My girlfriend threatens to kill herself if I breakup with her. im really worried and feel like im in a bondage i was going to report to the police but wanted to seek advice on NL first to know what to do ,cos she has been texting me all day , the reason for breaking up is because i am traveling abroad and i dont really see a future with her only known her for 3 months ,pls advice

How old are u?

You are not responsible for her life. If she opts to end it it’s her choice and you should not feel guilty. She is emotionally blackmailing you and that’s blatant manipulation. Continue with your plans and do what you have to do if she ends her life that that’s it she will be very dead.
Don’t be sucked up in all her mind games. Actually she should be ex-girlfriend by now.

mmadu5:
My girlfriend threatens to kill herself if I breakup with her. im really worried and feel like im in a bondage i was going to report to the police but wanted to seek advice on NL first to know what to do ,cos she has been texting me all day , the reason for breaking up is because i am traveling abroad and i dont really see a future with her only known her for 3 months ,pls advice

I just remembered Malone's Sunflower track. Maybe she's a Sunflower, and her love will be too much.

On a serious note, these days you need to be emotionally intelligent when dealing with people dear to you. I don't know the reason she's acting that way but obviously you may have more information. She may love you more, may have invested more and all of that, I'm just saying.

Breaking up with people these days is on a per individual case and no one size fits all. You need to apply emotional intelligence. Since you want to give her the L, don't just bring it up blatantly to her. You start by reducing communication, slowly but gradually. We both know if she hurts herself right now, there's no way on earth that you won't feel concerned.

So as earlier stated, put yourself in her shoes, then you would know how to deal with her.

You have two goals:
1. Show her the L in the most spontaneous and tactful way possible, slowly and surely. (Think like a diplomat)

2. Don't make her hurt herself. Be a man.

Cheers mate

report to both ur parents.

search for suicide on nairaland and see stupid reasons.

if u like, take am play.

u bin told.

Bamz:


I just remembered Malone's Sunflower track. Maybe she's a Sunflower, and her love will be too much.

On a serious note, these days you need to be emotionally intelligent when dealing with people dear to you. I don't know the reason she's acting that way but obviously you may have more information. She may love you more, may have invested more and all of that, I'm just saying.

Breaking up with people these days is on a per individual case and not one size fits all. You need to apply emotional intelligence. Since you want to give her the L, don't just bring it up blatantly to her. You start by reducing communication, slowly but gradually. We both know if she hurts herself right now, there's no way on earth that you won't feel concerned.

So as earlier stated, put yourself in her shoes, then you would know how to deal with her.

You have two goals:
1. Show her the L in the most spontaneous and tactful way possible, slowly and surely. (Think like a diplomat)

2. Don't make her hurt herself. Be a man.

Cheers mate

thank you

MissRaine69:
You are not responsible for her life. If she opts to end it it’s her choice and you should not feel guilty. She is emotionally blackmailing you and that’s blatant manipulation. Continue with your plans and do what you have to do if she ends her life that that’s it she will be very dead.
Don’t be sucked up in all her mind games. Actually she should be ex-girlfriend by now.

thank you sis

You knew you will be travelling abroad, yet you proposed love to her?

This is what some of you guys are always into, make some one head over heels in love with You, then dump her like trash.

You didn't know it will hurt her right?
She will get herself but it will hard I know, but I pray she gets the comfort to move on cos your type is evil.

MissRaine69:
You are not responsible for her life. If she opts to end it it’s her choice and you should not feel guilty. She is emotionally blackmailing you and that’s blatant manipulation. Continue with your plans and do what you have to do if she ends her life that that’s it she will be very dead.
Don’t be sucked up in all her mind games. Actually she should be ex-girlfriend by now.

I know you have dated several guys in your whole life that you don't feel anything when they break up with You, but then Sis, everyone can't be you.
You didn't see how he has gotten the girl in love with him and you think it's so easy to.let go.

Why should you even date someone you know you have no future plans with @ op.

I thank God it's still early, she will.bounce back.

Guy just play along. D moment you leave this country all I can say is actions speaks louder than words

Its simple. Don't breakup with her. Just travel abroad.
But you get mind sha. You knew you were travelling 'ablood' in 3 months time and you approached her. Smh..

Some guys are wicked. Atleast you opened up to her some will just be acting up making a fool out of the girl. When they break your own heart make sure you accept it the way you want her to

Do well and hand her over to someone else to occupy that position before u zoom off.

Thats has been said to me countless of times, at first i was giving a shit, later i realised it was just sheer manipulation and stopped giving a shit. I even met of of them recently and shes even doing shakara for me. Like wtf? I tot u wud die without me...

mmadu5:
My girlfriend threatens to kill herself if I breakup with her. im really worried and feel like im in a bondage i was going to report to the police but wanted to seek advice on NL first to know what to do ,cos she has been texting me all day , the reason for breaking up is because i am traveling abroad and i dont really see a future with her only known her for 3 months ,pls advice

You and your big mouth must you tell her that you don’t want her again?

This is emotional blackmail. I wonder why a woman will kill herself cause a man wants to travel out, its pure manipulation.

Please don't travel out again o.....

Pun intended*

mmadu5:
My girlfriend threatens to kill herself if I breakup with her. im really worried and feel like im in a bondage i was going to report to the police but wanted to seek advice on NL first to know what to do ,cos she has been texting me all day , the reason for breaking up is because i am traveling abroad and i dont really see a future with her only known her for 3 months ,pls advice

Oga breakup and travel with ease, women have no problem breaking up esp when it comes to issues concerning the advancement of their life. It didn't work out it didn't work out life goes on. Don't let any woman guilt trip you. You know how many women done break up with guys with ease when relocating. Pls

Sniper full everywhere.

MissRaine69:
You are not responsible for her life. If she opts to end it it’s her choice and you should not feel guilty. She is emotionally blackmailing you and that’s blatant manipulation. Continue with your plans and do what you have to do if she ends her life that that’s it she will be very dead.
Don’t be sucked up in all her mind games. Actually she should be ex-girlfriend by now.

You are very cold and extremely unfeeling towards the travails of a fellow woman. The young woman is apparently lovestruck, hence her inability to think properly.The young man nonetheless must carry out his plan, but I expected a sort of knid word from you to him.

To the topic: don't just dump her like a tissue of paper. Her suicidal threat is a demonstration of uncertainty and love. Even if you don't see a future with her, at least, her peace with her before you travel.

you don't see a future with her yet you approached and professed love to her.. That singular act of yours is sheer wickedness. You knew you were traveling yet you played with her emotions? Or do you think she's a cyborg without an iota of feelings in her veins? If someone should mess with your sisters in such a crude manner, how would you feel?
Let your conscience be your judge dude.. I'm done advising the likes of you and I pray she muster enough courage to move on cos truly you don't deserve her!
Goodluck!

mmadu5:
My girlfriend threatens to kill herself if I breakup with her. im really worried and feel like im in a bondage i was going to report to the police but wanted to seek advice on NL first to know what to do ,cos she has been texting me all day , the reason for breaking up is because i am traveling abroad and i dont really see a future with her only known her for 3 months ,pls advice

Someone is using reverse psychology on u. Bro just tell her u will come back for her. Gradually reduce communication with her blaming it on u trying to settle in the new location. Girls love attention and once she isn't getting it from u, she will get a casual friend at first and then it will enter another phase. Gradually she will forget u and both of u won't even know when u stay weeks without getting in touch

mrblessed:
You are very cold and extremely unfeeling towards the travails of a fellow woman. The young woman is apparently lovestruck, hence her inability to think properly.The young man nonetheless must carry out his plan, but I expected a sort of knid word from you to him.

To the topic: don't just dump her like a issue of paper. Her suicidal threat is a demonstration of uncertainty and love. Even if you don't see a future with her, at least, her peace with her before you travel.

Well said sir! Not everyone can handle breakup amicably, the least he could have done is have a heart to heart talk with her, make her see reasons with him and not dump her outrightly just because he's travelling out.
Na you be the first person to travel out ni?

All these bloody feminists are here saying trash, blaming the op and insulting him.
Later they'll travel thousand miles to receive preeq.

Tueh!

Paxie55:

I know you have dated several guys in your whole life that you don't feel anything when they break up with You, but then Sis, everyone can't be you.
You didn't see how he has gotten the girl in love with him and you think it's so easy to.let go.

Why should you even date someone you know you have no future plans with @ op.

I thank God it's still early, she will.bounce back.

And all this you stated gives the girl all the excuse in the world to end her life?
If you don't know how to handle situations that don't always go your way, you will live a miserable life cos you won't know what it means to be resilient in this crazy world we live in.

chiommy123:
Some guys are wicked. Atleast you opened up to her some will just be acting up making a fool out of the girl. When they break your own heart make sure you accept it the way you want her to

Logic should have it that a guy that travels abroad will most likely end up with another woman there,
but emotions have it that the guy should be blind to other women and keep the distance relationship that is 1000s of miles away alive, even though there is no idea when he will come back home.

Logic has it that a guy takes a chance to make the most of his life when the opportunity presents it self (even though it means traveling abroad).
But emotions has it that love conquers all, as long as we love each other, nothing matters and we should never be separated, nothing should come between our love for each other (and that includes sacrificing the opportunity of have a better life by sacrificing all on the alter of love).

Oh,
I just remembered (most)women are emotional creatures devoid of logic and common sense.

You are the emotional type.

Paxie55:
You knew you will be travelling abroad, yet you proposed love to her?

This is what some of you guys are always into, make some one head over heels in love with You, then dumb her like trash.

You didn't know it will hurt her right?
She will get herself but it will hard I know, but I pray she gets the comfort to move on cos your type is evil.

Michelle55:
you don't see a future with her yet you approached and professed love to her.. That singular act of yours is sheer wickedness. You knew you were traveling yet you played with her emotions? Or do you think she's a cyborg without an iota of feelings in her veins? If someone should mess with your sisters in such a crude manner, how would you feel?
Let your conscience be your judge dude.. I'm done advising the likes of you and I pray she muster enough courage to move on cos truly you don't deserve her!
Goodluck!

Calm down guys. We don't need to get so emotional here.

You see, professing love to someone is neither a binding agreement that can't be broken nor a covenant. If marriages can be annulled, then what is some child's play relationships often fueled by infatuation?

I see no act of wickedness here, neither am I here to judge. Op has made his intention known, which could be as a result of reasons best known to him.

Also of note is the fact that one can be in love now and then the next moment, the love is gone. Also, we don't love unconditionally. It therefore means that when what brought the love in the first place is no longer there, then the love too will find its way.

Let her do it na.

MissRaine69:
You are not responsible for her life. If she opts to end it it’s her choice and you should not feel guilty. She is emotionally blackmailing you and that’s blatant manipulation. Continue with your plans and do what you have to do if she ends her life that that’s it she will be very dead.
Don’t be sucked up in all her mind games. Actually she should be ex-girlfriend by now.

Guy shut up. Will you say this if you are the gf? Just forming uncessary feminist online and offline you be hypocrite.

mmadu5:
My girlfriend threatens to kill herself if I breakup with her. im really worried and feel like im in a bondage i was going to report to the police but wanted to seek advice on NL first to know what to do ,cos she has been texting me all day , the reason for breaking up is because i am traveling abroad and i dont really see a future with her only known her for 3 months ,pls advice

Where you they travel they go which country?