larryking540:

People day chose again sofer say the Bobo get camery, and he day dress like big man, ,,he is OK..na to give am wahala make he quickly engage u

Even the bobo sef should be smart.

Many women are now marrying for money.

Elder0001:


You lack wisdom .





When did I say that to you ?

You have a dumb brain. Most alpha males lack wisdom.

I hate people who claim to b intelligent but only for u to ask them a question and discover they were just trying to blend under the group of WE ARE SMART OR VERY BRILLIANT, ,,,

We have ur type in the university who doesn't study but hover around course mate having cgpa of 4.00 to make it look like them self sabi book
it is only during the final year u will see them still battling with carry overs up and down

Annwrites:


Even the bobo sef should be smart.

Many women are now marrying for money.

God help us make we kw act poor make we no loss our woman

And God also help us make we know act rich way we go carry delilah go hux as wife

loswhite:
Since it is over rated then there should be no need for this topic after all she can focus on her dreams and buy all the properties in the world

That's my point

Annwrites:


Even the bobo sef should be smart.

Many women are now marrying for money.

no b lie o
Even to date them self na problem cus if everywhere hard small they go start to frown face like dog,
I fit just born pikin move on with my life, I kw fit for some ladies attitude

DivineIsGreat:

Ok you've said yours.....do you know that in some family, they don't care if it's your money or not as long as the property is in their son's or brother's name?
Yes, I'm married, my husband buys properties, we buy properties with our joint account, I buy property with my own money and you don't want me to buy it in my name that has my husband's surname attached
Let's assume the husband dies tomorrow, some extended family will now come & claim everything, leaving wife & kids with nothing just because I bought a property with my money but foolishly in my husband's name huh
Pls, leave Christianity out of it...even the Bible say a virtues woman sees a vineyard(investments) & buys it.

NB: my writings are based on a marriage consumated in God between two belivers. If one partner is an unbeliever then the case might be different since both principles would be different.

I spoke in the assumption that a Christian man (not one by lip service) should have been taught to structure his home in such a way that the wife is completely secure. In your case, your husbands family has made you insecure which is very understandable. I would have favoured a situation where your husband does all that is reasonably possible to assure you that your intrests are fully protected, which i assume that you guys have done . There is nothing wrong in the property being in either of your name as long as this is what the both of you have agreed. The challenge usually arises when you have marked some things as yours and not for your husbands and he marks others as his and not yours, this is the challenge and usually leads to divorce because these properties become so important to the extent that one partner is willing to leave the union because of the property. This is why partners harbour devilish plots against their spouses and i would rather get such stumbling blocks out of the way than live like it doesn't exist and then ruin my home at the end. I do not expect every one to operate by biblical principles and standards just as I do not expect anyone to drag me from living by the lay down biblical principles.

If your marriage is socially secured, by that I mean, both families are of the same religion and culture, it's better if men themselves buy their houses in their wives names

Going through this thread will make one lose interest in marriage
A wise man once said "the most reasonable ladies are found offline"

Omudia11:
You egoistic maniacs won't make good husbands.

oh really, People like us are the only people who can tolerate you feminist bullshyt as long as you know ur duties as a wife.


My sister, Men and women will never be equal, d only reason you can compete with men is because Majority of us pity the opposite sex & always give them room to shine

Someone that you sleep on the same bed with, eat with and build a home with, you will buy properties without informing them. What then are we married for? Your husband will discuss all his investments and businesses with you but something as straightforward as buying a property will be hidden. This generation of youth is definitely heading for doom. Marriage has now turned to a battlefield.

Where there is love, there are NO embarrassing surprises.

flyca:
Do you know why my parents still live in a rented apartment after 38 years if marriage?

My “submissive” mum always sort consent, which she was never given! And her bible told her to “submit”, so all her years of marriage, she submitted to the man's will. My dad? Never saw the need to buy a land, build a house, good to good schhols etc because his bible told him to be “content”.

38 years after, REGRETS everywhere. Lol

Consent my foot! I may notify you (depending on how you sail our ship) but I cannot allow you to drag me backwards. Impossible!

Annwrites, you are very intelligent
Cc: MahatmaGhandi, keepingmum

Hope you won't have a problem when your husband buys properties for his parents without informing you because it is his money?

flyca:

Why talk about my father this way? Why? Do you know him? Will you be happy if someone talks like this about your family? You lack home training. Why hurt me with careless words? Wait for Karma.

And also I do not need your pity. I am a successful woman. Thank you.

You really shouldn't let words from those who are nonenetities and rely on social media and likes for a sense of importance bother you. Not now, not ever.

The person you quoted probably has no father nor a father figure in his life. What you should feel for him is pity, not hurt. Trust me, his type won't even have the courage to walk up to you in real life, so why bother about his worthless opinion?!

Is marriage not meant to be a partnership?

To be honest, I'll feel betrayed and hurt if I'm not informed. I'll also feel you don't trust me enough. Especially if everything I do I seek your opinion or consent for.

Nelsizzy:
Hope you won't have a problem when your husband buys properties for his parents without informing you because it is his money?

Giving information and seeking consent are they same?
Some of you eh... SMH

More so 21st century marriage is partnership.
You want love give love. You want respect, give respect. You want to be asked for consent, seek consent of your spouse too etc

Except you marry a woman from an earlier century!

Where there is love, mutual respect etc, there will he no need for all those “unpleasant surprises”.

zicoraads:

You really shouldn't let words from those who are nonenetities and rely on social media and likes for a sense of importance bother you. Not now, not ever.

The person you quoted probably has no father nor a father figure in his life. What you should feel for him is pity, not hurt. Trust me, his type won't even have the courage to walk up to you in real life, so why bother about his worthless opinion?!

Thanks a lot, your message helps and I appreciate.

flyca:

Giving information and seeking consent are thry they same?
Some of you eh...

It is basically the same thing. You seek consent by giving information. Why do y'all make marriage seem like y'all are enemies? I for one won't have issues with a wife that decides to own property. But she MUST tell me before doing such. We are partners in the marriage. Thank you

A wise woman would not buy anything in her husband's name if she does not trust him, if he cannot protect her ...whatever wrong you see a woman do , a wrong caused it,that is if its wrong to buy a property in your name that carries your husband's surname

flyca:

Giving information and seeking consent are thry they same?
Some of you eh... SMH

More so 21st century marriage is partnership.
You want love give love. You want respect, give respect. You want to be asked for consent, seek consent of your spouse too etc

Except you marry a woman from an earlier century!

Where there is love, mutual respect et , there will he no need for all those “unpleasant surprises”.

Seems we are on the same page then.

Nelsizzy:
It is basically the same thing. You seek consent by giving information. Why do y'all make marriage seem like y'all are enemies? I for one won't have issues with a wife that decides to own property. But she MUST tell me before doing such. We are partners in the marriage. Thank you

You are welcome.

Some Coments here shows why our society is decying morally...i just realize through most coments here that mny people here don't know what marrige is, many think its just coming together of man and woman, signing agreement to live together, sex together if possible make babies. Its not a competition, but a union to compliment one another.

flyca:

Why talk about my father this way? Why? Do you know him? Will you be happy if someone talks like this about your family? You lack home training. Why hurt me with careless words? Wait for Karma.

And also I do not need your pity. I am a successful woman. Thank you.

Ignore him please, now you can know the kind pf person he is.

A woman should buy properties in her name especially if the man buys in his name only.

I would inform my husband but anything I’m buying with my money will have MY name on it.

The things my eyes have seen and ears heard eh concerning Nigerian men. Better to err on the side of caution. Let him be aware but there is no point including his name especially where he buys in his own name only.

ct2:
I won't join issue with you , I only made my opinion which am entitled to ,you don't have to like it. you have your opinion which I will not question. but calling me a greedy thief is the hight of it, you have never meet me ,I only wrote my view.

Your view is stupid.

NoToPile:

Some men are inhibitors, some are enhancers
Some are glory suppresor(they talk you out of whatever they feel will make you shine)
Some want the best for you, some want the best for you as long as you dont grow more than them once it seems you are shining they become resentful.
Some are laid back they need someone to push them to do almost everything. Wife has to push and push
Some want you to get to your full potentials.
Some are plain evil


Orishirishi dey ooo
Know the kind of man you married and deal accordingly shikena.

Thumbs up

I intend to buy properties on my full names, not husband name join, but I will let him know a day before buying it. If he wants to buy ,he can buy . And all my properties will be willed to my children .
Cause my late mum willed hers to us and that's what gave us the leverage we have financially in opening our own companies and buisnesses .
While our late dad willed his own to all his children from other wives with us . War in my father's properties between the siblings excluding me is terrible .

When I saw the rivalry and power tussle , I vow never to have a hand in my dad's properties , so I can live long. I simply focused on what my late mum left for me and my sibling. I'm content with it . With that been said , I will definitely Will all I have to my kids .

daddyfreeman1:
Your type are those that don't have sense. You have head but no Brain. Chop my shit nigga... How can a lady like you say such a thing? This shows you don't have respect for your husband. I guess you're not yet married. And you're saying all this, and your future husband is looking at you.

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she is a teenager.. don't stress yourself

obembet:
Is there anything wrong with a wife buying a property in her name?

To me, I think many of we ladies and married women misbehaves whenever we are privilege to have some properties. So I think it's better to let our husband aware of any steps we want to take.. Some men will even approved and support it.

Guys let's hear your opinion, let others learn from your views.

There is nothing wrong... It is her money... The property belongs to her and her children....

flyca:

I told you that my father was “content” by his own understanding of the scriptures. How can this be an insult? How dare I insult the person you who fully and responsibly saw me through school? Do you have to insult him? Does calling him a fool make you happier?

I don't feel happy right now the way you have addresses my very own blood. You hurt me deeply by your careless statement but don't worry. Your daughter will be my age someday.

"Content" or contented? I equally feel you did not represent you dad in the best way possible. To be honest, your description of him left much to be desired. It is obvious you struggled to present a vivid picture of his disposition to acquiring properties, next time when revealing an unpleasant fact about a relation be very careful of your choice of words. Cheers!

Elder0001:



I pity the woman who’s going to marry you or that has married you .

I shed tears on her behalf because I know what she’s/or will pass through in your archaic hands.

My choice and decision on how to manage my family is based on tested hypotheses. If you have never been married for at least 35 years using your sick hypothesis, then I have got nothing to learn from you.

You must have been married for 35 years, never laid your hands on your wife (and vice versa), never threaten or sent your wife out of your house, and you must show evidence of peaceful coexistence between you and your 1 wife and children before I can adopt whatever you have to say.

If you can't show the aforementioned, then keep your mouth shut or better start crying over your soon-to-crash gigolo family.

Call it archaic, I do not care.