A married man asked me if I can be a second wife. I know I shouldnt read any meaning to this question but a girl always knows when a man is hitting at her. I have a hunch that things between us will want to go beyond the platonic friendship we currently have. And I definately wouldnt want to be labelled as a home breaker. At the same time, I dont want to assume what is not and spoil our friendship. It was my answer to his question that even suprised me. I answered in the affirmative. A clear 'No' would have sent him a good message but I didnt say that. My dilema now is should I give some gap,at the risk of losing a good friend, or continue at the risk of things going beyond control. Whats your opinion? thanks.

Na wa o!

Na wa what? reply to the topic.

Do u nid a prophet to tell u dat u r already treading on d wrong path by even bringin it on forum 4 deliberations? Pls pray n wait 4 your own bone of your bone, dont go breaking anoda person's bones. Dont even desire him, pls free him.

Another useless thread -

Nairaland question of the Yeaar!

You are there asking if evil is evil.

stop deceiving urself, he is not a good friend

u alone has d answer to dat question. QED

if am the one i'll tell him an "NO" i dont know if u want to be in mess.

That person is legally married, so don't go.
Like you've rightly said, never plan to be a home breaker.

U obviously dont knw the trobles of polygamy. Babe pray 4 ur own man. There is so much joy in being a first (and hopefully, only) wife. If he is a christian, u just may be another mistress; and if a muslem, be sure to get 2 more mates. Pls be wise.

Thanks to all those who made meaningful and useful comments. The likes of you make NL a good place to turn to in times when good advice is needed.
@Boller, see, my problem with NL is that they fail to clarify that those signing up have no history of mental illnesses. If they did, you wouldnt be here. For in a forum where intelligible,reasonable comments, devoid of useless and baseless utterances are needed, you fall short. I dont trade insults but you just went on your knees, begging to be insulted with that piece of crap you posted up there. Theres something called respect for people,but asking that of you will be asking a snail to run. The title of this thread should have been FOR SANE MINDS ONLY, maybe then your cursor would have bounced away, instead of you clicking and disturbing your fingers by typing nonsense. I politely asked for opinions. Mind your business if you cant respond in the same vein.

Its a free world, anybody can do anything they like, and for those asking for her head for telling the truth, you have all done worse in your lives.