wetdick:


LOL, you read what i wrote upside down. attention to details is very important, i was talking about what will happen to the 23 years OP not your brother

That's his choice to make .

Let him follow his mind , cos that's where lies his answer .

lefulefu:
well as long as he is happy

For him to stay til 20 years and still counting means hes happy .
No fight , not quarrel, no calling of family to settle case , no beating , he looks very content , whenever I visit him . So he should be happy .He's not complaining .

Reiko:

This is exactly what is holding me back..all the hopes and expectation of my family will just crash....

The problem here is your age and maturity. Are you man enough? Is her character tolerable? Doesn't she act to control you a times? Did he always sees you as a man? This and many more is what you should ask yourself. Do a background check on her personality, family, source of income, people she is associated with. As it has come to marriage issue and you're trying to give it thought, begin to act more as a man. Reduce the way you collect money from her. Let her see something different in you not the normal "Money boy"... Ur real personality. Take ur eyes off her money...be ambitious... Use what you have gain(money) thus far to develop yourself(career-wise e.g professional cert.or skills). Most importantly PRAY about it. To convince your parent is not an issue, tell them your plans and be matured about it.......

If you eventually go ahead after fulfilling the above, I will advice you relocate from that area or state and start a new life elsewhere. I pray thee God's guidance in your decision and wish you all the best

DMerciful:
No wonder I'm crushing on you....Always very intelligent!

Thanks. Make I send PM, me sef dey find sugar daddy...

It seems like you guys haven't dated for too long. She is not a "sugar mummy". It is insulting for you to call her that. The age difference is not bad but you are clearly not ready.

Date her seriously and honestly for 2 months and review your state of mind.

Paxie55:
Wooow. I'm flabbergasted all of our nl menist and hoe shouters have deserted this thread.
None has called him a gold digger, hoe, farm tool, olosho and all type of derogatory names being allotted to ladies here, even when the op vividly call her his sugar mummy. This shows That, these men are only envious of the female folks and lacks the opportunity to turn themselves into feminine gender, if not, they would have been worst or done worst. Look how they are cheering him up.

What do I expect, we are in a generation of bloody hypocrites and emasculated sissies.

This one just dey para eh.......

She is not sugar mummy ok...I was thinking 45 mehn!!! You better change your state of mind towards her and make sure you have chains of business alongside that bet9ja shop so that you can reciprocate later....

she is not old to be a sugar mummy if you ask me...love is the first thing you check if you are so sure you love her and she loves you back...go ahead man....

Nothing is new in this world my brother, marry and wife her ASAP. You have a business and wife to her name now! Wise up

Okay...I created this moniker just because of this..I really need your advice..
I was posted to ughelli,Delta State during my service and since then i have been here even after my service ended..Along the line I meet this lady in her mid-30s, a beautiful one in a supermarket(bestway supermarket) and from there we became friends. At about a week later I met her same location and we just greeted each other. Luckily again we met there in about a month later and it was then we exchanged contacts and we began chatting..Eventually we became close friends,I visited her(since I really had no friends here) she stays alone..from there feelings started and one day when I visited her,she insisted I sleep over..That night we had unprotected sex..I was scared and she told me i shouldn't worry that she's disease free..She later asked me out and i agreed...She's has opened a shop for me (bet9ja shop, well furnished) and she's says we should get married that she will sponsor the wedding..Shes very beautiful, rich and good in bed...Please nairalanders I need ur advice, she loves me and i love her also but I'm scared of what my family and friends would say..i might be ridiculed...I have secretly done hiv and other screening test twice and it showed am negative. I'm 23 years old