luluosas:
They were mere sex partners all this while, as there was never any marriage between them. In fact, they only cohabited. If you are living with a man and you have children for him, and he is yet to pay your dowry, just know that you are in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, you don't have any marriage my dear.
You will understand who you really are by the time the man dies. Draw that your boyfriend you called husband to go pay your dowry now. A word is enough for the wise

mechanics:
wow, real love, if it were some ladies, they won't marry him, because he's broke, now the woman is really enjoying her marriage, that's to tell us that nothing is permanent, being poor is not permanent.

Genniez:
..lefulefu thanks

phr33man:
Better late than never.

But who did he pay to?

Ladyhippolyta88:
In my opinion it was quite unnecessary.

After they're grandparents they remembered dowry.smh.agba okogbon loto

Wisdom is not a function of old age

Xaos:
Moral of the story. Always pay your debt because your in-laws will never forget....

Ugosample:


if the man signed his will to his wife, and a marriage certificate can be produced, the family will be the one begging her


Marriage certificates protect the spouse much more than traditional marriage


A lot of women have been thrown out if their homes despite trad marriages

If she had a marriage cert, such fuckery will not happen at all at all.

Neddyogu:


The courts or registry will issue certificate when customary laws have been fulfilled oo. Except u hire false witnesses to testify that u fulfilled customary laws.

Headlesschicken:
Better late than never...

KingSatan:
This was when TRUE LOVE existed. Whenever I say "Older women have my respect" I believe you all now know why.

Sometime ago a New generation Nigerian woman trended online for saying "At this stage of my life, I will not marry a man without a car". I as Satan the Lucifer, I was shocked because that same lady is over 35 years and obviously depreciating. But there she was placing a "Liability" as prerequisite for marriage.





Congrats to the Husband and Wife.


Now to those reading my message. Marriage is the decision of the Man and wife. Do not frustrate intending couples with a great financial burden or bogus traditional rites. Allow them to live happily as man and wife. If they have made a decision then support them and stop demanding for 30 gallons of palm oil when you know deep inside your heart that you can't afford a drop of oil. A woman is not a commodity anymore.


The practice of bride price is archaic and barbaric (Though it's still evident in our various traditions). When such laws were enacted women never had any rights, some were seen as less humans or commodities to be sold. Instead of sending them to school, they train them on home chores and preparation of various dishes. These women were sold out according to their value in the guise of the Bride Price.

A bride should not have a price tag. She is not a commodity. She is a priceless jewel, a rare gemstone.


Let's advocate for the total annihilation of the Bride Price and the regulation of traditional marriage rites by the traditional heads in our communities. As this is the only solution to unlawful cohabitation.

If you so love your sister or daughter then support her decision to get married and do not demand any price for her. Wish her well and celebrate her. Make it clear to the groom that you are not taking any dime from him as your daughter is priceless and has a greater value than money.


Marriage is getting too expensive and it is a threat to lawful cohabitation.

tiredoflife:
So a church allowed them to wed without the traditional rites
Well na dem
Dey can marry without seeing parents
Its common in their tribe
But for a church to support this
And he is called a pastor
So for many years he has been fornicating yet he calls it marriage
No matter the talking terms he claims
A man must pay the dowry of a woman before u can say u are married

Biglittlelois:
Op change your topic to "46 years of living together" they were never married, they were living in sin-fornication, without paying bride price or dowry any form of "marriage" is useless.

PrettyGist:
After 46 years of marriage, 84-year-old man, John Olusola Ojo, who is a pastor has paid the dowry of his wife, Olabisi, who is 70 years old.

In an interview with Tribune, Pastor Ojo said he decided to honor his wife by going to pay her dowry in September, years after her family initially disagreed on their union.

Going down memory lane, Pastor Ojo said when he met Olabisi during his youth, he was very poor and also had come from a poor family background. Olabisi on the other hand, was from a priviledged home. At the time they met, she was living with her Uncle who was grooming her for one of his colleagues who worked as a driver at the Nigeria Railway Corporation. He said;

“When all persuasions to make my in-laws accept their daughter’s bride price from me failed, the General Superintendent of the Christ Apostolic Church, Nigeria, advised us to go by statutory marriage through which we were certified as husband and wife in 1972. Few years into our marriage, my in-laws had a change of heart; since then we have maintained a good rapport,”

Pa Ojo says they lived so happily that his in-laws forgot to ask him for the dowry of their daughter.

On her part, Mrs Ojo said she agreed to stick with her husband at the time when he as poor because she knew she could afford to take care of the him.

“I knew I could take care of him, I concluded so because my parents were financially buoyant – my mother was a produce buyer while my father was a commercial farmer. But to my people, he was poor beyond redemption, they called him ‘one-man-one-jacket.’ It took much pacification before I was allowed to marry him. I thank God for his mercy on both of us, our children inclusive for whom we have become today. I have to thank Him especially for His special kindness to me.

Up till this moment, I have never had any cause to regret that I married my husband. Most especially, I am grateful to God that I am also among those women who were married traditionally; appreciating me before my people by paying my dowry. I am indeed happy that it happened to me,” she enthused.

https://gistmore.com/46-years-marriage-84-year-old-man-pays-wife-dowry

Biglittlelois:
Op change your topic to "46 years of living together" they were never married, they were living in sin-fornication, without paying bride price or dowry any form of "marriage" is useless.

Ladyhippolyta88:


First of all I am a lady.
You stated that they had no marriage because the man paid no brideprice and stated that African culture and your bible made it a law that bprideprice must be paid before they are recognised.But they had a statutory marriage which is legal and recognised by law so in order words they have been married since.Even you yourself stated that marriage is a legal union.

Also note that not everyone(though not common)depending on the family accept the brideprice because they believe their daughters are not for sale.

Ugosample:


if the man signed his will to his wife, and a marriage certificate can be produced, the family will be the one begging her


Marriage certificates protect the spouse much more than traditional marriage


A lot of women have been thrown out if their homes despite trad marriages

If she had a marriage cert, such fuckery will not happen at all at all.

Ladyhippolyta88:


If they are married under the civil law they are married the unncessary opinion of others claiming that they are not married because he did not pay the price tag on her head is irrelevant.

luluosas:
In the eye of the law, right? No wonder contract marriage abounds in our days