Dear nairalanders, I live with my housemate, we have been living together for a year now.
He met a girl and brought her to live with him in his bedroom, he even introduced me to the girl and the girls seems to like talking to me so to be polite I also talk to her when she talks to me and answers her questions. Then I noticed my housemate doesn't like that because he seems to think I'm trying to steal his girlfriend and I am not even interested in her, I only talk to her when she talks to me to be polite, I am not even attracted to her in anyway, she's not even my type, her Ass is flat and I prefer women with big firm assess but my housemate thinks other wise.
and seems to not like me talking to her so I stoped talking to her and even avoid her, I try not to get in their way anyway that I can so I keep to myself in my bedroom and only come out to prepare something to eat for myself then go back in to my room with my food.
Even after I kept my distance, my housemate is still suspicious, when he goes out and leave the girl to stay home sometimes, he keeps calling her and asking about me, where I'm I? What I'm I doing?
Anyway I still continued keeping my distance from them and avoid the girl anyway that I can, even when I go to the balcony to smoke when I see her I there I will not stand there and talk to her, I will just go back to my room and when she's in the kitchen I don't go there to prepare my food, I wait for her to finish before I go in.
So because of this she thinks I'm angry with them, she thinks that there is something she did or my housemate did to me but don't know and my housemate too thinks the same way and they even concluded that I am snobbish when all I am trying to do is to stay out of their way and give them their privacy and space.
What I don't understand is that I'm I on the wrong? What is it that I'm doing wrongly?

Be free in the house you paid for,your housemate can think whatever he wants if he is man enough let him confront you then you give him a piece of your mind if the girl talks to you,you respond but stop avoiding her like that after all is also your house.

I think the cigar is a bigger threat to your wellbeing.

All of you are mad, thinking, assuming and killing unasef slowly

Don't do things like woman.
Communication is key

Talk to your guy man to man over some bottles of beer (if you do).

Don't know how to start? Let me suggest.....

this one is deep

You are overdoing things bros.

In fact, call the guy one on one and explain what you've been trying to do. Talk to her without being too familiar biko.

I have a flatmate I talk to...never been to her room, never borrowed more than her big pot(it sits right beside my set in the kitchen ), never eaten her food, never did any personal anything with her. Yet, there is a cheerful ambiance in the house. Be friendly without being close. If matter becomes too much, bring a girl home from time to time too

All the comments above me are valid!

You can't just continue with these kind of attitude. It's not healthy at all since you all live in same house. why don't you, your housemate and his girlfriend discuss this altogether? Call them both and explain, by doing this you will clear some doubts about you and make things very clear.

You're OK. Your housemate is immature. Shey he no know women before ni weh he carry girl come join una for house. Its not u he shd untrust, its his girl..cus if you keep being itself...being jovial, being playful, the girl will fall for you and when trouble starts, she'll accuse you of being the one who made advances on her...and that may cause a permanent problem btwn u and ur housemate

My advice for you as a man is call ur housemate and have a man-man talk. If he understands..fine. If he doesn't, then you've done all ur best, live ur life freely in ur house. He'll learn in a hard way later.

sisisioge:
You are overdoing things bros.

In fact, call the guy one on one and explain what you've been trying to do. Talk to her without being too familiar biko.

I have a flatmate I talk to...never been to her room, never borrowed more than her big pot(it sits right beside my set in the kitchen ), never eaten her food, never did any personal anything with her. Yet, there is a cheerful ambiance in the house. Be friendly without being close. If matter becomes too much, bring a girl home from time to time too

I already have one who comes over almost every weekend to stay for a few days.

mhd5757:

I already have one who comes over almost every weekend to stay for a few days.

Why are you skulking around the house like houseboy like you didn't also pay for the accommodation?

Free yourself bro. Chat with the guy's babe like nothing dey happen.

If your housemate doesn't want his girlfriend relating with you he has several options.

He can go get another place for her or ask her to use burka, the black cloth moslem women in purdah wear.

Not your problem.

Excuse me man!! permit me to ask this harmless question. If truly you were maintaining your distance and stopped all communication, how did you know your flatmate was calling and asking her of your whereabout?

Richy4:
Excuse me man!! permit me to ask this harmless question. If truly you were maintaining your distance and stopped all communication, how did you know your flatmate was calling and asking her of your whereabout?

It's a small apartment, our rooms are close to each other and during the day its very quiet because non of us play movies or music during the day time so when the person in the next room talks in a high tone you can easily hear, so when she was talking I heard her say my name a few times, she said: "he's in his bedroom"
"I don't know what he's doing"
"Why are you suspicious?".
Ps she also left the door to their room open so it became even easier for me to hear what she was saying while i was working on my school project.

Guy! Free yourself jare.

Talk to both of them, your flat mate and his girlfriend. And let him know there and then, you don't have feelings for her but you just see her as a friend. So he should calm down on his suspicious attitude. Cause u don't have time to start feeling awkward at home, like you are walking on eggs of shells.
Then crack one or two jokes, and tell your guy to loosen up. Life no hard reach that level.
If after the round table talks and he is still behaving childishly, that's his problem. abeg free your mind and yourself in that house.