oloriLFC:
You have to stop o before she turns it to something else. The woman is a parasite. Don't let her ruin your friendship with her husband. Antenatal ko! Brodanatal ni! Shey na you impregnate her?

alimaa:
I have a very close friend who has been like a brother to me right from our days in the university, we also worship in the same church, he was my best man when I wedded a few years ago. He got married this year and after the wedding things were not rosy for them the following month and I gave my little assistance as a friend. Around July this year his sister had a life threatening ailment and when he reached out to me I quickly responded with something meaningful. After some weeks his wife told me she was sick when we met in church, I quickly went to an ATM, made withdrawal and gave her money to buy drugs since her husband who happens to be my friend was not in town.

The irony of the whole thing now is
that my friend's wife now thinks that I am Father Christmas and now calls and sends texts requesting for money to take care of her antenatal drugs but I have refused to help because I believe it is wrong and she keeps pestering me.

Please what is your advice?

vingeophysicist:
Always assist with the consent of your friend. Don't be surprised that her husband provides her with those things she equally asked from you.

chris51:
In the name of Almighty God, do not send any money to your friend's wife directly. Send anything you have for them to your friend.

How they utilise it is between husband and wife.
Your friend still needs self respect. If you are not careful this woman will lure you to bed.

To be fore warned is to be fore armed

dancewith:
I don't think it's right that she gets money from you without informing her husband

That's akin to adultery. If he knows and doesn't think he should thank you for it, then you may review the gesture

Its more likey he isn't aware which makes the entire act risky and morally suspect. The bible says to flee from all appearances of evil. It doesn't have to be evil as long as it looks like ones you should flee

brodalikeme:
No sane person will love to beg another person for help perpetually, and people always go back to where they have received help before.
I would have preferred if it's your friend that is doing the asking but he might have become tired and frustrated that he is now a charity case. Borrowing without end and not knowing even if he can ever pay back.
Please continue doing your bit, God sees your heart, like I always say life is like a pendulum, you don't know which direction it might swing tomorrow.

samysmoothfresh:
The people above have said it all.


If you get, give but first let the husband know.


Technically though, she no suppose dey ask you for money sha o..................

TheCongo2:


What was your story of you don't mind me asking. Please kill the CAPS.

bucho8888:


FUNNY STORY. MY RELATIONS WIFE CALLED ME ASKING 4 FINANCIAL HELP. BASE ON RELATION ISSUE, I DIDNT BOTHER 2 CHECK HER STORY OR CALL D HUSBAND 2 VERFIY IF ITS OK WITH HIM. I WILL JUST SEND MONEY 2 HER. AS TIME WENT ON, SHE WILL CALL ONCE IN AWHILE ASKING 4 FINANICAL HELP. I DIDNT NO SHE WAS LYING 2 ME, UNTIL ONE DAY MY RELATION CALLED ME N ASK WE HAVE A PRIVATE CHAT. WEN I WENT 2 C HIM. D GUY NOW TOLD ME HOW DIS WOMAN WAS CHEATING ON HIM, N ALL D WHILE SHE WAS USING ME AS A PAWN. SHE WILL COLLECT MONEY FROM HER LOVER N SAY I WAS D ONE DAT SENT IT 2 HER. HONESTLY IF IT WASNT DAT WE WERE RELATED, D GUY WOULD HAD KILLED ME DER. MY HUMBLE OPINION IF WANT 2 HELP A MARRIED WOMAN, PLZ ASK 4 PREMISSION FROM HER HUSBAND. SOME WOMEN CAN PUT U IN SERIOUS TROUBLE. DATS D SUMMARY OF MY STORY. N SORRY I LIKE USING CAPS.

alimaa:
I have a very close friend who has been like a brother to me right from our days in the university, we also worship in the same church, he was my best man when I wedded a few years ago. He got married this year and after the wedding things were not rosy for them the following month and I gave my little assistance as a friend. Around July this year his sister had a life threatening ailment and when he reached out to me I quickly responded with something meaningful. After some weeks his wife told me she was sick when we met in church, I quickly went to an ATM, made withdrawal and gave her money to buy drugs since her husband who happens to be my friend was not in town.

The irony of the whole thing now is
that my friend's wife now thinks that I am Father Christmas and now calls and sends texts requesting for money to take care of her antenatal drugs but I have refused to help because I believe it is wrong and she keeps pestering me.

Please what is your advice?

JONNYSPUTE:
My brother for the sake of God,don't withdraw your helping hands from them. As long as you have,keep helping them but make sure you do so through your friend .

Lonestar124:
Don't start what you can't finish....even though you want to help your friend is OK, you don't extend it to his wife to complete yourself as good man.

Except your money flowing heavily to exhaust or don't you have responsibilities?

showafrica:


Some women are just crazy, see how confident she feels asking another man for money. She get luck no be one Mara fakar who for fuxkk her lik crazy.

alimaa:
I have a very close friend who has been like a brother to me right from our days in the university, we also worship in the same church, he was my best man when I wedded a few years ago. He got married this year and after the wedding things were not rosy for them the following month and I gave my little assistance as a friend. Around July this year his sister had a life threatening ailment and when he reached out to me I quickly responded with something meaningful. After some weeks his wife told me she was sick when we met in church, I quickly went to an ATM, made withdrawal and gave her money to buy drugs since her husband who happens to be my friend was not in town.

The irony of the whole thing now is
that my friend's wife now thinks that I am Father Christmas and now calls and sends texts requesting for money to take care of her antenatal drugs but I have refused to help because I believe it is wrong and she keeps pestering me.

Please what is your advice?

alimaa:
I have a very close friend who has been like a brother to me right from our days in the university, we also worship in the same church, he was my best man when I wedded a few years ago. He got married this year and after the wedding things were not rosy for them the following month and I gave my little assistance as a friend. Around July this year his sister had a life threatening ailment and when he reached out to me I quickly responded with something meaningful. After some weeks his wife told me she was sick when we met in church, I quickly went to an ATM, made withdrawal and gave her money to buy drugs since her husband who happens to be my friend was not in town.

The irony of the whole thing now is
that my friend's wife now thinks that I am Father Christmas and now calls and sends texts requesting for money to take care of her antenatal drugs but I have refused to help because I believe it is wrong and she keeps pestering me.

Please what is your advice?

walozanga:


your are a responsible person my brother.

alimaa:
Iespecive a very close friend who has been like a brother to me right from our days in the university, we also worship in the same church, he was my best man when I wedded a few years ago. He got married this year and after the wedding things were not rosy for them the following month and I gave my little assistance as a friend. Around July this year his sister had a life threatening ailment and when he reached out to me I quickly responded with something meaningful. After some weeks his wife told me she was sick when we met in church, I quickly went to an ATM, made withdrawal and gave her money to buy drugs since her husband who happens to be my friend was not in town.

The irony of the whole thing now is
that my friend's wife now thinks that I am Father Christmas and now calls and sends texts requesting for money to take care of her antenatal drugs but I have refused to help because I believe it is wrong and she keeps pestering me.

Please what is your advice?

Shibaraba:

If you ask me... Na who I go ask?
Your Bible says whatever the right does the left shouldn't know about it. You just told the world. Blessing forfeited.
You think you're helping her? You're helping yourself.
No imagine she's reading this because you described her perfectly. Ask yourself...

Shibaraba:

If you ask me... Na who I go ask?
Your Bible says whatever the right does the left shouldn't know about it. You just told the world. Blessing forfeited.
You think you're helping her? You're helping yourself.
No imagine she's reading this because you described her perfectly. Ask yourself...

Homeboiy:
Make sure her husband is aware before you give her money