Hello Niraland, I've been thinking alot about this marriage thing lately and I've had different opinions in the subject matter, so I want to know what you'll have to say about it.

I thought about this question because most times I see young Men who are well doing financially and yet they say they want to enjoy life first before getting married.


So My question is short, and its this;

WHEN IS THE RIGHT AGE TO CONSIDER GETTING MARRIED AS A YOUNG MAN.......?

The right age for a man to get married is that age when his heart tells him that he needs a companion!

I think 30 is ok.

If you have a good&reliable job at 25years please do!

Plz make sure you have money first but I think around 30 is cool. I repeat——-> make sure you are financially OK first.

You better enjoy yourself more now cuz once u are married no late night outings and your wife go dey track you up and down with phone

You go dey busy so Tay u go forget to take care of yourself

Your wife go need your attention and your parents+friends go also need your attention

Before you dey used to married/couple’s life style it’s possible that your wife gonna get pregnant and u go come dey super busy

Once you married u no go want dey jump bikes up and down so u go want get one car or maybe 2 + cool apartment


My aproko analysis nah for you to get MONEY first before marriage o


If you have money your marriage go sweet so tay u go come dey blame yourself why you never marry since

But if you don’t have money ehn your life go dey boring so tay you go dey live your life in a reverse mode


I swear money nah bastard.

Dididrumz:
Hello Niraland, I've been thinking alot about this marriage thing lately and I've had different opinions in the subject matter, so I want to know what you'll have to say about it.

I thought about this question because most times I see young Men who are well doing financially and yet they say they want to enjoy life first before getting married.


So My question is short, and its this;

WHEN IS THE RIGHT AGE TO CONSIDER GETTING MARRIED AS A YOUNG MAN.......?

..

When you have Good job.. And you are financially ok.. Go ahead if you want to

I have been passing through this same issue for some time now.am close to 30, and my girlfriend of 4years is threatening to quick the relationship if we don't get marry by first quarter of next year. Looks like she is forcing me into the marriage and if I don't, i am the devil sent to her life to destroy it. I have some little cash with me to sort out the marriage but no stable financial source yet to build up a family. Don't really know what to do now.

e90:
I have been passing through this same issue for some time now.am close to 30, and my girlfriend of 4years is threatening to quick the relationship if we don't get marry by first quarter of next year. Looks like she is forcing me into the marriage and if I don't, i am the devil sent to her life to destroy it. I have some little cash with me to sort out the marriage but no stable financial source yet to build up a family. Don't really know what to do now.

If there's no stable source of income, please, hold on! Don't get married yet. I know the pressure that comes with being responsible for a family. You don't want to find yourself in that situation.

e90:
I have been passing through this same issue for some time now.am close to 30, and my girlfriend of 4years is threatening to quick the relationship if we don't get marry by first quarter of next year. Looks like she is forcing me into the marriage and if I don't, i am the devil sent to her life to destroy it. I have some little cash with me to sort out the marriage but no stable financial source yet to build up a family. Don't really know what to do now.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage !!


wish someone would help me with the "Use your head" meme.

9JAFULLBREED:
Plz make sure you have money first but I think around 30 is cool. I repeat——-> make sure you are financially OK first.

You better enjoy yourself more now cuz once u are married no late night outings and your wife go dey track you up and down with phone

You go dey busy so Tay u go forget to take care of yourself

Your wife go need your attention and your parents+friends go also need your attention

Before you dey used to married/couple’s life style it’s possible that your wife gonna get pregnant and u go come dey super busy

Once you married u no go want dey jump bikes up and down so u go want get one car or maybe 2 + cool apartment


My aproko analysis nah for you to get MONEY first before marriage o


If you have money your marriage go sweet so tay u go come dey blame yourself why you never marry since

But if you don’t have money ehn your life go dey boring so tay you go dey live your life in a reverse mode


I swear money nah bastard.

exactly bro...

4 me age shouldn't be a barrier in getting married but think of cash n other things dat follows it

You dont need anything more than a mate and the mutual desire to be married. You dont need money, nor job, nor anything other than that desire to spend the rest of your life with that person.

MrBrownJay1:
You dont need anything more than a mate and the mutual desire to be married. You dont need money, nor job, nor anything other than that desire to spend the rest if your life with that person.

Mr, are you serious? At these times, you really need the money for this marriage thing to work properly ohh, because circumstances can turn someone who really loved you against you due to lack of money

MrBrownJay1:
You dont need anything more than a mate and the mutual desire to be married. You dont need money, nor job, nor anything other than that desire to spend the rest if your life with that person.

Coming from MrBrownJ, I'm baffled.

Or are you being sarcastic?

Dididrumz:
Mr, are you serious? At these times, you really need the money for this marriage thing to work properly ohh, because circumstances can turn someone who really loved you against you due to lack of money

I fully disagree with your above point, money has absolutely NO Barring as to whether your marriage will work or not, the important point here is the desir to spend the rest of your life with someone. Now if you are broke, and your babe is broke too, and you both desire to get married and face life issues together, then how is that wrong for your Marriage?!

How can any circumstances related to money turn the woman (who loves you and want to spend the rest of her natural life with you) against you ?!?!

Gerrard59:




Coming from MrBrownJ, I'm baffled.

Or are you being sarcastic?

Bro, as much as i dont believe in marriage, i do understand what it takes to be married....now you need a lot of things to successfully be married, but money certainly Aint one of these things. You can be happily married without any of you having any more money than what you need to home/feed Yourself. Now if you Aint got money to eat then that is not a MARRIAGE issue but rather a life issue.

When he is old enough to make serious decisions by himself and face the consequences.

When he can afford to take care of himself and at least two more mouths.

When he's gotten beyond emotional trauma that mars most young men's mental well being

When he's gotten to the age where he understands that respect is earned and the wise picks his fight.

Then he is ready...ready to be someone's husband and possibly a father. It doesn't matter if he's 18 or 48.

MrBrownJay1:
You dont need anything more than a mate and the mutual desire to be married. You dont need money, nor job, nor anything other than that desire to spend the rest of your life with that person.

100% in agreement.

Mutual desire to get married is the ONLY thing required to be married. If your partner is OKAY and comfortable with your financial or social status, go ahead and get married.

e90:
I have been passing through this same issue for some time now.am close to 30, and my girlfriend of 4years is threatening to quick the relationship if we don't get marry by first quarter of next year. Looks like she is forcing me into the marriage and if I don't, i am the devil sent to her life to destroy it. I have some little cash with me to sort out the marriage but no stable financial source yet to build up a family. Don't really know what to do now.

What is the assurance that you will attain financial stability in your 40s, 50s?

That you're postponing your marriage doesn't guarantee anything. You can be poor today and still be poor tomorrow.

Know your worth, work within your budget and evaluate your spouse whether or not she fits into your lifestyle. You guys can grow. A relationship that survived 4 years can survive 8 years in marriage. Same stuffs you both have been eating for four years are what married people eat.

Do not joke with a 4 year relationship, especially one that's filled with sweet memories. Many boyfriend/girlfriend relationships don't last one year, even with money.

Acidosis:


What is the assurance that you will attain financial stability in your 40s, 50s?

That you're postponing your marriage doesn't guarantee anything. You can be poor today and still be poor tomorrow.

Know your worth, work within your budget and evaluate your spouse whether or not she fits into your lifestyle. You guys can grow. A relationship that survived 4 years can survive 8 years in marriage. Same stuffs you both have been eating for four years are what married people eat.

Do not joke with a 4 year relationship, especially one that's filled with sweet memories. Many boyfriend/girlfriend relationships don't last one year, even with money.

That's deep for real..... And you've made critical points

Acidosis:


What is the assurance that you will attain financial stability in your 40s, 50s?

That you're postponing your marriage doesn't guarantee anything. You can be poor today and still be poor tomorrow.

Know your worth, work within your budget and evaluate your spouse whether or not she fits into your lifestyle. You guys can grow. A relationship that survived 4 years can survive 8 years in marriage. Same stuffs you both have been eating for four years are what married people eat.

Do not joke with a 4 year relationship, especially one that's filled with sweet memories. Many boyfriend/girlfriend relationships don't last one year, even with money.

You deserve some accolades, thumbs up!

Thanks, Acidosis,Though you have a point here. But am in delta and she reside in Enugu, moving her over to delta means she is starting afresh.this make the whole thing kind of difficult for me.

Acidosis:


What is the assurance that you will attain financial stability in your 40s, 50s?

That you're postponing your marriage doesn't guarantee anything. You can be poor today and still be poor tomorrow.

Know your worth, work within your budget and evaluate your spouse whether or not she fits into your lifestyle. You guys can grow. A relationship that survived 4 years can survive 8 years in marriage. Same stuffs you both have been eating for four years are what married people eat.

Do not joke with a 4 year relationship, especially one that's filled with sweet memories. Many boyfriend/girlfriend relationships don't last one year, even with money.

Dididrumz:

That's deep for real..... And you've made critical points

Thank you

faithugo64:
You deserve some accolades, thumbs up!

Thanks dear

e90:
Thanks, Acidosis,Though you have a point here. But am in delta and she reside in Enugu, moving her over to delta means she is starting afresh.this make the whole thing kind of difficult for me.

Don't give up just yet. Invite her over to Delta and explain to her the state of things. Be realistic as much as possible. Chances are she might decide to hold on and encourage you to be a better man, quit the relationship, or request for marriage in the midst of the challenges. You know your woman more than anyone else, so I believe you'll do the right thing when you both have a heart to heart talk.