Moonstone:

India alone? I read an article - women in London do it during their Lunch breaks for only 1,500 pounds.
Imagine - it takes less than an hour to become a virgin again.

ha ill pass, if my husband cant love me for who i am, then he is not my husband

but i read that women were getting it in india mostly because they were raped or dont want to reveal that they are not virgins for the sake of their lives and for the family's honor, and some were getting the procedure free, because if their propsed husband found out that they were not virgins, poow! acid in the face!

platinumnk:

ha ill pass, if my husband cant love me for who i am, then he is not my husband

Exactly!

platinumnk:

but i read that women were getting it in india mostly because they were raped or dont want to reveal that they are not virgins for the sake of their lives and for the family's honor, and some were getting the procedure free, because if their propsed husband found out that they were not virgins, poow! acid in the face!

That's interesting.
Some people in London are doing it for the same reasons.
They hide under the cover of being virgins for so long and when the wedding date is getting near, they go in for the procedure and come back out.
If that surgery should enter naija, I will so so laugh my head off. Maybe Modupe Ozolua will start that pretty soon.
Before you know it, all naija girls will be getting married as virgins.

Can't marry a virgin for two reasons:

1. I'm not one and it's only fair that we both should be virgins

2. Got no time to train no one

Supported. Since I am not a virgin It wont be fair to insist the woman should be one.

I dont think its worth going for any reconstruction. If a guy wants a virgin then leave him alone if u aint one.

No one is worth any surgery

Moonstone:

Thank God for Vagina Reconstruction Surgery. Kai! Some guys are mugu-fied.
If it's virgin you want, it's virgin you'll get married to.
I love our gender

Unfortunately, as with any surgical procedure, it's going to leave some sort of scaring, and one will be able to tell if you had a procedure or not. Besides, if a girl is willing to go to such lengths to deceive a man, she will have some other feature that the guy will eventually be turned away by.

Orimili:

Unfortunately, as with any surgical procedure, it's going to leave some sort of scaring, and one will be able to tell if you had a procedure or not. Besides, if a girl is willing to go to such lengths to deceive a man, she will have some other feature that the guy will eventually be turned away by.

i truely doubt somone is goinna look all in your vagina for a scar, get real

Orimili:

Unfortunately, as with any surgical procedure, it's going to leave some sort of scaring, and one will be able to tell if you had a procedure or not. Besides, if a girl is willing to go to such lengths to deceive a man, she will have some other feature that the guy will eventually be turned away by.

Not really. It's a grafting process that heals afterwards. No guy will know unless he's a doctor himself and he's looking for signs of the operation. It's a very easy process from what I have read and it is simpler than what it seems like. It is a minor operation.
But no girl should have to go that far to impress a man. However, when she sees it as having no choice, what can she do?

platinumnk:

i truely doubt somone is goinna look all in your vagina for a scar,  get real

And I truly doubt that someone is going to look all in your vagina to see if you have a hymen, so it is you that will also have to face reality.

Seriously, any guy with a correct mind would be able to tell if a girl is a virgin or not without looking for physical evidence.

Moonstone:

Not really. It's a grafting process that heals afterwards. No guy will know unless he's a doctor himself and he's looking for signs of the operation. It's a very easy process from what I have read and it is simpler than what it seems like. It is a minor operation.
But no girl should have to go that far to impress a man. However, when she sees it as having no choice, what can she do?

No process is easy, minor, or unidentifiable. Besides, if this process becomes common, men will know about it, and will learn how to check for it.

marriage is honourable,in all the bed undefiled. To all the VIRGINS in d house,GOOD JOB,IF UR A LADY,STILL HOLD ON TIGHTER TIL D D-DAY COMES.U WILL NEVER REGRET DIS COS U WILL REMAIN D PRIDE OF UR MAN. @SEUN,DONT BOTHERSTRESS DIS ISSUE,D TRUTH IS DAT VIRGINS ARE HARD 2 COME BY,SO GUYS JUS GO 4 WATEVER IS AVAILABLE ,SO WHENEVER SUCH TOPICS ARISES,INSTEAD OF BIN SINCERE WIF THEMSELVES,THEY RATHER CHOOSE D DEFENCE SIDE.AM PROUD 2 BE A VIRGIN,I DONT CARE HOW/WHAT U FEEL

^^clap for urself

Question: What does one truly want from a marriage, that, above all things, the potential spouse must either be a virgin or non-virgin.

This is a serious question, because it seems as whenever this topic comes up, the person asking it appears to have a judgment so clouded that they can't seem to look past the fact that the person may have had a previous sexual relationship. As a virgin myself, I think it would be nice to have a virgin bride, but there is much, much more to a successful marriage in God's eyes, than this one thing.

You can search for that "virgin prize," and she can turn out to be the most dishonest, unbearable person, while the girl who slipped up when she was young, but kept herself until marriage can turn out to be the most genuine, most God-fearing person you would ever meet, and would make the perfect bride.

I'm assuming that most of the posters here follow the Christian faith. Isn't forgiveness one of Christianity's major themes? If so, when does forgiveness leave the equation once one has sex? I guess Christianity in NYC is different from Christianity in Nigeria. . .

Also, to the people who must have a bride that is a non-virgin, what is your reasons for having such a requirement?

@ Seun'
Given the circumstances you've presented, I'd definitely go for the virgin. It goes without saying that virginity is not the only condition that has to be met, and especially for a partner who's not a virgin.

doesnt really matter but experience counts.

know of a couple who broke up cos the guy loves sex & the gal can do without it (medically doesnt enjoy it)

finaly became an issue & the marriage ended

so they didnt know of this issue before the marriage?

Medically doesn't enjoy it? What does that mean?

ThiefOfHearts:

so they didnt know of this issue before the marriage?

they never had sex before marriage so how in God's name would they know

ibkaye:

Medically doesn't enjoy it? What does that mean?

there's a medical condition (cant remember what its called) where a woman cannot enjoy sex as a result of a traumatic experience (rape, abuse etc) which makes them tense during the act. they cant get wet and is usually bruised as a result
it takes tons of therapy to make to manage this & it usually hard for newlyweds to survive this cos the husband would have to do without sex for a wyl

Oxone:

there's a medical condition (cant remember what its called) where a woman cannot enjoy sex as a result of a traumatic experience (rape, abuse etc) which makes them tense during the act. they cant get wet and is usually bruised as a result
it takes tons of therapy to make to manage this & it usually hard for newlyweds to survive this cos the husband would have to do without sex for a wyl

What a reason What ever happened to 'till death to us part'?

Ok o.

ibkaye:

What a reason What ever happened to 'till death to us part'?

Ok o.

Till death do us part? That is a condition that is BEGGING for the guy to cheat on her. I'd rather a man divorces me than cheat on me anytime, anyday. Besides, if she does not like having sex, how would she conceive?

Moonstone:

Till death do us part? That is a condition that is BEGGING for the guy to cheat on her. I'd rather a man divorces me than cheat on me anytime, anyday. Besides, if she does not like having sex, how would she conceive?

Well, I'm not married so let me just keep my mouth shut, they say experience is the best teacher

True true

there are also situation where the guts dick is just too big for the womans vagina & sex becomes a nightmare instead of pleasure with the woman becoming bruised & battered each time

how do u explain to a man who has shown restraint till his wedding nyt that he'll have to wait till God knows when to consumate his marriage & ofcourse u know he wont enjoy it if the woman doesnt

a former pastor turned counsellor (divorced her husband after 6months) found herself in that situation & now advocates for sex before marriage instead of getting surprises

for the ladies
what would u do if u find out after marriage that ur husband cant get it up?

Oxone:

how do u explain to a man who has shown restraint till his wedding nyt that he'll have to wait till God knows when to consumate his marriage & ofcourse u know he wont enjoy it if the woman doesnt

Actually feeling sorry for the guy here.

Oxone:

for the ladies
what would u do if u find out after marriage that ur husband cant get it up?

My honest answer to that question is I don't know, plus I pray that such a thing does not happen to me as I am one of those ones 'waiting for marriage.'

The things one goes through sometimes, a darn pity.

Oxone:

for the ladies
what would u do if u find out after marriage that ur husband cant get it up?

A friend of mine told me that someone she knew got married to a guy who was a preemie in ejaculation and it's been hell for her cos she can't reach orgasm. It's insane.

Moonstone:

A friend of mine told me that someone she knew got married to a guy who was a preemie in ejaculation and it's been hell for her cos she can't reach orgasm. It's insane.

Did he tell her he doesn't believe in sex before marriage prior to getting married?

4 Play:

Did he tell her he doesn't believe in sex before marriage prior to getting married?

Nope - she was the one waiting for marriage to have sex.

Who, No Like betteeeer Thin'

4 Play:

Did he tell her he doesn't believe in sex before marriage prior to getting married?

thats the problem, most with this kind of problems are ever so willing to play the gentleman or lady waiting for marriage to consumate their union

Moonstone:

A friend of mine told me that someone she knew got married to a guy who was a preemie in ejaculation and it's been hell for her cos she can't reach orgasm. It's insane.

Can that really make her not reach orgasm?

Oxone:

thats the problem, most with this kind of problems are ever so willing to play the gentleman or lady waiting for marriage to consumate their union

Gbam. . . .then they say women lie. . . .tssk tsk

tope5000:

Can that really make her not reach orgasm?

The guy would come and feel embarrassed by it. Then he would just be unresponsive throughout.

Moonstone:

The guy would come and feel embarrassed by it. Then he would just be unresponsive throughout.

Ewooooo . . . ur friend has suffered
How long have they been married?

My friend said they have been married for 6 years. No child because it's such a horrible experience to have sex.

Moonstone:

My friend said they have been married for 6 years. No child because it's such a horrible experience to have sex.

Errrrrrr. . . . n she still intend to stay with the man for the rest pf her life?