A lady i know decided NOT to marry her long time boyfriend because her mum 'didn't like him'.

She later met another guy who her mum believed 'matched' the family's' status & they had a big society wedding thereafter.

6 years later after 2 kids, they are divorced.

Old boyfriend also married to later divorce after 1 kid.

Now, they are back together again & are engaged getting ready to marry

Why would u let your parent(s) decide who u marry?

parents influence on their children's choice of spouse has ruined many people's chance of real happiness,

Marriage is hard enuff when u r in it with the right person talk less of with the wrong person,

Its only weak pple who let their folks run their lives.

Sometimes, in cases like this, Parents could be right.

^^^^How

Sometimes a word from the wise and old is good. But they would have to give me a very strong reason why I shouldnt.

never
my fate is well n truely in my hands n my hands alone

vivaladiva:

never
my fate is well n truely in my hands n my hands alone

Shut up! Parents also need to play their role

Acidosis:

Shut up! Parents also need to play their role

are parents messi or christiana ronaldo to be looking for role to play, let them give coach *kid* the chance to decide role for them

acidosis or is it halitosis
i gave a simple ans to a simple question, wats ur fc-uking prob retard
listen bruv i own my life, i rule my life, i make my own decissions
i dont let other peoples subjective bias opinions play a part in my decisions and that includes my parents
when i make a mistake, i alone take the blame
when i succed, i alone take the glory
i would like to say that i give a shit cos my parents dont like my husband to be, but frankly i dont
ever heard that doc albans song----its my life

if u want ur parents to choose ur wife to be, thats ur own bloooody business

vivaladiva:

acidosis or is it halitosis
i gave a simple ans to a simple question, wats your fc-uking prob retard
listen bruv i own my life, i rule my life, i make my own decissions
i dont let other peoples subjective bias opinions play a part in my decisions and that includes my parents
when i make a mistake, i alone take the blamewhen i succed, i alone take the glory
i would like to say that i give a poo cos my parents dont like my husband to be, but frankly i dont
ever heard that doc albans song----its my lifeif u want your parents to choose your wife to be, thats your own bloooody business

Totally agree with you.

r231:

^^^^How

Sometimes, what we see as nonsense turns out to be a blessing for us.
Certain wisdom comes with age . . . .No matter how enlightened or intelligent You think You are, unless You attain that particular age, You cannot understand what that elder is talking about. Nollywood made it simpler - ''What an elder sees sitting, a child would not see, even if he stood on the tallest tree''.

If Your parents say NO . . . .regardless of how dumb You think their excuse is, just don't throw it in the air immediately, cerebrate on it severely and maybe, just maybe You will find sense in that seeming nonsense.

^^^^
Ain't u going to find out if the reason for saying NO is valid before going along with them?
Remember the OP said the parents said NO initially cos of social stance ignoring the fact that marriage is about compatibility between the 2 people that matters.

Missy B:

Sometimes, what we see as nonsense turns out to be a blessing for us.
Certain wisdom comes with age . . . .No matter how enlightened or intelligent You think You are, unless You attain that particular age, You cannot understand what that elder is talking about. Nollywood made it simpler - ''What an elder sees sitting, a child would not see, even if he stood on the tallest tree''.

If Your parents say NO . . . .regardless of how dumb You think their excuse is, just don't throw it in the air immediately, cerebrate on it severely and maybe, just maybe You will find sense in that seeming nonsense.

hmmmmm

lets assume it dosen't have anything to do with their so called family status. . .

so are you saying that Parents Know your Partner/Boyfriend/Girlfriend more than YOU?

First of all, I was expecting a Hello kiss. Weh am?  

jay bee:

^^^^
Ain't u going to find out if the reason for saying NO is valid before going along with them?

Missy B:

If Your parents say NO . . . .regardless of how dumb You think their excuse is, just don't throw it in the air immediately, cerebrate on it severely and maybe, just maybe You will find sense in that seeming nonsense.

jay bee:

Remember the OP said the parents said NO initially cos of social stance ignoring the fact that marriage is about compatibility between the 2 people that matters.

The parents might have been wrong,  but it can still be seen as a blessing.
There's no denying the fact that both parties have gained more experience in managing a home. Certain mistakes that would have made, if they had gotten married earlier would be avoided now, as they've learnt better, empirically.
Am I even making sense, this morning?    

r231:

hmmmmm

lets assume it dosen't have anything to do with their so called family status. . .

so are you saying that Parents Know your Partner/Boyfriend/Girlfriend more than YOU?

I'm saying that - When people are against what You want, when they say 'No' to Your 'Yes', it doesn't necessarily mean they are wrong or are against Your happiness.
Sometimes, they are right . . . .Regardless of how wrong You want them to be.

hahahhahaha pardon me bad manners hun
Parents can't use experience of managing a home to judge an unknown environment in this case.
We all know and agree that some Nigerian parents say NO due to ridiculous reasons like tribal & social differences.

I actually think that is a cute story. A simple case of what is meant to be will be.
Their parents had no reason to meddle in their choices. I wonder what they have to say now

i agree wt u on the unknown environs jaybee ,in as much as i wouldnt av considered marriage wtout my parents consent,i still say i know this man  more,im d one that has been wt him during courtship,im d one dat knows and av accepted his faults,im d one dat has settled issues with him, i knw him physically,mentally,emotionally and can clearly say ''I KNOW HIM BETTER''

vivaladiva:

acidosis or is it halitosis
i gave a simple ans to a simple question, wats your fc-uking prob retard
listen bruv i own my life, i rule my life, i make my own decissions
i dont let other peoples subjective bias opinions play a part in my decisions and that includes my parents
when i make a mistake, i alone take the blame
when i succed, i alone take the glory
i would like to say that i give a poo cos my parents dont like my husband to be, but frankly i dont
ever heard that doc albans song----its my life

if u want your parents to choose your wife to be, thats your own bloooody business

All THESE for me? Well I'm so sorry dear, now give me a smile_lol.
Sincerely, I succumb to your idea! But matters as regards your husband to be, I'll suggest you give it a second thought.
Cheers!!!

This is sad, I can't even see it as a "happy ending". If the parents of the lady weren't so narrow minded this would have been a happier story. As it is there are damaged people all around - except the parents.

I wonder why the mother now sees this man as acceptable for her daughter to marry?