This is according to the young man who thinks having kids in the first year of marriage is dumb and puts a strain on the relationship.

I understand his points but I think "dumb" is too strong a word to use in this context. In marriage, you will keep learning new things about your partner everyday and it will never be the same when you start having kids no matter the number of years you wait before having kids.

What do you think #mums?

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Oga we live in Africa where after wedding months later everyone stylish look out for a tummy bulge.........
BTW you can't label people's choice o when to have kids as dumb, this is a personal decision that should be respected.

People and their different perspective, u don't enforce it on anyone. It sometimes depends on the age u got married.

I understand his point. But to say it is dumb and ridiculous is unacceptable.

We don't all operate on the same time table, besides, we are Africans.

After a year, if Belle never show, your own parents will start telling you to see pastors and deliverance ministers.

That's aside your in-laws o.

If you now tell them you are waiting a year, a Yoruba mother will tell you "Oloun maje, igba ti o shey agan".

Theres still no particular time to raise an offspring after marriage o oga....if you are capable financially raising up kids early is actually the best thing to do...life's too deep

He has a point....
But he is pointless
Because he is not married..... End of discussion

So what would you say about those that had their kid(s) outside wedlock, got married and are currently living happily ever after?



Commomgetoutofhere!

Everybody wants to trend on social media with their half-baked ideas...

...Not knowing that what is applicable to Emeka and Chinenye may be totally harmful to Tunde and Folake.

Marriage is dynamic and there's no 'one solution fits all'

Na your own be that

Olalan:
Oga we live in Africa where after wedding months later everyone stylish look out for a tummy bulge.........
BTW you can't label people's choice o when to have kids as dumb, this is a personal decision that should be respected.

what do you mean we live in africa ? are you saying those who live in africa cant think of mistakes that routed in a culture or tradition

let me shed some light

1 even if you dated for 7 years(mostly in african culture and tradition you dont leave together your only see each other for maximum of days) you barely know each to understand each that you run a home just as the two of you

2 dating in africa is usually from your parents home/your own renting place, you know each through just visits that are coordinated (its total different from leaving together and adding a child )

3 it is better to spend more 4 years or more having just fun while planning and saving for the child future, especially in africa were from primary till university the education is not free

4 as much your might have pressure from family members try to defend your goals as couple by telling them the truth aka we are not ready financially to have a child so quick, most newly weds are tied up in looking after their little brothers and sisters skol fees etc on top of that you add your own child its recipe for same cycle of poverty

kennygee:
I understand his point. But to say it is dumb and ridiculous is unacceptable.

We don't all operate on the same time table, besides, we are Africans.

After a year, if Belle never show, your own parents will start telling you to see pastors and deliverance ministers.

That's aside your in-laws o.

If you now tell them you are waiting a year, a Yoruba mother will tell you "Oloun maje, igba ti o shey agan".

On point Kennygee, in fact, let's meet in the other room if belle dey hungry you.

He's very correct

I mean, this is common sense. I have always wondered why Nigerian couples have kids as soon as they get married, what's the rush?
You should only have children when both partners are comfortable in their marriage, stabilized in their careers and mentally prepared to have kids. why should societal norms come before common sense?

having your kids in 10years of marriage is the best decision you'll ever make

too many idiots this days forming woked, it's irritating

I know people who said they won't get pregnant in their first year in marriage cos they wanna enjoy themselves before kids start coming,its normal but in Africa if after 3 months you wife is not pregnant,then everyone will want to know what's wrong with her,a friend of mine who got married 1month ago was explaining how people have started using style to ask how far now,The husband self dey complain.....What works for you might not work for me