. 291 Likes 37 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by eezeribe(m): 2:26pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
I agree with you 100 %... Such men are actually encouraging the gold digging instincts in women. They are actually making it look like women should only love men who are rich ... They are unwittingly negating the essence of true love... I SEE SUCH MEN AS REEKING OF LOW SELF ESTEEM. And later, it is still their fellow men that will call women Gold diggers, and the women would be angry when called as such... 224 Likes 26 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by bjayx: 2:26pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Ur thoughts, Ur way 32 Likes 4 Shares
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| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Babyforever(f): 2:29pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Yaba left patient on the lose 93 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by cruzita(f): 2:29pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Who be this? 44 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Babyforever(f): 2:30pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
cruzita:Girl where have you been it's being like two years since I saw you last  4 Likes |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by donstan18: 2:31pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
First; There's nothing like a lady who stuck with you when you were poor, rather say "Partners who stuck with themselves when they were poor". To your post. Reward is a valuable prize given in return for an act or deed. Reason why such rare ladies are rewarded is because Nigerian ladies date for money, relationship is like a job opportunity to them and an avenue for them to escape poverty, they go in a relationship for money which is one of the reasons they'll continue to be seen as write-off as long as relationship is concerned. Don't blame them anyway. Prostitutes don't joke with their money. The only set of female exes that should be rewarded if necessary are those set of ladies who contributed to your struggles and wealth when you had nothing. Colourich: Calling you a fool will be an insult to fools out there. You as a lady who sees it as a favor to date a struggling man, who's your father? what do you have? What are you offering? Are you not struggling? Well, what do we expect from a society where women disguise as girlfriends to carry out their prostitution works. 392 Likes 41 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 2:32pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
What a fool you are. Such display of foolery, you think its every woman that is capable of sticking through thick and thin. 18 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by cruzita(f): 2:34pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Babyforever:my dear man must hustle or hunger go show u direction.u must have changed moniker cos this one is not familiar |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by CAPSLOCKED: 2:36pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Colourich: STICK AROUND DOING WHAT? CONTRIBUTING TO A MAN'S GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT OR EXTORTING FROM HIM WHILE THREATENING TO LEAVE HIM FOR SOMEONE BETTER? PLEASE. IT'S FUNNY THOUGH. GIFTS AND ENDLESS PRAISES FOR STICKING WITH ME WHEN I HAD NOTHING? LOL. I HAD NOTHING BUT I PAY FOR YOUR HAIR AND SUB. I GOT YOU HANDOUTS AND CLOTHES AND SOMETIMES ADDED TO YOUR SCHOOL FEES AND ENSURED YOU FED WELL. I'M NOT THE PERSON WHO IS SUPPOSED TO BE SAYING THANK YOU, WHEN ALL YOU DID WAS PLACE ME IN CHARGE OF YOUR SURVIVAL. 2 BROKE PEOPLE. STRUGGLING TO MAKE MONEY. AFTER SOME TIME THE MAN GETS A SOURCE OF GETTING MONEY.. THE WOMAN SHOULD CONGRATULATE AND CELEBRATE THE MAN FOR BEING A BETTER ADULT AND STEPPING UP TO ACHIEVE SOMETHING WHEN ALL SHE DID IN THE PREVIOUS YEARS WAS LAY AROUND, FOLLOW FASHION TRENDS AND ENGAGE WITH OTHER TOASTERS ON FACEBOOK PRAYING THAT ONE OF THEM WOULD CONVINCE HER TO ABANDON HER BOYFRIEND. NOBODY IS IRREPLACEABLE. PERSONALLY I'VE GONE THROUGH A LOT TO REALIZE STRESSING TOO MUCH OVER PEOPLE IS NOT WORTH IT. THEY GON LEAVE YOUR SORRY ASŚ JUST THE WAY THEY CAME. I CAN'T BE THANKING ANYONE FOR BEING WITH ME IF I CANNOT FIND THE POSITIVITY THEY ADDED TO MY LIFE. IT'S QUITE LAUGHABLE THAT COOKING, CLEANING, AND SEX ARE WHAT SOME PEOPLE COUNT AS CONTRIBUTIONS TO A MAN'S LIFE WHEN HE WAS BROKE. IF THAT'S ALL YOU'RE GETTING FROM YOUR PARTNER THEN YOU'RE LOSING NIL TO ONE MILLION. 213 Likes 24 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by izaray(f): 2:41pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Who is this one again  Abeg mind ur business jhor  13 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by emelda86(f): 2:42pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
The time you were ogbenye onu ntu u didn't notice the sacrifice she put in feeding you & all now you are here saying rubbish... 26 Likes |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by zicoraads: 2:42pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
eezeribe:And this is the summary of it. Unfortunately, I already see a few insults flying around.   9 Likes |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by zicoraads: 2:44pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
ibkayee, talk  3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 2:44pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Wanted to create a topic on this but I've been very busy. No woman did you a favour by not leaving you when you were broke. What the hell is wrong with Nigerian men? . I'm tired of seeing bullshït headlines and comments about men purchasing cars or gifts for their wives / girlfriends because they stayed with them when they got nothing. What the hell Is this? Purchase gifts for her because you want to and can afford it not because she stayed with you when you were broke.. What were you expecting her to do? Dump you, huh? A lady is broke and you're also broke, so how did she do you a favour by not leaving? Have you seen women celebrating men who were dating them when they were broke? What's this nonsense?. No woman, I repeat no woman is doing you a favour by dating you when you were broke. Y'all should stop making it seem otherwise. IT IS BETTER YOU LEAVE A MAN THAN TO CONTINUE DATING HIM AND THINK YOU'RE DOING HIM SOME SORT OF FAVOUR THAT MUST BE REPAID. 184 Likes 25 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 2:47pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
zicoraads: Nigerian men are gradually making it seem like the women who were with them when they were broke did them some kind of favour. Buy her a gift because you want to not because she was with you when you got nothing, that's stupidity. Isn't she suppose to stay before? So when you go broke you'll be thinking she might leave? What were the women doing when the men were making money? 15 Likes |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 2:50pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Colourich: You can put across a message without being utterly ridiculous and uncivilized. Are you a kid? Why insult the young man? How will you compensate men who dated you when you were broke? What he's trying to say is men should give out gifts because they can afford them not because a woman stayed with them when they got nothing. 93 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by ibkayee(f): 2:53pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
zicoraads: I guess in a world where females place a high importance on the status & resources of their partner, they’re just appreciating the ones who weren’t so hung up on it and valued them as a person enough to stay. Only time I think they ‘deserve’ it though is if they were actually instrumental in his success in some way. Otherwise, they don’t ‘deserve’ it per se in my opinion, but I guess it’s just a personal gesture of appreciation for a kind of ‘loyalty’ that isn’t commonplace 65 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 2:58pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Poor girl, I feel ur pain... But know that a girl who stays with a broke guy is also broke. If shez not broke she would help the guy to rise ASAP. Not wait for d guy to hammer all by himself. Guys also do broke girls huge favour, but they are not appreciated... Colourich: 25 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by XhosaNostra(f): 3:02pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
No it's not wrong. Even cellular networks give people loyalty points Well, loyalty is very rare, so I'd also be generous & kind to people who have been there for me through it all. It's being human. 39 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by delishpot: 3:03pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Awon though he doesn't have anything, he is hardworking and I believe he will treat me right when things settle for him. Awon ti bony and clyde, awon I will support him in anyway I can because his tomorrow will be rewarding. Awon I will build my future with him gang....... Mark these usernames o. Your building is not needed here. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by mrphysics(m): 3:04pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Colourich:Why are you pained this much? Are you dating money? What do you do for a living? Ans: You are in a relationship. 19 Likes |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 3:25pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Op, those girls need reset slap. That's how one dirty bit©h was telling me back then that she was with me through thick and thin, and was expecting favours , nigga, we was both broke then, i left the shores and made it, I was expecting you to do the same. Fvck off bit©h , don't provoke me bit©h  36 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 5:44pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
mrphysics:Are you indirectly asking me what I do for a living? |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Iamgrey5(m): 6:01pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
No It is not wrong to reward anyone (not just ladies) that stood by you during hard times Anyone who goes through hardtimes in life will surely recognize the worth of friends during such periods in life. I am not stating that the said person should be turned into Messiah that can do no wrong, but the person surely deserves a special place in ones heart. 47 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by babyfaceafrica: 7:36pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
my problem is such guys hardly remember their parents and friends who were there for them..but will gladly dash a lady gift for staying with him....I wonder who is more important?..you buy car and house for your wife but your padi for hood is on bicycle and face me slap you..you parents still live in penury 22 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Babyforever(f): 8:23pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
cruzita:Yes mean will be out soon  |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 8:25pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
I agree with you brother. They make it look like they're doing you a favor by sticking with you, when in fact she's actually doing herself a favour. The 9ja girls I know will never stick with you if you don't have potentials to be successful. No matter how good you are on bed, reality will always set in and they'll go for someone with potential. Believe anything like true love at your own peril. Bunch of lazy ass leeches 20 Likes |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by loydsis(m): 9:38pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Colourich:But seriously u didn't get it ryt,why must u throw insults,is dat how u respect ur man?. ur behaviour is too recalcitrant. 3 Likes |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by carammel(f): 9:58pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
Today, girls stop chasing already made men around, why don't you date broke guys and build with them. Tomorrow, any girl that dates a broke guy does not deserve any reward at the long run. When a broke girl dates a rich guy, she's a gold digger. When a rich girl date a broke guy, she's a fool,why would she stoop so low? When a broke girl dates a broke guy, she deserves no reward.. When a rich girl dates a rich guy, she's so proud and stingy, she can't date a broke guy to help his ministry. Confusion! Confusion!! Confusion!!! 89 Likes 9 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 10:04pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
When you've stuck that long with your company does your company not pay you a higher term because of your stay. Unless you work in a one man company, some gestures are not up for debate anyone that was with me and stuck with me during my trying times male or female deserves and will be rewarded by me, as a man that's the code I live by, I treat friends like friends you will understand one day. 47 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Opinion: It Is Wrong To Reward A Lady Who Stuck With You When You Were Poor by Nobody: 10:26pm On Jul 12, 2018 |
loydsis:Spare me the manner 101. 1 Like |
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