sophianah:

As far as I am concerned, cooking and domestic chores are the main duties of the wife, the husband provides finance for the family, the husband can assist the wife if there exist a dire need for the assistance, if not, the husband is not supposed to be seen in the kitchen cooking

sophianah:

As far as I am concerned, cooking and domestic chores are the main duties of the wife, the husband provides finance for the family, the husband can assist the wife if there exist a dire need for the assistance, if not, the husband is not supposed to be seen in the kitchen cooking

Spyker:

Chei, see correct woman for Nairaland. Thank you for this comment, Nwa yi Oma.

@Poster, dump that lazy girl before you begin wash pant. Afterall, you don dey cook already. Wetin come remain (Chestfeed the baby?)

neily:

The cooking and other house works are the woman's responsibility. It does not mean that the husband should not help, if he can. My advise to u is to tell her mother or anybody she listens to, so that the person can help u talk to her. Don't make it look as if u re reporting her.

brutal:

Don't u reason!quit d relationship,cos she will not make u happy. .which part of d world u dey sef?

How did you get to this stage? The stage of going towards marriage after some years of relationship and just trying to work this out?
What kind of relationships do you people do?

vescucci:

Personally there is a problem with the words husband and wife. It connotes a role. I don't very much like the term partner for it makes it seem like a contract that can be ratified any time but it is still the best term in my opinion. Maybe life partner.

My point is that we've conditioned our thinking that a man must be the bread winner and must earn more than the wife and when he achieves this, it is alright for him to get all high and mighty and demand for food like a king and demand for his laundry to be done etc. Also women who complain that a man treats them badly won't marry the one they love but the one they feel can take care of them at the expense of their dignity. I don't wanna ramble too much but love is the paramount ingredient in a marriage. With that anything can be worked out. No one is inferior to the other. It doesn't make you less man to cook for your wife but it shouldn't be your duty. Nothing should be a duty in a marriage.

hanzi:

I and my girlfriend has been into relationship for some years and it is heading towards marriage. But the problem is who do the cooking and the housework?

To her she believes that a caring man always cook for his woman. When I say “always", I don't mean three times a week, I mean everyday i.e wake up in the morning and prepare breakfast for her and the children and also do some of the house work.At evening you should rush back to cook the dinner because the wife and children need to eat. The truth is, it is the way she was raised to understand. She is really a nice girl but I will be sincere with myself. I can't see myself doing housework at alone at the cookings.

As a man, I see it as bring myself so low. I need advice on how to make her understand this.

Acidosis:

Honestly, I'm hearing this for the first time. Are you a Nigerian? If yes, then your ancestors will never forgive you, if you marry her with that silly principle

hatch#:

^^Make you leave this MUGU abi na MAGA sef !
Didn't she also tell you that when you guys marry,you will also help her carry the pregancies on her behalf !

Spyker:

Chei, see correct woman for Nairaland. Thank you for this comment, Nwa yi Oma.

@Poster, dump that lazy girl before you begin wash pant. Afterall, you don dey cook already. Wetin come remain (Chestfeed the baby?)

hanzi:

I and my girlfriend has been into relationship for some years and it is heading towards marriage. But the problem is who do the cooking and the housework? [/b ]To her she believes that a caring man always cook for his woman. When I say “[b]always", I don't mean three times a week, I mean everyday i.e wake up in the morning and prepare breakfast for her and the children and also do some of the house work.At evening you should rush back to cook the dinner because the wife and children need to eat. The truth is, it is the way she was raised to understand. She is really a nice girl but I will be sincere with myself. I can't see myself doing housework at alone at the cookings.

As a man, I see it as bring myself so low. I need advice on how to make her understand this.