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We are all subject to temptation - it is simply how we deal with it that matters.

Sometimes we have the power to ignore it and therefore we do not succumb.

At other times we fall victim to it, and then it is just a matter of what we do next:

1. We have to accept that we are not perfect, that sometimes we slip up and that our partner does not need to know because the infidelity was basically a dalliance - if we do this, then we have to allow our partner the same mishap. It is best to say nothing.

If we say something, if we mention the 'meaningless infidelity' then we simply dump our guilt onto our partner - which is not fair.

All relationships involve these types of problems - it is best to let the mistake glide by and make sure to make an effort to be attentive and loving to our partner in the future.

2. If the infidelity is an ongoing affair, we have to deal with the issue at hand - our own relationship:

Is it that we no longer love and respect our partner?

Or is it that we are just not sexually satisfied anymore?

Option A: If we no longer love or respect our partner, then we have to consider moving on -

However, if we have children then we have to consider allowing the infidelity to continue without effecting the stable home we are providing for the kids - but this requires forthright and honest communication, and two partners that are strong enough to handle the truth, that the sex life no longer exists but the home is all important for all parties involved. Now, each partner has the ability to stray.

Option B: If we are just no longer sexually satisfied by our partner then it is time to put some effort back into the relationship -

The effort that goes into having an affair should be put back into the important relationship we have with our partner; it is time to communicate the issues and try to re-kindle what has been lost (after all, there was a time when sex was good - and if it wasn't, then option A should have been enacted long ago).

Sexual satisfaction is made up of two things - variation with consistency and the ability to be open-minded - without this combination, sex will become mundane and monotonous, and monogamy will be unlikely at best.

In order to prevent infidelity in your relationship, step up to the plate, communicate, 'sexercise' more often and be realistic