Domestic violence is narrowly defined as an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in intimate relationship. The term domestic violence often brings to mind the concept of the “battered wife” or perhaps a married couple’s verbal argument escalating into physical assault. Domestic violence is also commonly linked to child abuse. Even if the children are not physically injured, watching or hearing a parent being abused can have severe psychological implications.

Domestic violence is about power and control. Though the term violence has physical connotations, domestic violence or abuse can occur in non-physical ways. For instance, abusers may manipulate their victims through emotional or economic means. Verbal abuse and sexual abuse are other forms. A person of any age, gender, socio-economic class, education level, or religion can be impacted by domestic violence.

Domestic abuse can be viewed in terms of a “cycle of violence.” Tension builds; the victim attempts to keep the abuser mollified; but, eventually, an incident occurs. The abuser apologizes and attempts to make it up to the victim, perhaps by promising it will never occur again or by lavishing the victim with gifts. Then comes a period of calm before the tension begins to build again. The stages of this cycle may take only minutes or may develop over years. Without intervention, the periods of “making up” and “calm” often disappear.
Domestic violence is in stark opposition to God’s plan for families.


Genesis 1 and 2 depict marriage as a one-flesh, helping relationship. Ephesians 5:21 talks about mutual submission. Ephesians 5:22–24 explains a wife’s submissiveness to her husband, while verses 25–33 talk about a husband’s self-sacrificial love for his wife. First Peter 3:1–7 gives similar instructions. First Corinthians 7:4 says, “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” The two belong to one another and are called to love one another as Christ loved us. Marriage is an image of Christ and the Church. Domestic violence is a far cry from the character of Jesus.

Domestic violence involving children is also condemned by God. Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” God entrusts parents with children, and those parents are to lovingly care for them and train them up. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (see also Colossians 3:21). Children are to obey their parents (Ephesians 6:1–3), and discipline is important. But discipline is distinctly different from violence and abuse.
Following God involves serving others, not manipulating and controlling them. Jesus told His disciples, “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:26–28). His command to us is to “love one another” (John 13:34). Ephesians 5:1–2 says, “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Christians are called to sacrificially love others, especially those in their own families.

Those who are currently in a domestic violence situation should do everything possible to get out safely. Often, the most dangerous time for a victim of domestic violence is when she or he leaves. Contacting the police may be in order, or there may be other local resources available to help.

When domestic violence is ongoing, safety is the first step.
Even after victims are physically safe and bodily wounds have healed, emotional and psychological scars run deep. Domestic violence can have severe spiritual implications as well. Victims may distrust God. Why would He allow such a thing to happen? Is He trustworthy? Does He really love me? Where was He when I was being abused? Walking through the healing process takes time. The emotional reaction to the situation must come. It is appropriate to express anger over the abuse. If we do not acknowledge the severity of the situation—the anger, the confusion, the hurt, the shame, etc.—we cannot heal from it. Too often, victims are prematurely hurried into forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiveness is the thing that will set a victim free. But true forgiveness cannot be extended if the scars of the abuse are not first acknowledged and dealt with. Victims of domestic violence will likely need the support of a well-trained Christian counselor to journey with them through the healing process.

We should not assume that abusers have no needs other than to stop abusing. There are likely unresolved issues that have led them to become abusive. If an abuser is willing to admit his or her culpability and desires help, there is hope. Again, Christian counseling can be of great value.

Each domestic violence story is different. The situations and people are so diverse that no one article can sufficiently handle the issue.
However, generally speaking, marriage counseling is not an appropriate solution—at least not until all abuse has stopped, both parties have undergone individual counseling, and both parties desire reconciliation. The same would be true for family therapy. Children should never be put into an abusive situation or be expected to remain in one while an abuser learns godly parenting.

Domestic violence hurts the heart of God. He is not unmoved by its victims, nor has He abandoned them. His plan for human relationships—particularly those among family—is a beautiful depiction of who He is. Family is meant to reflect God’s love. It saddens Him when a home turns into a place of pain. God’s desire for those involved with domestic violence—both victims and abusers—is healing and wholeness.

Culled from: https://www.gotquestions.org/domestic-violence.html

Moral:we should try to desist from every form of violence

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zinnydan:
Moral:we should try to desist from every form of violence

What if Yahweh tells us to carry out violent acts? the bible is filled with such examples

Ephesians 5 & 6-Read

hopefulLandlord:


What if Yahweh tells us to carry out violent acts? the bible is filled with such examples

such examples like?

IhateInjustice:
such examples like?

The Israelites, David, Moses, Samson, Saul, Joshua etc

hopefulLandlord:


The Israelites, David, Moses, Samson, Saul, Joshua etc

Those were the times of war, God sent Christ to bring peace to us


Note: None of them were violent against their own people, partners and children.

IhateInjustice:


Those were the times of war, God sent Christ to bring peace to us


Note: None of them were violent against their own people, patners and children.

"In times of war"? WHAT!!!! can you tell me what the people of Jericho did wrong? what war were they fighting with the Israelites?

about "Children", seems you haven't read the story of Canaanite, Midianite and Jericho infants

Whatever Yahweh commands is right

hopefulLandlord:


"In times of war"? WHAT!!!! can you tell me what the people of Jericho did wrong? what war were they fighting with the Israelites?

about "Children", seems you haven't read the story of Canaanite and Midianite infants

The people of Jericho didn't allow them to pass through their country in order to get to the promised land

I'm talking about Christianity, which came when Jesus Christ sacrificed Himself for our redemption. Christ preached only Love

IhateInjustice:


The people of Jericho didn't allow them to pass through their country in order to get to the promised land

SHOW THE BIBLE VERSE THAT SAID THIS!!!

I'm talking about Christianity, which came when Jesus Christ sacrificed Himself for our redemption. Christ preached only Love

Yahweh doesn't change, he remaineth same forever and ever


If Yahweh tells me to beat my wife, I'd beat her to coma.

hopefulLandlord:



SHOW THE BIBLE VERSE THAT SAID THIS!!!
Yahweh doesn't change, he remaineth same forever and ever


If Yahweh tells me to beat my wife, I'd beat her to coma.

God can never tell you to beat your wife , He said in Genesis 2 that you are one with her.
Just like He can never tell you to hurt yourself.

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Joshua 6: 1
Now Jericho was straitly shut up because of the children of Israel: none went out, and none came in

IhateInjustice:


God can never tell you to beat your wife , He said in Genesis 2 that you are one with her.
Just like He can never tell you to hurt yourself.

Oga, where's the bible verse I asked for?
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hopefulLandlord:



SHOW THE BIBLE VERSE THAT SAID THIS!!!
Yahweh doesn't change, he remaineth same forever and ever


If Yahweh tells me to beat my wife, I'd beat her to coma.

Please dear, this post is to heal. I don't get why you sound bitter, does beating someone to coma sound right to you? Domestic violence can happen to a man too

Joshua 6:25
And Joshua saved Rahab the harlot alive, and her father's household, and all that she had; and she dwelleth in Israel even unto this day; because she hid the messengers, which Joshua sent to spy out Jericho

Luke 4 vs 18
The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised,


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Joshua 6: 1
Now Jericho was straitly shut up because of the children of Israel: none went out, and none came in

hopefulLandlord:


"In times of war"? WHAT!!!! can you tell me what the people of Jericho did wrong? what war were they fighting with the Israelites?

about "Children", seems you haven't read the story of Canaanite, Midianite and Jericho infants

Whatever Yahweh commands is right

guy there is a difference between domestic violence and war.try not to misunderstand d Bible or better still use Google

Domestic violence is wrong.

Unik3030:
guy there is a difference between domestic violence and war.try not to misunderstand d Bible or better still use Google

Violence is Violence but let's go with your point and pretend its valid.

What war were the people of Jericho fighting with the Israelites?

IhateInjustice:
Domestic violence is narrowly defined as an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in intimate relationship. The term domestic violence often brings to mind the concept of the “battered wife” or perhaps a married couple’s verbal argument escalating into physical assault. Domestic violence is also commonly linked to child abuse. Even if the children are not physically injured, watching or hearing a parent being abused can have severe psychological implications.

Domestic violence is about power and control. Though the term violence has physical connotations, domestic violence or abuse can occur in non-physical ways. For instance, abusers may manipulate their victims through emotional or economic means. Verbal abuse and sexual abuse are other forms. A person of any age, gender, socio-economic class, education level, or religion can be impacted by domestic violence.

Domestic abuse can be viewed in terms of a “cycle of violence.” Tension builds; the victim attempts to keep the abuser mollified; but, eventually, an incident occurs. The abuser apologizes and attempts to make it up to the victim, perhaps by promising it will never occur again or by lavishing the victim with gifts. Then comes a period of calm before the tension begins to build again. The stages of this cycle may take only minutes or may develop over years. Without intervention, the periods of “making up” and “calm” often disappear.
Domestic violence is in stark opposition to God’s plan for families.


Genesis 1 and 2 depict marriage as a one-flesh, helping relationship. Ephesians 5:21 talks about mutual submission. Ephesians 5:22–24 explains a wife’s submissiveness to her husband, while verses 25–33 talk about a husband’s self-sacrificial love for his wife. First Peter 3:1–7 gives similar instructions. First Corinthians 7:4 says, “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” The two belong to one another and are called to love one another as Christ loved us. Marriage is an image of Christ and the Church. Domestic violence is a far cry from the character of Jesus.

Domestic violence involving children is also condemned by God. Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” God entrusts parents with children, and those parents are to lovingly care for them and train them up. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (see also Colossians 3:21). Children are to obey their parents (Ephesians 6:1–3), and discipline is important. But discipline is distinctly different from violence and abuse.
Following God involves serving others, not manipulating and controlling them. Jesus told His disciples, “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:26–28). His command to us is to “love one another” (John 13:34). Ephesians 5:1–2 says, “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Christians are called to sacrificially love others, especially those in their own families.

Those who are currently in a domestic violence situation should do everything possible to get out safely. Often, the most dangerous time for a victim of domestic violence is when she or he leaves. Contacting the police may be in order, or there may be other local resources available to help.

When domestic violence is ongoing, safety is the first step.
Even after victims are physically safe and bodily wounds have healed, emotional and psychological scars run deep. Domestic violence can have severe spiritual implications as well. Victims may distrust God. Why would He allow such a thing to happen? Is He trustworthy? Does He really love me? Where was He when I was being abused? Walking through the healing process takes time. The emotional reaction to the situation must come. It is appropriate to express anger over the abuse. If we do not acknowledge the severity of the situation—the anger, the confusion, the hurt, the shame, etc.—we cannot heal from it. Too often, victims are prematurely hurried into forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiveness is the thing that will set a victim free. But true forgiveness cannot be extended if the scars of the abuse are not first acknowledged and dealt with. Victims of domestic violence will likely need the support of a well-trained Christian counselor to journey with them through the healing process.

We should not assume that abusers have no needs other than to stop abusing. There are likely unresolved issues that have led them to become abusive. If an abuser is willing to admit his or her culpability and desires help, there is hope. Again, Christian counseling can be of great value.

Each domestic violence story is different. The situations and people are so diverse that no one article can sufficiently handle the issue.
However, generally speaking, marriage counseling is not an appropriate solution—at least not until all abuse has stopped, both parties have undergone individual counseling, and both parties desire reconciliation. The same would be true for family therapy. Children should never be put into an abusive situation or be expected to remain in one while an abuser learns godly parenting.

Domestic violence hurts the heart of God. He is not unmoved by its victims, nor has He abandoned them. His plan for human relationships—particularly those among family—is a beautiful depiction of who He is. Family is meant to reflect God’s love. It saddens Him when a home turns into a place of pain. God’s desire for those involved with domestic violence—both victims and abusers—is healing and wholeness.

Culled from: https://www.gotquestions.org/domestic-violence.html

You said "battered wife" as if that's not enough you placed only pics of women there.

Are women the only ones suffering from domestic violence? Who told you that women don't carry out domestic violence on their husbands?

IhateInjustice:


Please dear, this post is to heal. I don't get why you sound bitter, does beating someone to coma sound right to you? Domestic violence can happen to a man too

Joshua 6:25
And Joshua saved Rahab the harlot alive, and her father's household, and all that she had; and she dwelleth in Israel even unto this day; because she hid the messengers, which Joshua sent to spy out Jericho

How does this verse you quoted prove the people of Jericho refused the Israelites passing through their city?

hopefulLandlord:


Violence is Violence but let's go with your point and pretend its valid.

What war were the people of Jericho fighting with the Israelites?

Oga go n read your Bible and understand better jhur cos u are just confusing yourself n am not even in d mood to convince u now

Unik3030:
Oga go n read your Bible and understand better jhur cos u are just confusing yourself n am not even in d mood to convince u now

Yep, he cops out.

Proverbs 22:24-25 should help.

Proverbs 21:9

hopefulLandlord:


How does this verse you quoted prove the people of Jericho refused the Israelites passing through their city?

Joshua 6: 1
Now Jericho was straitly shut up because of the children of Israel: none went out, and none came in

me na ROD i know

Elder001:


You said "battered wife" as if that's not enough you placed only pics of women there.

Are women the only ones suffering from domestic violence? Who told you that women don't carry out domestic violence on their husbands?

Read all my posts again, yes domestic violence can happen to a man and can happen to children too

I didn't post the picture, I guess the mods did

hopefulLandlord:


Violence is Violence but let's go with your point and pretend its valid.

What war were the people of Jericho fighting with the Israelites?

Well, unless you just want to argue, you can read up on the prevailing environment back then

The original post is on domestic violence.

You have a right to air your views; however it helps to stay on topic

Cheers

IhateInjustice:


Joshua 6: 1
Now Jericho was straitly shut up because of the children of Israel: none went out, and none came in

And refusing them entry is wrong?

hopefulLandlord:


Yep, he cops out.

u are just a confused fellow looking for who to drag in your confused web...so u are trying to equate domestic violence with war abi?so it is the same thing that happens at Syria n other troubled countries that happens when mama n papa nkechi dey fight abi?shebi d couple fight u witness around u they use grenades n bombs n other weapons of mass destruction.get the fact right,theres are many differences between DOMESTIC violence and war

hopefulLandlord:



SHOW THE BIBLE VERSE THAT SAID THIS!!!
Yahweh doesn't change, he remaineth same forever and ever


If Yahweh tells me to beat my wife, I'd beat her to coma.

F..uck off.!!

Beat her to coma and face the law.Stupid..d man

say no to domestic violence

IhateInjustice:
such examples like?

Kill all man,woman, boys,babies,animals n take only for yourself virgin girls.