Sometimes, its easy to get cynical, if we had a baby he would not be entitled to stay in the UK, we would have to go back to Africa and live there unless we got married, and he has said that he would never marry a lady for a Visa. Sometimes people get pregnant after two months and have the baby and are very happy and then go on to have more children.My Uncle got someone pregnant after 2 months married her and they are very happy, or seem to be, and they are successful professional people too. After spending time with him today I beleive he does have alot of feelings for me and my insecurity is a bit unecessary. Naughty bug24 dont talk about closing my thread, Ill report you to MrBrown and he'll get you tested for every STD under the sun every 3 months whether you want it or not.

Rosetinted

haaaaaaaaaaah!!! now your putting a smile on ma face,  first of it today. lol

i wuld do anything to have a baby via a white gurl, even if i have to go back to Africa or Pluto, i know someday, i'd still be back to UK. This is called long term investment. ( as an igbo man concerned. lol)

i wish you gudluk anywayz,  aight?

In as much as I am
this pretty much sums it up

MRbrownJAY:

^^^^^why this urgent need for a baby?! who is the desperate one here, you or him?! by the look of what you wrote, you guys barely know each other. shouldnt it be that you get to know the person FIRST before going on having their kids?

also, like a previous poster said:" have you ever heard of birth control?"

here is a clue: if he is so quick to wanna dump you because you question what he does or because of what your friends are saying THEN do you think that what you guys have is really STRONG?!

another clue: no matter how hard he took the miscarriage, the focus was on your well being and he SHOULD have been there with you. . . . . . . . .whether it be after work or whatever!

but I will sugar -coat it for you
sweety he was harsh but its pretty much what you need to hear
cause that guy is up to no good
and you should also take responsibility for your actions (not protecting yourself)
you need to get to know someone well enough before you start planning a future with him/her and then having kids.


all the best though, coz it seems like you've made up your mind to be with him.
Good luck

Typical girl trying to tie a guy down with pregnancy due to her insecurities, shiorrrr!

I don't see anything the guy has done. Why would he want to be with a girl who is highly suspicious of his intentions anyways.

MrbrownJay, leave the poster alone. She has chosen what she wants to hear or take. its not up to you to decide for her. if she doesn't value your honest take on it, don't waste your time on her. We know whats up, leave her to find out for herself.

So far, I do not see what any guy has done wrong here today!

where r those girls n useless guys that already judged n crucified him b4 hearing his side, shey u now see the truth, oloshis

We are still upset about the loss of the baby, however we have decided to try again once his papers come through and he has his residency, we are looking at November approx according to his solicitor, at this point we will get married first and then try again for another baby, hopefully we will be luckier this time, thanks for posting, looking forward to our future xxxx