Is the fight for equality really ruining marriages?

If yes, tell me how.

Damn, do you ever contemplate anything else besides this feminist agenda? You are obsessed.

No, it's not.

Feminist over to you.

not just marriage...it is ruining the entire world

Every marriage/relationship has what works for them.

In some one has the upper hand over the other.
In some party A has upper hand in some issues while party B has the upper hand on other issues.
While in some it could be more egalitarian in which both parties are in it together this type could be the equality relationship.

Some could take equality figuratively,metaphorically and literally.
Do whatever works for you and your partner.
Use your own model and not others if equality cannot work for you don't do it if it can work for you do it.

AmazonTopaz:
Every marriage/relationship has what works for them.

In some one has the upper hand over the other.
In some party A has upper hand in some issues while party B has the upper hand on other issues.
While in some it could be more egalitarian in which both parties are in it together this type could be the equality relationship.

Some could take equality figuratively,metaphorically and literally.
Do whatever works for you and your partner.
Use your own model and not others if equality cannot work for you don't do it if it can work for you do it.

you still haven't answered the question.

donbachi:
not just marriage...it is ruining the entire world

Thank you

SilentWisper:
you still haven't answered the question.

To me the answer could be subjective.
It depends on the individuals involved and their view could be influenced by ideology,religion etc.

So I can't say the closest I can give as an answer is my last sentence.

AmazonTopaz:

To me the answer could be subjective.
It depends on the individuals involved and their view could be influenced by ideology,religion etc.

So I can't say the closest I can give as an answer is my last sentence.

fair enough.

khiaa:
Damn, do you ever contemplate anything else besides this feminist agenda? You are obsessed.

Hahaha. Free him na.

Elder001:
Is the fight for equality really ruining marriages?

If yes, tell me how.

Equality in what sense. If it is equal rights for women I am tempted to say yes_in a sense. Because as society evolved to allow women do the things men do more women began to leave marriage to focus on their career. Plus, they became less tolerant of cheating and abuse, sometimes even calling something abuse when it's not. That doesn't mean equality for women is bad just that it carried costs for marriage.

If it's gay marriage then it doesn't ruin man/woman marriage but the major problems for me is that it legitimizes an absurdity and people who rubber-stamp it tend to go on to rubber-stamp other absurdities as well. Transgender issues where they say a man with a dick is a woman and porn as well for example. That said, gay marriage does problems for marriage, because bisexuals can then go on to have gay marriages and so weaken heterosexual marriage plus there are cases if men who seemed otherwise straight, in living homes who suddenly married men. So there's some damage there. Personally, I think no-gault divorce and in-demand abortion are more of a problem to marriage than gay rights.

Equality is okay so far it's not taken too far.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Hahaha. Free him na.

The earlier you realize that most people on this forum are frustrated and stupid, the best you can do is to ignore them.

Prognose:

She's a disgrace to womanhood.

UyiIredia:


Equality in what sense. If it is equal rights for women I am tempted to say yes_in a sense. Because as society evolved to allow women do the things men do more women began to leave marriage to focus on their career. Plus, they became less tolerant of cheating and abuse, sometimes even calling something abuse when it's not. That doesn't mean equality for women is bad just that it carried costs for marriage.

If it's gay marriage then it doesn't ruin man/woman marriage but the major problems for me is that it legitimizes an absurdity and people who rubber-stamp it tend to go on to rubber-stamp other absurdities as well. Transgender issues where they say a man with a dick is a woman and porn as well for example. That said, gay marriage does problems for marriage, because bisexuals can then go on to have gay marriages and so weaken heterosexual marriage plus there are cases if men who seemed otherwise straight, in living homes who suddenly married men. So there's some damage there. Personally, I think no-gault divorce and in-demand abortion are more of a problem to marriage than gay rights.

Equality is okay so far it's not taken too far.

Why should anybody focus more on marriage than career?
Can the marriage survive without your career?


Why should they be tolerant towards cheating and abuse?

No sane human should.

Elder001:


She's a disgrace to womanhood.

By whose standards, yours?

You who cannot even show your face on an anonymous forum.

Your opinion does not matter.

donbachi:
not just marriage...it is ruining the entire world

How?

Prognose:


By whose standards, yours?

You who cannot even show your face on an anonymous forum.

Your opinion does not matter.

Even if she's not a feminist she should atleast show support for the movement.

I repeat she's a disgrace to womanhood.

She's suffering from Stockholm syndrome.


How a sane woman will say she's not equal to men still baffles me.

One thing about women who don't believe in gender equality : they're poor.

They depend on men for survival so they cant stop being slaves to men.

Elder001:

Why should anybody focus more on marriage than career?
Can the marriage survive without your career? .

So that the human race will continue. Marriage is the best for kids to grow in. And one of the couple has to work while the other looks after the kids, usually the woman. That is how I was raised. My Dad did business while my mother looked at me and my siblings when we were kids and left her nursing career. It was after we grew up a bit she entered business.

Elder001:

Why should they be tolerant towards cheating and abuse?
.

First, cheating and abuse is not good. So far the spouse is not making a habit of it one can forgive them. People make mistakes attimes. Sometimes for the sake of the marriage and kids especially if one has one tolerates it, some people don't.

Elder001:

No sane human should.

I am not saying tolerate it that you let the person do it. Of course it should be condemned and punished. But if a person leaves at the first cheating many marriages would have broken down. That's why some tolerance is required. Obviously, if the person repeats it or continues to ignore warnings one should leave.

Elder001:


Even if she's not a feminist she should atleast show support for the movement.

I repeat she's a disgrace to womanhood.

She's suffering from Stockholm syndrome.


How a sane woman will say she's not equal to men still baffles me.

One thing about women who don't believe in gender equality : they're poor.

They depend on men for survival so they cant stop being slaves to men.

Being submissive doesn't mean both aren't equal. Being rebellious or wilfully doesn't even mean equality. You are taking her point too far.

UyiIredia:


So that the human race will continue. Marriage is the best for kids to grow in. And one of the couple has to work while the other looks after the kids, usually the woman. That is how I was raised. My Dad did business while my mother looked at me and my siblings when we were kids and left her nursing career. It was after we grew up a bit she entered business.



First, cheating and abuse is not good. So far the spouse is not making a habit of it one can forgive them. People make mistakes attimes. Sometimes for the sake of the marriage and kids especially if one has one tolerates it, some people don't.



I am not saying tolerate it that you let the person do it. Of course it should be condemned and punished. But if a person leaves at the first cheating many marriages would have broken down. That's why some tolerance is required. Obviously, if the person repeats it or continues to ignore warnings one should leave.

So that the human race will continue. Marriage is the best for kids to grow in. And one of the couple has to work while the other looks after the kids, usually the woman. That is how I was raised. My Dad did business while my mother looked at me and my siblings when we were kids and left her nursing career. It was after we grew up a bit she entered business.

Sorry, things no longer work this way. If the man is so concerned about someone staying at home to look after kids then he should quit his career and look after the kids.



First, cheating and abuse is not good. So far the spouse is not making a habit of it one can forgive them. People make mistakes attimes. Sometimes for the sake of the marriage and kids especially if one has one tolerates it, some people don't.
Sorry, cheating shouldn't be given a second chance.
If you can't stay faithful please don't get married.

This is how people advice women to stay in abusive marriages because of children till something bad happens.



I am not saying tolerate it that you let the person do it. Of course it should be condemned and punished. But if a person leaves at the first cheating many marriages would have broken down. That's why some tolerance is required. Obviously, if the person repeats it or continues to ignore warnings one should leave

No tolerance for abuse. If you get abused by your partner sorry that marriage isn't meant to be.

UyiIredia:


Being submissive doesn't mean both aren't equal. Being rebellious or wilfully doesn't even mean equality. You are taking her point too far.

No matter how you try to interpret it, my brother submission will always lead to subservience .

A situation where you see cooking as a woman's responsibility alone. Laundry, cleaning and other stuffs as a woman's responsibility alone.

You start dictating for her anyhow.

That is slavery.

Elder001:
Is the fight for equality really ruining marriages?

If yes, tell me how.

It is big time because any small thing, the fight for equality will come. My eldest sister who all of a sudden decided to be a feminist is being affected in her marriage because she wouldn't wanna be seen as the less equal one. So, yes!, in my opinion, it is negatively affecting marriages in a way.

gracechellar:

It is big time because any small thing, the fight for equality will come. My eldest sister who all of a sudden decided to be a feminist is being affected in her marriage because she wouldn't wanna be seen as the less equal one. So, yes!, in my opinion, it is negatively affecting marriages in a way.

She must stand her ground.

She shouldn't allow any man to dictate for her anyhow.

She's equal to her husband in all ramifications.


Whether he's the sole provider or not they're equal.

Elder001:


She must stand her ground.

She shouldn't allow any man to dictate for her anyhow.

She's equal to her husband in all ramifications.


Whether he's the sole provider or not they're equal.

Hmmm.

Elder001:


[s]Even if she's not a feminist she should atleast show support for the movement.

I repeat she's a disgrace to womanhood.

She's suffering from Stockholm syndrome.


How a sane woman will say she's not equal to men still baffles me.

One thing about women who don't believe in gender equality : they're poor.

They depend on men for survival so they cant stop being slaves to men.[/s]

Queen Elizabeth of England doesn't believe in gender equality. Is she poor?

Your opinion doesn't matter.

gracechellar:

Hmmm.

Yes.

All misogynists and men who feel they'll die if they stop controlling women must be put to shame.

I hope she see this one day.

Prognose:


Queen Elizabeth of England doesn't believe in gender equality. Is she poor.

Your opinion doesn't matter.

I understand that you're man.

The fact that you're against gender equality says a lot about you.

Elder001:


Yes.

All misogynists and men who feel they'll die if they stop controlling women must be put to shame.


I hope she see this one day.

Sorry to ask, are you male or female?

Prognose:


Queen Elizabeth of England doesn't believe in gender equality. Is she poor?

Your opinion doesn't matter.

Link please
Link of the website where you read that nonsense.

Queen Elizabeth II in the early 80s was one of the influential propagators of gender equality.

gracechellar:

Sorry to ask, are you male or female?

I'm a married man.