Greetings to my people of nairalanders, I met my wife around 2015 and we dated for almost a year and attended all the necessary church and family teachings.

She told me she was a single mother, and all the men that dated her before I came to her left her because of that,I promise I won't leave her for having a baby outside wedlock.

The relationship keep on growing and I told her about my AS genotype and I made it clear to her that nothing will make me marry AS lady because of sickle cell children palavar. she told me that she is genotype AA. We continue our relationship did introduction and fixed our wedding date, now a month and two weeks to our wedding we went for mandatory test in our church clinic behold she failed the genotype test it was AS, right there I told her I no dey do again, she rejected the result and claimed vehemently that she is AA. second day we did confirmatory test it was still the same thing.

Her parents called me and told me both of them were AA and there is no way their daughter can be AS gene. they later brought some previous test (fake) of her AA stuff. I was bullied by every one around to go ahead since it was just few weeks to the wedding that it was manipulations, though my spirit was not willing again but I was compelled by all to go ahead that the thing has change back to AA she also said so that it has changed back to original AA. We go ahead and marry sha. She took in immediately after nine month she gave birth to a baby boy which I named Ikechukwu though we are both Yoruba's but I love Igbo people so much because I grew up with many of them. After some months after birth, Ikechukwu begin some strange sickness we begin to take the boy in and outside hospitals, spending the little income I was getting I decided to do Genotype test for d boy my wife resist it but I went ahead behold it was SS(sickle cell)

immediately I show her the result she went on her knees begging me, I called her father and informed him about it he invites me to his place and he too was begging me that he was also AS and not AA as he claimed before; now every is begging me again that I should not break my marriage that is based on deception, I have done everything that will make her leave my house except violent she refused to go. Every one is bullying me and begging me again, now non of them have supported me in any way for the boy expensive treatment.

IK is now a year old, am not willing to have another child with her again, please my people what should I do , and what's the best way to make her leave my house for at leat 2 to 3 years? please advice your brother and son, thanks and sorry for the long epistle God bless you all.

Your wife just wanna use her raggae spoil your blues.
I am not trying to blame you bro, but you caused it all. How could you believe her parent fake medical report? Since 2 different labs had revealed her real genotype, you have no business with her parent again.

I cannot say you should leave your wife now because of your son.

Imagine. Desperation for marriage no good

Terrible

i feel for you

Hmm...
This is deep. I really sympathize with you but I think you are to blame. Two different medical laboratories gave her genotype as AS but you still went ahead. Even if you divorce her look at what your poor son would be going through because you weren't a man. You bowed to deceptive pressure.
It's your cross. Carry it!

for those of you up there op needs your advice not comments, thanks for the understanding.

This is deep

Mrjo:
for those of you up there op needs your advice not comments, thanks for the understanding.

At least you have given him yours.

That marriage is invalid for the single reason that it was built on lies. Let's wait for for the elders




meanwhile, check my profile if you live in Jos and environs

Mheeennn. This deserves frontpage for boys to learn. Lalasticalala, seems this is frontpage worthy. May God help you in every decision you eventually make
All the very best.

Cheap s6. Check my signature.

You decided to ignore the signs
It is not enough to have seen the signs, you should also have capabilities to act on them !!!

Unfortunately the deed has been done already and you can't abandon her and your son now. A stitch in time, they say, saves nine, and there's no need crying over split milk.

I think the decision to pause bearing another child with her suffices. I just pray a miracle occurs and Ikechukwu is completely and permanently healed.

Lies and trust have taken over your family due to your wife .. God is the only master key

You were suppose to........

Pls leave the house for her!

This is a serious issue. Op, you're now a married man and sending your wife away will not be the solution. The mistake you made initially was threatening for AS and your wife decided to play along which is deception on her part. My genotype is AS but before I develop feeling for any lady the first thing to ask is your genotype before I would disclose mine .
secondly, you didn't stand you ground after the mandatory test which would have averted this episode from playing and giving the poor child pains and resource drain on your family.
However, sit your wife down and discuss with her. She will always be part of you and as a Christian, divorce is not seeked lightly.
The next approach to take is to seek for medical counselling from professionals in genotype and get first-hand information on the way forward for the marriage.
Finally, as a man always stand on your opinions once they don't contradict God's commandments.

Too bad

You should have cancelled the wedding plan immediately after the lab results was given to you.

Why is everyone bullying you? You should be a .matured man.

You should not have accepted their results,you go to a good lab and do the test with her and see the result yourself.

It will be hard to continue the marriage except you don't want to have more children.The marriage was built on deceit anyway.

Go and appease your village people

For real?

Marriage built on lies won't stand the test of time.

BigSarah:

how much do you wana sell?

This is a hard one. You went against your good judgment and married the girl. Now you must lie on the bed that you have made. Everything now depends on your innate character. Also know this: Boys who are sickle cell anemic fare better than the females if taken care of properly. You don't really have to spend much, just take him to a pediatric hematologist and register him for continuous care and monitoring, make sure he takes his routine drugs and so on and so forth. Good luck.

This marriage is a fraud. Pure and simple. Anything built on falsehood will surely crumble (just like APC). My guy, you’ve got enough grounds to divorce her. Who knows, perhaps there may even be more things they are hiding from you.

Who knows whether it was even incest that led to the 1st child outside wedlock? My guy, no gamble with your future children lives o! Stone wey person see, no dry blind am.

You should have stopped the marriage when it looks like a chicken but quacks like a duck.

The woman and her parents were deceitful by lying about her genotype. The foundation of the marriage was laid in deceit.
One baggage unlocked, there is probably more.

May God help you.

if you don't want to remain miserable for the rest of your life end this fraud call marriage. taking care of ss kids is not easy .
don't stay because of any stupid love, I know you don't love her , you love an AA woman but you were duped into marrying a fake AS woman.

Ikechukwu Ko! Abeg park well.

Too Bad..May we not fall into Gbege..Too Bad!