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| This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by emechib: 8:00pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
FVKING SHYNESS LOW SELF ESTEEM I love God and Everything He's created. I love humans etc. But I don't get to enjoy them owing to. those anomaly. I am extremely lonely. I don't have friends. t I get blanked whenever I am asked questions. I am not a dullard neither am I physically challenged. but I just get blank at impromptu moment. I get tremors whenever I am under pressure. I can't hold simple convo with people. I feel I am less human them. I have tried so many way to overcome this. but it persists. Please help me. I am tired of being frustrated and depressed. Things I can do I don't do them. help 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 8:01pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
emechib: This is kinda personal for me. I used to be like you many years ago before getting into the University and throughout my time in the University. Believe me when I say your shyness can be overcome. I have gotten over it and so can you. There's no need to advertise your shyness. Those who are close to you already know, and others may never even have an opportunity to notice. It's not as visible as you probably think. If others bring up your shyness, keep your tone casual. If it becomes part of a discussion, speak of it lightheartedly. Sometimes we really are our own worst enemy. Don't allow your inner critic to put you down. Instead, analyze the power of that voice so you can defuse it. Shy people tend to have fewer but deeper friendships--which means your choice of friend or partner is even more important. Give your time to the people in your life who are responsive, warm, and encouraging. There are always a few people who are willing to be cruel or sarcastic if it makes for a good punch line, some who just have no sense of what's appropriate, and some who don't care whom they hurt. Keep a healthy distance from these people. Especially when you spend a lot of time inside your own head, as shy people tend to do, it's easy to distort experiences, to think that your shyness ruined an entire event--when chances are it wasn't a big deal to anyone but you. Shy people sometimes feel disapproval or rejection even when it isn't there. People probably like you much more than you give yourself credit for. Most of us are hardest on ourselves, so make a habit of observing others (without making a big deal out of it). You may find that other people are suffering from their own symptoms of insecurity and that you are not alone. Sometimes when you're scared, the best thing to do is to face it head on. If you're frightened, just stare it down and lean into it. Go out, speak to that pretty girl you've been admiring, what's the worst that could happen. Start living your life  3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
Stop watching porn and compulsive masturbation. Your freedom will cum...  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by greatnaija01: 8:05pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
STOP LOOKING FOR ATTENTION..... join a CHURCH/MOSQUE and join a unit go to a club and visit consistently go to and join GNLD.... FLP people and they will help you overcome your shyness go to a marketing firm and join them.... you are NOT REALLY SERIOUS but I feel you will learn with time. emechib: |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 8:06pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
emechib:Do you have any deformities? Physically, I mean. |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Bj5all(m): 8:12pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
sorry but only you can help yourself. growing up alone without children to play with can be responsible for this low self esteem from poor upbringing can be responsible temperament can also be responsible but whatever the causes are, it is up to you to build up yourself. Don't force yourself to always be the one to sustain a conversation, if it was always easy why don't the other person keep the discussion alive. it is normal to have some silence moments and if there is nothing actually to talk about, let the discussion ends. Another truth is nobody is ever prepared for impromptu questions, almost everybody still get anxiety so, you are not weird or dull. Personally i enjoy quiet life, not everybody loves a lousy lifestyle and you are not less human than those that have. we are all unique. you have to first understand these facts and accept yourself the way you are while you make rooms for improvement. 2 Likes |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Vicyace: 8:41pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
emechib: Do you masturbate? If yes. Work on it. If no, well, do you have a job? Are you financially okay? Do you supportive friends or famioly members? What makes you happy? What are your greatest fears? Answer these questions and adjust accordingly. Now, this works like magic. Anytime you get scared of people or talking to people, just ask yourself t his simple question. Does the person feed you or have any control whatsoever over your life? Then answer NO and get on with whatever you need to do. |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 8:51pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
have you tried refurbishing your mental faculties, your inner man (mind)? |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 9:13pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
emechib:Love ursef, you are a human, don't be frustrated, you don't have to hold long convo with people! You don't owe anybody anything. Master loneliness! I did, I don't mind holding to myself for weeks, I don't have friends, I greet those that greets me and talk to those that talked to me and then keep a straight face, and unleash the beast if they cross my red line!!! I don't look down on myself! At work, do your job, let your yes be yes and no, no. If you don't feel belong, pick your phone and troll nairaland! You are different from everyone, you are unique in your own way!!! 2 Likes |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by byinks(f): 9:19pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
Op has your freedom cum yet ?
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| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by JuzzJoel: 9:49pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by em28: 9:53pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
TarOrfeek: Effing has nothing to do with pride, success or prosperity. Every Man masturbates, The issue is why? |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by em28: 10:08pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
Lol |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 10:17pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED DEPRESSION |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Seandisputed(m): 10:28pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
em28:Because you masturbate doesn't mean every man masturbates. 2 Likes |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Seandisputed(m): 10:28pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
em28:Because you masturbate doesn't mean every man masturbates. |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 10:49pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
emechib:it seems you are my twin lol we have the same traits |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 10:53pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
op this girl might just be the solution to your problems
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| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Offpoint: 11:24pm On Jan 13, 2019 |
emechib: "The moment you start facing your fears, that moment you start overcoming them" -offpoint 2019. Come out of that cage of yours, if you're a Christian- start by giving special numbers in the church. once you face crowd more than once or twice...your confidence level increases, your self esteem increase. |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by emechib: 6:23am On Jan 14, 2019 |
emechib: |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by BeLookingIDIOT(m): 8:16pm On Jan 14, 2019 |
Your case is even good. These are amongst the symptoms of social anxiety disorder. |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 8:26pm On Jan 14, 2019 |
you have social anxiety disorder... you need to see a mental therapist. |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 8:32pm On Jan 14, 2019 |
Offpoint:you know nothing about social anxiety disorder. Abi, you want him to have a panic attack? Social anxiety is very hard to overcome, its not normal shyness.I pray it doesn't happen to you.. |
| Re: This Anomaly Has Made Me Entirely Depressed... by Nobody: 8:38pm On Jan 14, 2019 |
op
.. you need to see a mental therapist. |
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