An American Attorney has called off her engagement after her fiance made a ''frightening'' remark that got her thinking.

According to her, her lover who earns more than she does and is successful in his own right, told her he was intimidated by her.

Read her story below;
"So last week, out of the blue, the man who asked me to marry him remarked as follows:

“sometimes I wish you were just a teacher or a nurse because you wouldn’t think so much, it’s intimidating”

And trust me when I say I am horrified to actually put out into the universe the fact that those words were even uttered.

I’ve just been over here bee boppin along thinking all is great and loving life. Then that bombshell is dropped and I’m left questioning everything—including the fact that I’ve just MOVED IN with this man a month earlier.

Along with the teacher/ nurse comment he proclaims that he’s depressed because he feels like less of a man around me.

Again, I am f*ing
dumbfounded and blindsided by this confession.

My heart wasn’t broken—it was shredded. But I knew what I needed to do. He went out of town and in 36 hours I was packed and completely moved out.

Thank god I was able to move back into my house otherwise it would have all just been too much. It’s still pretty fucking crushing. I’m sad and grieving the loss of what I thought we had (*thought* being the operative word). But I also feel surprisingly relieved.

It makes no logical sense to me: he makes more money, has *considerable* more assets, and is well respected and accomplished in his field.

I have my faults. I spend too much on handbags and shoes and can’t even point out to you on a map where Idaho is...but you’re intimidated?

And let me make one thing absolutely crystal clear: I am *humiliated* to admit all of this. I’d much rather pretend it never happened and just quietly move along. But it happened. And to a certain extent is still happening because your heart takes a minute to heal.

I have no desire to say horrible things about him because that’s only an indictment of myself. I was with him. I just didn’t pick up on *any* of this. It never even occurred to me that being moderately informed was intimidating.

So. That’s where I am at the moment and I truly wasn’t even going to say a damn word about it. Coming home to an empty house is awful and nights are always the worst. But Netflix. Wine. Online shopping. And losing the 15lbs I gained will get me through.

I won’t lie: for about 24 hours I debated staying. It just seemed....easier. Maybe this is as good as it gets—maybe my expectations are too high—maybe I stay and lean on my friends and colleagues to fill in where he lacks. I *hate* admitting these thoughts but it’s true.

But the only thing worse than being lonely is being lonely in a relationship. As much as it hurt to leave, staying would be so much more painful.

I want it all. And I think I can have it all. Maybe not all at the same time—but I’m okay with that. I’ll enjoy each and every little bit and look forward to what’s yet to come."

https://www.torimill.co/viral/9709/lady-calls-off-her-engagement-after-her-fiance-told-her-she-is-intimidating.html

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The two them are mad!

The guy is still contemplating I guess!

Nobody wants an over sabi,for a wife,d sh!t can be so sophocating damn,those species love arguing n can never admit that they are ever wrong.... SMH...

He was absolutely right and the lady proved him right by calling it off based on just that, instead of having a dialogue. She's not only intimidating, she's complicated. The guy is lucky, he was blind, thank God he could see before its too late. Many women contribute trouble in a relnshp than joy.

Feminist! She’s yet to open up

Why don't I see her problem, I'd take it as a compliment that such a man finds me so intimidating. Is it my stupidity that I don't know what intimidating mean?

“A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.”

Good for both parties: and a lesson to everyone in a toxic relationship.

weak men everywhere, see them supporting the man....how can u say a woman is intimidating you? men of this generation are weak and sissy, that's why they feel the need to entice a girl with money, gifts, before she can accept them, not knowing a girl need your confidence, assurances, honesty and a little petting and protection here and there. nothing sexier Dan having an independent and strong girl as a gf/wife. that feeling dats she can Takia of herself is so good u have peace of mind. man the fork up...and stop acting weak, if a girl doesn't wanna date u cos she feels she's above ur standard, move on. but never allow a woman intimidate u. never ever allow dat.

You left cause of that?? Smh

Only a weakling will be intimidated by a successful woman

DaddyNimo:
weak men everywhere, see them supporting the man....how can u say a woman is intimidating you? men of this generation are weak and sissy, that's why they feel the need to entice a girl with money, gifts, before she can accept them, not knowing a girl need your confidence, assurances, honesty and a little petting and protection here and there. nothing sexier Dan having an independent and strong girl as a gf/wife. that feeling dats she can Takia of herself is so good u have peace of mind. man the fork up...and stop acting weak, if a girl doesn't wanna date u cos she feels she's above ur standard, move on. but never allow a woman intimidate u. never ever allow dat.

You're naively idiotic and amazingly ignorant. I pity your blood pressure in a few years time.

For your mind now, you be strong man weh know women. Not all men like madness and no man is stronger than a woman when it comes to making trouble. Its in d hand of d woman to bring herself lower. And if she refuses, it is wisest to run...she can't be forced. Marriage is not a dating game. When you see a man win an argument or knotty issues with a woman, its d woman u shd praise..she's reasonable

Perhaps you need more experience on d dark sides of women

Oluromantic:

You're naively idiotic and amazingly ignorant. I pity your blood pressure in a few years time.

For your mind now, you be strong man weh know women. Not all men like madness and no man is stronger than a woman when it comes to making trouble. Its in d hand of d woman to bring herself lower. And if she refuses, it is wisest to run...she can't be forced. Marriage is not a dating game. When you see a man win an argument or knotty issues with a woman, its d woman u shd praise..she's reasonable

Perhaps you need more experience on d dark sides of women

Mr Man the moment ure scared of your woman been more successful in life than u as a man, ure weak. it has nothing to do with arrogance or female attitude. you're a low self-esteem bamboo if ure scared of your woman's success or if her successes intimidates you. end of story.
I don't also expect u to understand, niggers like u like going for secondary school kids or university gals whom u tend to impress with sweets and biscuit and dominate. you need a real woman....stop been a boy.

DaddyNimo:

Mr Man the moment ure scared of your woman been more successful in life than u as a man, ure weak. it has nothing to do with arrogance or female attitude. you're a low self-esteem bamboo if ure scared of your woman's success or if her successes intimidates you. end of story.
I don't also expect u to understand, niggers like u like going for secondary school kids or university gals whom u tend to impress with sweets and biscuit and dominate. you need a real woman....stop been a boy.

Boy go back and re-read and point out in quote where I talked about a wife being successful than d husband. You're just shifting topic inconsistently... And ure claiming maturity.

The fact that many ppl don't like what you like dies not make them weak or low self esteemed. Not all ppl like the madness u like.. Its there in my post.

And she confirmed it by proving to the whole world how awfully intimidating she is.

Wise choice. It spells a turbulent future based on VERY core differences.

I don't understand guys who don't want a thinking partner.

Different strokes for different folks.


The first (and only) time my boyfriend told me he felt intimidated by me, I was actually ashamed of myself.

And here's someone announcing it to d world and even backing it up with an intimidating action.

babtoundey:
And she confirmed it by proving to the whole world how awfully intimidating she is.

Well she struggled, but ended up having the good sense to share wisdom with other girls in the same situation.

I support her decision.

Let's be honest, there are too many dumb women in the world already. We don't need to make the few that have brain stupid as well.
Most are that way because They are being popularly encouraged/trained to be that way by men like her fiance (to the detriment of men who prefer active intelligent partners).

To the reverse, it's akin to girls popularly encouraging/training young men to be thugs/bad guys in order to get love...to the detriment of women who would prefer their men not be that way.

Oluromantic:

Boy go back and re-read and point out in quote where I talked about a wife being successful than d husband. You're just shifting topic inconsistently... And ure claiming maturity.

The fact that many ppl don't like what you like dies not make them weak or low self esteemed. Not all ppl like the madness u like.. Its there in my post.

glad u now see you're the idiot for not understanding the original post before jumping and cumming all over my comment. stupid fellow.

DaddyNimo:

glad u now see you're the idiot for not understanding the original post before jumping and cumming all over my comment. stupid fellow.

Lol see d abusive man that's strong enough for women. You get long way to go o.

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Oluromantic:

Lol see d abusive man that's strong enough for women. You get long way to go o.

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oh now I'm abusive? but na u start the abuse na, u no get sense I swear, chai women go dey use u do mugu wella weak boy

DaddyNimo:

oh now I'm abusive? but na u start the abuse na, u no get sense I swear, chai women go dey use u do mugu wella weak boy

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