Well, long story short. I ve been dating my girlfriend from a couple of years now. We met and clicked as we re from same place and other mutual characteristics. When we met, we didn't start dating immediately, and I had this close friend (call him Samuel) whom we do talk very often and I used to tell him about my personal life and situation with her.

Well, at some point, after nysc my GF starts living with her cousin who is a friend to Samuel. Time went past and we were all cool. I started dating this girl, things escalated and we got real close like a couple. Samuel being my guy, I would tell him about some things and all. Anyway fast-forward to some months back, they both start talking off social media and into private chats. My gf tells me they talk and at some point, I requested to see the chat. where I saw Samuel starting out flirty, but then, my gf takaking it into friend mode(you dig) and they continueing on that level.
However, the level of communication continues to become too much or rather too often. I didnt say anything about it tho, but I was disappointed because throughout when Samuel started talking to my gf, he stoped calling me, unless it was very very important and when we saw, he didnt show courtesy of telling me.

Well... Fast-forward to a day me nd my gf had a big quarell. She was with me on that day, when I requested for us to talk, she said she was busy, until I saw her chatting and smiling with Samuel on her phone. I got mad at it, then we had a talk (about our original fight) which denigrated into a bigger argument, where I said things which led her to start crying. Guess what guys, she then called Samuel right in my presense to tell him of what I did.

I got so mad at what she did, really mad, but we settled it eventually. I told her to reduce contacts with the guy to a very basic level cos I don't believe my close friend and my gf can also be close friends. Otherwise and infact, the guy ceases to be my friend. I told her him being inside things makes him too powerful and it should stop. Its been months since that and I found she is still talking to him. She says its casual friendly convo and there is sometimes good nice jokes about or talk about me, but I trust her to an extent (believe me she is quite loyal) But sometimes we guys know how this happens and this my guy hasn't also spoken to me about this and we ve both pretended to ignore this conversation everytime something important comes up. Its caused another quarell again. Infact in the quarell, she said things like "what Samuel said of me is true, that I like to overanalyze little things" This got me really mad. We ve settled it, but deep down I am still angry at what happened. So what are your thoughts on this guys?

Write in English.

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Update...
I confronted the guy and told him to back off and stay away. He tried to lie, but simply let him know I know everything nd he fcked up. He called my babe nd spoke with her after which she told me she was apologising on my behalf nd he blocked/unfollowed her. I was mad nd told her she should never try that again. She caused it and should never interfer. She spoke to couple of her friends who made her realize how shes been behaving(cos there is a lot more to the story than I could put there) and she tried to apologise. However, in my head now, I ve already resolved that I will never bother myself if such happens again. I will simply move on quietly with no explanations.

Pls don't just read and go. Your advice is needed here

Bro, take this to the bank...
LEAVE THAT GIRL, LEAVE SAMUEL! Don't be around people that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Walk away bro.
Even the Holy book in Isaiah 4 vs 1, places emphasis on the fact that there are 7girls to 1man on earth.

We need Samuel's (Judas)address, so we can send Miyetti Allah to visit him first before we talk about you and you gf.



You'll thank me later for this

Since Samuel na ur guy, confront am nah.

Ask if he's into ur gf and what exactly he needs from her.

BrownCarton:
Pls don't just read and go. Your advice is needed here

You should trust your girl and forget Samuel as a threat. If you can't trust your girl, what are you in the relationship for? How long do you think you can continue to fight her for being friendly with Samuel? Even if this Samuel goes, another Samuel will take his place. Trust your girl to not do what you wouldn't do and if you can't trust her, break up

Eden007:
Bro, take this to the bank...
LEAVE THAT GIRL, LEAVE SAMUEL! Don't be around people that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Walk away bro.
Even the Holy book in Isaiah 4 vs 1, places emphasis on the fact that there are 7girls to 1man on earth.

OP, this guy said it all. I have been there before. I left them for each other. Later they came separately to beg cause they realized life was useless without me, or rather I was their fuel to fire their silly "friendship".

Life is short. Anyone that makes you feel bad or less than your self, just leave them alone and move on to better things. There are so many other nice Nigerian girls out there. Don't die on top someone that doesn't value you or realize what she is doing is hurting you.

As for the guy, I know their type. Just ignore him totally. The fellow is vane and empty. You don't need such energy around you.

only fake girls be loving when you have.......




Punch line it's only a little while till she dumps your sorry as. Am very sure she is banging Samuel. That's how it will begin..... flirt...... sex.... then leave you!



unfortunately Samuel used your weak point you've been chitty chatting him with used it against you.

Dispose Samuel and she from your life now!

eph12:

You should trust your girl and forget Samuel as a threat. If you can't trust your girl, what are you in the relationship for? How long do you think you can continue to fight her for being friendly with Samuel? Even if this Samuel goes, another Samuel will take his place. Trust your girl to not do what you wouldn't do and if you can't trust her, break up

No bro. Its not about not trusting her, which I do to a reasonable extent. Infact, she does have many friends who she talks to and I have no complaints about that. I am only particular about the guy being my close guy who I have shared personal things about my relationship and my feelings about the girl to.

BrownCarton:

No bro. Its not about not trusting her,ahich I do to a reasonable extent. Infact, she does have many friends who she talks to and I have no complaints about that. I am only particular about the guy being my close guy who I have shared personal things about my relationship and my feelings about the girl to

You're bothered he's going to take her away from you?

Get a life
Get money
And most of all get sense

Samuel will soon if he hasn't started fuvcckking
On your hoeeee

eph12:

You're bothered he's going to take her away from you?

Not exactly. I find the attitude of him being that of a snake and I m not comfortable with it. I normally never fight for any girl, so tomorrow, if some random guy takes her away... fine.... but having to see someone I confide in talking too close to my girl is something I really hate

carzola:
Get a life
Get money
And most of all get sense

Samuel will soon if he hasn't started fuvcckking
On your hoeeee

Money is not my problem bro, but I get your point. Trying to put more focus on my hustle. Thats the only way I know

BrownCarton:

Not exactly. I find the attitude of him being that of a snake and I m not comfortable with it. I normally never fight for any girl, so tomorrow, if some random guy takes her away... fine.... but having to see someone I confide in talking too close to my girl is something I really hate

Forget about the Samuel or you bring up the issue with him. Man up and face him if it's eating you up. I didn't say you should go and fight for one babe because if you follow there go the great beyond, your babe will continue her life.

Or you can just ignore the guy and move on with your life. Make new friends, especially females, that's if you don't mind losing this relationship. She has refused to stop being too chatty with Samuel, so get someone to chat with and make you smile.

BrownCarton:

Money is not my problem bro, but I get your point. Trying to put more focus on my hustle. Thats the only way I know

but when money enter love is sweeter so how can you have money and still bring your problems to NL

@Browncarton.. why are you tactically ignoring the advice of leaving the girl and samuel Be wise bro. That is the best thing here. Samuel is not your friend and you dont need such people in your life. Cheers.

You're playing into his hands, can't you see? The Samuel guy, this is exactly what he wants. First he gets overly close to your girl, stealing some of her attention, then he gets into your head. All of a sudden he's all you both keep talking about when you're together.
But it's normal though, it's part of the challenges that comes with dating a girl every guy wish they had. So in in a way it's a good thing, it helps keep you on your toes.

Now if you were my kind of person, this is the best time to actually "own" that chick in every sense of the word. Get more territorial, enough of playing Nice Guy, be more possessive or you gon loose that chick. Lucky enough you're still capable of hurting her enough to make her cry and that's always a good thing.
And hey, find time and hang out with Samuel. Gauge his countenance towards you, if he's giving off them bad vibes then you now know where to place him.

One final thing, whatever problems you might be currently having with your girl, try your best not to make it about him. Focus on her. Focus on her. Each time you make it about him, he wins.

Nawa ooo Samuel vs amaka disappoint me..

See bros stop telling guys your relationship stories. Especially, if his not your childhood friend. I prefer telling my childhood pal my relationship than any casual guy I barely know for 6 years.

Am not saying your childhood friend wouldn't disappoint you he might cause his human like me.. Just that he wouldn't want to cause a fight between us and he understand me well...

Lemme tell you my own tori.. Have got this guy we school together a friend.. I tell him all my relationship matters including, flirt, disappointment and so on.
This guy has a twin brother actually identical. His twino warned me that his bro [ My friend] can't be trusted. Imagine something like this coming out from his brother mouth. I kinda ignore him cause we aren't that close like his twin..

So I because observant.. I went to this my twin friend house and saw his lodge mate [ Babe] me started flirting with her until... Blah blah blah.. I told this guy.. Baba started telling me She's a bitvh this and this... he can't do this to her cause she aren't hiis type... One day he came and told me that this gal can't say no. I asked how did he know. cause me don't know. he refuse telling me... Me became suspicious and remember his twin advice ..

Another day I woe a gal lemme call her [ Diana] as my padi na i told him almost everything.. my love for this gal, the way she forming for me and how she refuse saying yes to me.. In fact told him every thing.


Anytime e ask for my phone I will give him.. But if I ask for his he wouldn't.. I just lock up.

Since I was suspecting him I started telling his twin about his weird attitude.. His brother told me I shouldn't be surprise if I see Diana number on his phone..

I was shocked I said "Na lie" So one day someone called him outside something just moved me to check his phone... behold this guy has been chatting with her ooo on WhatsApp.. Chei. I immediately became angry I almost fought him... I just asked my self why fight over a gal.. I dey caze When gals plenty..

So I acted mature and left him and went home.
I didn't talk to him for a week..


I told my sure niggas see wetin [ John] do me ooo.. They were shocked cause he has this innocent face... They remind me of Diana weird attitude and her refusing to be my girl.. They told me he might be behind her backing off.


As a mature guy I asked him why he betrayed me . He said he got her number from a WhatsApp group. I just laffed it off.


Now we friends back but I take caution around him.. Don't tell him my paros like that... I prefer talking to his twin cause that one is more mature orally...

So bros be smart and don't trust women.... Just be like Bruce Wayne.

2: You can still be friend with that guy... Just don't tell him your personal stuff again

3: As for amaka disappoint me... Stop acting like love is the only way out..Remove everything about loving her from your head. Treat her like street gal do it with less respect.

She never respect or love you..

4:

BrownCarton:
Well, long story short. I ve been dating my girlfriend from a couple of years now. We met and clicked as we re from same place and other mutual characteristics. When we met, we didn't start dating immediately, and I had this close friend (call him Samuel) whom we do talk very often and I used to tell him about my personal life and situation with her.

Well, at some point, after nysc my GF starts living with her cousin who is a friend to Samuel. Time went past and we were all cool. I started dating this girl, things escalated and we got real close like a couple. Samuel being my guy, I would tell him about some things and all. Anyway fast-forward to some months back, they both start talking off social media and into private chats. My gf tells me they talk and at some point, I requested to see the chat. where I saw Samuel starting out flirty, but then, my gf takaking it into friend mode(you dig) and they continueing on that level.
However, the level of communication continues to become too much or rather too often. I didnt say anything about it tho, but I was disappointed because throughout when Samuel started talking to my gf, he stoped calling me, unless it was very very important and when we saw, he didnt show courtesy of telling me.

Well... Fast-forward to a day me nd my gf had a big quarell. She was with me on that day, when I requested for us to talk, she said she was busy, until I saw her chatting and smiling with Samuel on her phone. I got mad at it, then we had a talk (about our original fight) which denigrated into a bigger argument, where I said things which led her to start crying. Guess what guys, she then called Samuel right in my presense to tell him of what I did.

I got so mad at what she did, really mad, but we settled it eventually. I told her to reduce contacts with the guy to a very basic level cos I don't believe my close friend and my gf can also be close friends. Otherwise and infact, the guy ceases to be my friend. I told her him being inside things makes him too powerful and it should stop. Its been months since that and I found she is still talking to him. She says its casual friendly convo and there is sometimes good nice jokes about or talk about me, but I trust her to an extent (believe me she is quite loyal) But sometimes we guys know how this happens and this my guy hasn't also spoken to me about this and we ve both pretended to ignore this conversation everytime something important comes up. Its caused another quarell again. Infact in the quarell, she said things like "what Samuel said of me is true, that I like to overanalyze little things" This got me really mad. We ve settled it, but deep down I am still angry at what happened. So what are your thoughts on this guys?

Call Samuel or better yet, meet him face to face, talk with him, ask him to show you respect and quit destabilizing your relationship... Watch how even unfold

eph12:

You should trust your girl and forget Samuel as a threat. If you can't trust your girl, what are you in the relationship for? How long do you think you can continue to fight her for being friendly with Samuel? Even if this Samuel goes, another Samuel will take his place. Trust your girl to not do what you wouldn't do and if you can't trust her, break up

trust wetin.... I refuse that option

Girls don't just shower attention on people for attention's sake. It is time to move on. The population of the worlɗ has not reduced. You deserve someone ɓetter who understands ƴour love language.

it's either u talk to ur frds and hope things get better or u forget about both of dem,they will both cause u pain if u don't make a decision.

Eden007:
@Browncarton.. why are you tactically ignoring the advice of leaving the girl and samuel Be wise bro. That is the best thing here. Samuel is not your friend and you dont need such people in your life. Cheers.

i am not ignoring it bro. Since I found them chatting, I stopped talking to him. I no longer consider him as my close friend. Its just the girl's issue. What i ve learnt is that girls have a way to emotionallly get around things. I can always spot it from a distance. I ve tried talking to her, but she says its casual conversation and she will stop, only to keep on. Well, I told her that if it continues I ll just move on

girls are like a blank paper, when starting a relationship you have to draw a line on certain things. if not you don't expect their Brain to function well. from day one you should have set it straight. my girl don't get uncessaryly close to my friends or male relatives. relationship should have boundaries once they are crossed loyalty is broken. If you can't Build up a girl to ur taste ,lf she doesn't listen to ur heart felt then shez obviously not worth it is vice Visa.

Frankicent:


trust wetin.... I refuse that option

Why you in the relationship if you can't trust her?

Samuel should b calling u all d time..... Samuel na gay?alaye if u trust d babe free am she can't do shit...Just make sure u leave ur mark on her..simple

BrownCarton:
Pls don't just read and go. Your advice is needed here

go to wetclef and post it,u will get a professional answer there.

BrownCarton:
Well, long story short. I ve been dating my girlfriend from a couple of years now. We met and clicked as we re from same place and other mutual characteristics. When we met, we didn't start dating immediately, and I had this close friend (call him Samuel) whom we do talk very often and I used to tell him about my personal life and situation with her.

Well, at some point, after nysc my GF starts living with her cousin who is a friend to Samuel. Time went past and we were all cool. I started dating this girl, things escalated and we got real close like a couple. Samuel being my guy, I would tell him about some things and all. Anyway fast-forward to some months back, they both start talking off social media and into private chats. My gf tells me they talk and at some point, I requested to see the chat. where I saw Samuel starting out flirty, but then, my gf takaking it into friend mode(you dig) and they continueing on that level.
However, the level of communication continues to become too much or rather too often. I didnt say anything about it tho, but I was disappointed because throughout when Samuel started talking to my gf, he stoped calling me, unless it was very very important and when we saw, he didnt show courtesy of telling me.

Well... Fast-forward to a day me nd my gf had a big quarell. She was with me on that day, when I requested for us to talk, she said she was busy, until I saw her chatting and smiling with Samuel on her phone. I got mad at it, then we had a talk (about our original fight) which denigrated into a bigger argument, where I said things which led her to start crying. Guess what guys, she then called Samuel right in my presense to tell him of what I did.

I got so mad at what she did, really mad, but we settled it eventually. I told her to reduce contacts with the guy to a very basic level cos I don't believe my close friend and my gf can also be close friends. Otherwise and infact, the guy ceases to be my friend. I told her him being inside things makes him too powerful and it should stop. Its been months since that and I found she is still talking to him. She says its casual friendly convo and there is sometimes good nice jokes about or talk about me, but I trust her to an extent (believe me she is quite loyal) But sometimes we guys know how this happens and this my guy hasn't also spoken to me about this and we ve both pretended to ignore this conversation everytime something important comes up. Its caused another quarell again. Infact in the quarell, she said things like "what Samuel said of me is true, that I like to overanalyze little things" This got me really mad. We ve settled it, but deep down I am still angry at what happened. So what are your thoughts on this guys?

Wait o

And you haven't confronted Samuel about it once? You haven't warned Samuel to stay off

Why r u angry with your girlfriend when your 'best friend' is stabbing you in the back? Abi you dey fear d Samuel?

Bro,trust is very essential in a relationship.don't think of confronting samuel because from what you said,it is very obvious that he wants you get too angry.forget that you knew samuel,don't think of him as your best friend trying to steal your gf.