Nyu424:


Who is Yoruba ? Who are you referring to exactly? I don't understand your post because I'm AA.

Yoruba is the name of an ethnic group in Nigeria with over 30 million population.

HORRORIZON:


LOL. That's ridiculous. If that's your experience, then it's pretty obvious that you haven't spent much time around us. We say that ish all the time, especially when we want to make our point clear or express the severity of our words, and usually done in a very stern or sassy way.

The above correlates much more with typical AA diction and writting patterns, the poster on the other hand is still suspect

but don't let me divert away from the subject matter at hand eh!

OP.
Nope. He's just being wayward. Igbo culture places importance on human life, even those born outside wedlock. We respect bloodlines, even though we frown at childbirth outside wedlock, we wouldn't totally reject the child, since we know the child is innocent of the parent behavior.

I have my questions though.
Are you in contact with any member of the family of this Igbo man?

frankfrancis871:
The truth is he might not take it likely with if you talk to his parents or relative. But that's the only thing I can recommend if you need help because from the way he acts, the man is probably not ready for marriage or being a father. But be careful, such people could be bad-tempered..

Thank you for your admonishment.

Nyu424:


Thank you for your admonishment. I'm hoping his mother would somehow get in touch with me about the child once she is born. If not, I guess I could reach out, but I'm extremely hesitant. I just want the child to know her fathers side, especially the grandparents.

Yeah that's a good decision @the bolded

pazienza:
OP.
Nope. He's just being wayward. Igbo culture places importance on human life, even those born outside wedlock. We respect bloodlines, even though we frown at childbirth outside wedlock, we wouldn't totally reject the child, since we know the child is innocent of the parent behavior.

I have my questions though.
Are you in contact with any member of the family of this Igbo man?

Thank you for your candor, I wouldn't expect anything less. I only want the child to know her fathers side. I've spoken to nobody in person or on the phone. He and I used to be in communication.

frankfrancis871:
Yeah that's a good decision @the bolded

Thanks, I'm trying. I know it's our shame to carry not the childs, especially with her being a girl. I'm hoping she could gain protection and the wonderful history of Igbo culture from her father and her grandparents.

Nyu424:


Thanks, I'm trying. I know it's our shame to carry not the childs, especially with her being a girl. I'm hoping she could gain protection and the wonderful history of Igbo culture from her father and her grandparents.

You'd make a perfect mother, teaching her the knowledge of Igbo culture and language is a good start and a good decision. Well done!

frankfrancis871:
You'd make a perfect mother, teaching her the knowledge of Igbo culture and language is a good start and a good decision. Well done!

� means a lot to me.

Nyu424:


� means a lot to me because I'm so scared! But just get on with it I guess.

Just keeping praying to God, it never hurts to keep trying, believe in yourself and NEVER GIVE UP!

One day, the man may come back to his senses BUT LEARN A LESSON FROM WHAT JUST HAPPENED TO YOU. BECAREFUL WITH SUCH MEN, IN IGBOLAND MARRIAGE IS THE BEST!

God bless you

Nyu424:
Hello everyone,

I would appreciate some advice on the matter from you all's perspective. Is the father obligated to the child when conceived out of wedlock?

Hello how are u fairing with ur problem.
When u come online quote me,

NIGHTMARE0O7:

Hello how are u fairing with ur problem.
When u come online quote me,

The pregnancy is coming along and I'm healthy. However, the childs father remains hostile towards me and the baby. Thank you for your comcern.

Nyu424:


The pregnancy is coming along and I'm healthy. However, the childs father remains hostile towards me and the baby. Many of my friends suggest trying to contact the mother and father of the childs father, but they live in Nigeria. I don't know if the childs father has informed his parents or if the parents know and remain disinterested. I would like to say I'm alright, but that's not how I feel. I appreciate your concern.

That's sad, he is behaving very childish unlike Igbo man, who likes to take their responsibility.
I think its right to contact the parents..

Sorry about this question...
Are u a white woman or African ?

NIGHTMARE0O7:


That's sad, he is behaving very childish unlike Igbo man, who likes to take their responsibility.
I think its right to contact the parents..

Sorry about this question...
Are u a white woman or African ?

I am an African American, but I'm not the stereotype if that helps capture my character. But would the parents want to be part of the childs life even though the father may choose to be absent? I'm at a crossroad.

Nyu424:


I am an African American, but I'm not the stereotype if that helps capture my character. But would the parents want to be part of the childs life even though the father may choose to be absent? I'm at a crossroad.

Nope, the reason I asked is to know if u are white girl because and to know if that's why the guy is behaving that way... "some" African parents are against their son marrying white.

But I think you let the parents know what son did, how could he got u pregnant and ask to abort it, ?
tell them u are scared to lose ur life that's why u rejected the abortion.

Do u have whatsapp?

NIGHTMARE0O7:


Nope, the reason I asked is to know if u are white girl because and to know if that's why the guy is behaving that way... "some" African parents are against their son marrying white.

But I think you let the parents know what son did, how could he got u pregnant and ask to abort it, ?
tell them u are scared to lose ur life that's why u rejected the abortion.

Do u have whatsapp?

I understand. I do have whatsapp. There is so much I haven't said in order to keep my situation brief and relatively general. I wouldn't mind speaking to you on a different forum.

NIGHTMARE0O7:


Nope, the reason I asked is to know if u are white girl because and to know if that's why the guy is behaving that way... "some" African parents are against their son marrying white.

But I think you let the parents know what son did, how could he got u pregnant and ask to abort it, ?
tell them u are scared to lose ur life that's why u rejected the abortion.

Do u have whatsapp?

I understand. I do have whatsapp. I have no clue how me or my family should address the parents. Is it possible too that they just don't care that he has a child coming into the world because it's out of wedlock/marriage? I wouldn't mind speaking to you on a different forum.

Nyu424:


I understand. I do have whatsapp. There is so much I haven't said in order to keep my situation brief and relatively general. I wouldn't mind speaking to you on a different forum.

Ok send me pm.
Just wana give u little advice