PERFECT MARRIAGE
Almost everybody will love to experience the unconditional feelings of perfect marriage with their spouse that lead to happy home, but the question that pose itself says, Do you work towards it?.
The fact is that there is no cutting corner or secret to a perfect marriage, it is just the matter of maintaining the right principle which is achievable.
There is a famous saying where the perfect marriage can only be found between a deaf and a blind couple, because the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of his wife, while the blind wife cannot see the shortcomings of her husband.
To my own observation being in love with each other is more than what most people could ask for in a relationship, but even love is not enough to sustain a relationship there are other factors to put in place. I want you to understand the fact that the best marriage in the world can run into trouble just because the couple tend to take the simplest things for granted.
People from various countries have married their spouse based on different reason, which can either be to have a family, wealth, to have someone to grow with and security, this all matters but there is a bigger reason. Marriage is when you give so much of yourself and yet you feel whole.
One glaring thing I have seen about some couples in our society is that they don’t exercise patience to understand themselves if they are compatible before getting married which has later put their Marital home in jeopardy.
In brevity, something as special as marriage should be nurtured forever, so what are the principles?
[1]PRAYER: this is just the matter of praying base on your religion for a successful and happy  home, because the seed of love is created by the power of God and by doing this it will always renew the feeling and guide the couple not to fall into temptation.
[2]TRUST: trust is one of the important key in relationship, so if the couple wants a long-lasting relationship they must maintain what is known as trust among themselves.
[3]LOVE: build your relationship on true love, because true love will always last longer no matter the circumstances in your relationship.
[4]PATIENCE: We all need patience in coping with most things in life either in relationship or in other aspect of life, patience is very important to let you fully understand and overcome most of our obstacle.
[5]CONTROLLING ANGER: anger is inevitable to human, but the person that is slow to anger has the great understanding.
The only way to cope with your anger is to inculcate the habit of letting go of resentment and practicing forgiveness.     
Thomas Fuller observes, "He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven." Without forgiveness, your life becomes an endless cycle of anger, resentment, and retaliation. You practice forgiveness so that you can stop ruminating about the past and put your energy into the present moment. And it will also free you from the poisonous effects of resentment. Then, you can experience peace of mind and bring that inner peacefulness into your marriage. You will never have a peaceful marriage until you are at peace within yourself.
In a nutshell there is still more to perfect marriage that led to happy home than what we have here but by applying this principle you have got above average opportunity of building happy home.
Hope you enjoy this little advice, Thanks to GOD and connect love.
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I don't think any marriage is perfect. All marriages have their ups and down, good times and bad times, strengths and weaknesses. There are times when you could feel like giving up but you just keep holding on. No marriage is perfect but as you pray and believe all things work out at last.

i didn't read the epistle coz there's no such thing as a "perfect marriage". there will always be up and downs.

A PERFECT MARRIAGE IS AN ILLUSION like the dangling carrot before the donkey.I prefer to use the term EQUILIBRIUM MARRIAGE.This means trying to maintain the peace level thermometer at a safer side amidst the marital turbulence and chaos.

The truth is that you can enjoy your marriage when you chose to be humble and admit your faults.The issue of praying and the other techniques of keeping the home will never work if you are not humble.

I hear many women say they cannot become "MUMU" FOR THEIR HUSBANDS and that makes me to laugh.Unknown to such that is the very thing that can saved your marriage.You must learn to treat your spouse as a demigod,If you want to enjoy him.

On the man's part if you really want a happy home you must be blind to many faults of the women.You must take most of their offensive words as a joke.

But let me just summarize the whole secrets of marriage in the following ways.

1.Please God to please your spouse.Don't try to please him/her.Do what God demands from you and will definitely please your spouse.

2. Always remain humble in your marriage.Learn to say sorry many times as a woman but for the man do things that will make your wife say am sorry.Let me at this point tell many African women that most African men find it hard to say am sorry but they will do things to tell you they are sorry.If you are waiting to hear it from them you may wait till eternity.

3. Never discuss your marital issues with anybody.Try to always resolve your wahala between yourselves.

4. Find time to talk a lot together about relevant and a times irrelevant things.But women make sure you get him into a good mood atimes.

5. Have lots of intimacy together.It can be ten times a day it doesn't.Men needs lots of it.If you don't know how to rock a man and take him to cloud infinity go and learn it.It is not only the man that should do that to you.You can make him scream while doing it.If you master the art,it will be difficult for the professional outside to steal him because he has a pro at home.

6. Be close to the mother-inlaws.Many women hate them to their own doom .You will do well to be
-closed to them even though they are evil.Don't forget you married their babies.

7.Give the man real peperenpe meneme african food that will make him to eat like an elephant.if you don't know how to cook them go and learn.

8. Hand over your marriage to God for more grace to keep on doing the above.

9. Never allow money to cause SERIOUS QUARREL in your home.

The above we have used have helped I and my spouse to have equilibrium marriage for the past ten years.And am glad to tell you nobody has come to interfere in our marriage one day.I squatted with my mum together with my wife and baby in a room and parlor apartment and she never saw us quarrel for a day.

PRACTICE THE ABOVE YOU WILL NEVER REGRET YOUR MARRIAGE.

i wish you can read and understand the nitty gritty of what i am saying about marriage!!!!

i understand your comment.but i didn't mention that their won't be ups and down it's normal to have that in relationship.but you have to forgive if he/she is guilty. but i wish everyone can understand that with God all things are possible so stop looking at things base on your condition.what i expect you to do is to ask yourself am i doing the right things as a responsible husband/wife.
if you need full understanding and explanation.why can't you call instead of hiding yourself from information that can make you have peace and happiness in your home.

with God all things are possible

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Perfect marraige does not exist.

.''Perfect marriage'' is only imagination but in reality, there is nothing as such.

Loveaflame:

I hear many women say they cannot become "MUMU" FOR THEIR HUSBANDS and that makes me to laugh.Unknown to such that is the very thing that can saved your marriage.You must learn to treat your spouse as a demigod,If you want to enjoy him.

That there is one of the common lies people feed themselves. If you are marriage where you need to "loose" yourself so that your partner can be happy, you are not in a marriage but in a slave contract that will probably not end well for you and others involved.

I mean this is common sense. If you have to work with a bunch of people who expect you to be someone completely different from who you are, you will find yourself on the loosing end . . . used and later tossed.

Marriage has nothing to do with LOOSING your identity or suppressing self so that another can be happy. If your spouse (male or female) does not love you and your personality AS-IS, then you probably had no business marrying that person in the first place. However, if you are already married to someone who wants or needs you to shackle your being in order that he/she may be happy, then be prepared for the same to decide someday that that is no longer enough.

I have seen women becomes shadows of their former selves after marriage. Some loose the very things that made them strong individuals and become muppets in marriages that end up eating up much of whatever potential they had to be excellent human beings before it all. I am not saying do not marry but go in with your head intact and complete. Never let another human being, not even a spouse tell you that you can no longer be that person you know yourself to be( I am not referring to habits we pick up along the way or due to experiences, but to the individual beyond all that).

There are thousands of women and men out there today in marriages where they are being forced to compromise on basically everything they have stood against before getting hitched. Some are even being bullied into accepting infidelity as a part of their lot in life.

Kobojunkie:

That there is one of the common lies people feed themselves. If you are marriage where you need to "loose" yourself so that your partner can be happy, you are not in a marriage but in a slave contract that will probably not end well for you and others involved.

I mean this is common sense. If you have to work with a bunch of people who expect you to be someone completely different from who you are, you will find yourself on the loosing end . . . used and later tossed.

Marriage has nothing to do with LOOSING your identity or suppressing self so that another can be happy. If your spouse (male or female) does not love you and your personality AS-IS, then you probably had no business marrying that person in the first place. However, if you are already married to someone who wants or needs you to shackle your being in order that he/she may be happy, then be prepared for the same to decide someday that that is no longer enough.

I have seen women becomes shadows of their former selves after marriage. Some loose the very things that made them strong individuals and become muppets in marriages that end up eating up much of whatever potential they had to be excellent human beings before it all. I am not saying do not marry but go in with your head intact and complete. Never let another human being, not even a spouse tell you that you can no longer be that person you know yourself to be( I am not referring to habits we pick up along the way or due to experiences, but to the individual beyond all that).

There are thousands of women and men out there today in marriages where they are being forced to compromise on basically everything they have stood against before getting hitched. Some are even being bullied into accepting infidelity as a part of their lot in life.

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