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KHUN met Sanni when she was posted to Kaduna for her mandatory one-year National Youth Service, in one of the modern secondary schools in the metropolis to teach mathematics, which she majored in at the University of Jos.

She considered herself lucky that the school was in the city and not in some remote part of the state, where some of her friends and colleagues were posted to. She soon settled down to her assigned duty with lots of gusto and passion. She also took up after school teaching appointment with two of the girls she taught mathematics in JSS1.

The twins‘ parents had noticed the dramatic improvement in the girls‘ knowledge of figures and mathematical computation and felt it expedient to request that Khun give them extra maths lessons at home, but of course for a fee. She took up the offer, glad that her teaching was yielding favourable results, but most importantly to have an extra income to augment the pittance she was being paid.

She became busy and rarely had time to unwind except when she travelled a few kilometres to visit her friends and colleagues in order to spend the weekend with them and then. Once every month, also she endeavoured to touch home to reassure her uncle, whom she lived with in Jos that all was well with her.

This was her predictable routine until she met Sanni. Sanni had been living in Kaduna for a little over a year. He also came to Kaduna for his NYSC and during his service year in the multinational he was posted to, he performed exceptionally well that he got retained as soon as his service year ended. Not only that, he was quickly made an assistant manager based on how well he had impressed the management of the company.

He lived with one of his elder sisters, Jumai, who had been married for five years, but without a child. As fate would have it, the twins lived in a home that shared a common boundary with Sanni‘s home.

On one of the evenings that Khun had gone to give home lessons to the girls, she accidentally bumped into Sanni. No one could tell if it was providence or sheer coincidence that they bumped into each other, but from that day, they gradually became friends and it soon snowballed into an affair and Sanni subsequently proposed to her.

She met Sanni‘s sister and his aged parents, who all approved of her and gave their blessings just as Khun‘s uncle, Jedidah, who was her only surviving guardian, equally approved of Sanni. What even made it a bit easier for Sanni was the fact that on probing him, Jedidah found out that he was secondary school mates with Sanni‘s eldest brother.

Sanni took Khun to meet with his aged parents and they gave their blessings. Khun was almost rounding off her youth service and they both decided to get married after she was through. Sanni on his own part didn‘t waste time in getting set for marital life as he got a furnished apartment and moved out of his sister‘s house.

They were both eagerly looking forward to marital bliss. They soon got married and two years later, there was no sound of the patter of tiny feet in their home as expected. Khun and her uncle were beginning to get agitated, but Sanni and his relatives, especially his sister, tried to reassure Khun and her uncle that all was well.

A year after this, nothing happened. Khun became apprehensive and sought medical help. She went through all manner of tests and was certified healthy enough to be a mother. Four years after she became disturbed and urged Sanni to go for medical check-up in case there was a problem with his reproductive organ so they could both resolve the problem or find a way around it.

This, of course, infuriated him and he didn‘t mince words in telling Khun off. How dare she think there was something wrong with him? If there was anything wrong with anyone, it had to be Khun, who was a woman and who was wired to get pregnant and have children, he reasoned. So if the kids were not coming, he reasoned that Khun either didn‘t get a comprehensive medical check-up or the doctor who examined her missed out something.

He ordered her to go for another check-up and she came back with the result – medically fit. She urged him to also do same so they could put an end to their frustrating situation, but he would not budge. She went to his sister to speak to him and she promised she would, although Khun suspected she did not eventually. Her uncle tried to intervene a second time and Sanni calmly told him not to meddle in their affair as they were both capable of solving their marital problems themselves. He said they were both not in a hurry to have kids. Besides, he added, they would come when they would as it is God who gives children.

Jedidah backed off knowing that something was terribly wrong, but didn‘t know how to go about it. He advised that Khun goes spiritual; taking her case to God in prayers with the hope that there would be divine intervention sooner or later. Khun went full swing and urged her husband to do same but he was simply nonchalant about it and this worried Khun to no end.

A firm believer in the sanctity of marriage, she shunned advice from friends and colleagues on some line of action to take. They advised her to have another man father her kids and pass them on as Sanni‘s, or dump Sanni and move on with her life since she was perfectly capable of having children.

But Khun couldn‘t see herself resorting to such ungodly advice, especially as she did not believe in divorce, having married in the Catholic Church.

She also took very strongly the vows, ‘For better for worse‘ which she made at the altar when she was being joined with Sanni as man and wife. She wanted to have children, but didn‘t like that Sanni was unfazed about their childlessness for 10 years, but did not want to leave her husband at the same time.

Please send in your responses and advice to Sanni and Khun

I think the best way for them to have a solution, let the husband go for medical check-up first then they will no were to start the Treatment. Please Khun don't cheat on your husband please stand by him and sort things out. Also seek the face of God because he answers our paryers and hes always there for us, GOOD LUCK.