Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Donjazzy12:

Yeye woman without any atom of sense at all.

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

highqueen:
Mtchew.
You are very stingy.
To even think that you spent months before sending the damn money after she helped you with your business and everything.
She has been supportive yet you still wanna wave that off by quitting.
Na your type deh tell their wives not to help their family members.
Mtchew

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

robertito7:
I trust nairaland guys pureety MhizzAJ and liliyAnn no go post or comment on any thread till 2020 we should all think before we talk - - but some people just don't have sense

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

IamD18:
Another lover-boy scammed.

On no account should you invest on any woman aside your female siblings[Mum, sisters, wife and daughters].

Girfriend are hoes and epitome of problems, they don't worth the stress and investment.

The only thing you should invest on a girlfriend is nothing but your sperm, because that's the only thing that will yield something good. Anything other than that will be a big WASTE.

I'll to advice you flee from that lady if you want to be successful and live long.

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

BigBros147:
you bear the symptom of a broke, frustrated and wretched girl.

With this mind set of yours, one can easily deduce that your parents and everyone who trained you failed in the attempt.

Girls like you are the ones who taint the image of hard working women in the society. Believing is your right for your boyfriend to spend on you is the very reason why you've planned on becoming a vile individual who, in no distant time, will bear the symptoms of not just verbal, but physical abuse.

Poverty has really turned you into something the dictionary doesn't have the word to describe.

You're a shame to yourself and your house hold.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

pawshjai:
Imagine wah my fellow ladies are all spewing from dre mouth..omg..dis feeling of entitlement girls have des days..first do you know added 500k is a million naira..enuf to buy a land..then somebody brought out a whooping #500 cash and gave to a dumb lady and she squandered it on familiy problem..family problems don't end..dey don't... One question pls. If she did not get that money wont the family p be solved? Will they die? Nope.. So why not b a wise lady and invest..a lot of Nigeria ladies are so dumb DAT even if you give the 2milly in the next 2years they will be back to poverty..they just dumb.expecting d men to keep feeding them..Listen and listen well guys..u owe nobody anytin..

Op I wouldn't say you should break up with her..but first confront her and hear what she has to say..if she feels remorseful kip her..if she gets mad for not understanding her..dump her sorry ass.wtf.#500k in dis kinda economy no b beans. What kinda wife will she be..
PS: nobody shud mention me..spoke my damn mind.. 7

Liliyann:


Who do we have here??
Little girl, this isn't kiddies section!!!
Run along, go play with your toys!!!
State your point and don't ever mention me again!!!
I don't have the time for asslickers!!!
You are a big shame to womanhood!!!

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Kastonkastroll:
This is a dumb comment. So because she is his gf, he should waste all his money on her and turn himself to her slave abi? Nonsense. Doesn't she have two hands, two legs, a brain, one nose, two ears, two eyes and a tongue? Why can't she hustle for her own money? It is only hungry Nigerian girls like you that see relationship as a poverty alleviation program. You don't want to work and even if you work, you still want your bf to take care of all your endless materialistic needs.

Haba hanty , u no get shame ni

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Donjazzy12:

Yeye woman without any atom of sense at all. You are worse than the lady in question! Why don't you use your school fees to settle family problems to show that you love your family? Your stupidity knows no bounds! He loves the lady but no longer for marriage. The lady can go and marry any fool who is willing to be the family ATM. There is a reason why the money was given in the first place, idiot. If she truly respected the guy and loved him why did she not call the guy in question and tell him about the family problem before? But the moment she had the money in her hands, she now felt like Dangote and starts spending foolishly. Now that the money is finished, no money, no shop, no business, where will she get another money to give her money hungry family ? Truly, you women has fish brain.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Wahala90:


So everything including your families' self inflicted poverty problems should come first? So your family are so poor they need your boyfriend to shoulder their responsibilities. May Ebola kill your family.

HeWrites:


Your family did a bad job.

I also blame your dad because ordinary Vaseline would have make you a waste!

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man