NPComplete:
There is nothing like being led by the spirit to a lady. I repeat; there is nothing like of such. Why is the spirit always leading u guys to the beautiful sisters first? Why doesn't the spirit lead u guys to a sister u have never met before? Why is it always someone in your vicinity? And why does the spirit always lead u guys to another sister as soon as the first choice rejects u? It seems the spirit cannot make up its mind and always relies on chance.

By the way this sister u think the spirit is leading u to now is obviously not your first choice. You are desperately seeking a partner and because she is the only who seems available now who probably gives u attention, u think the spirit is leading you because u can tolerate her owing to her good qualities.

Leave the spirit out of your confusion bro.

Seun:
Can you describe what the experience of being led to someone by your spirit is like? Has there ever been a time when you felt that you were being led to do something and in the end you discovered that it was not correct? Is it possible that you are mistaken in this case too? Would you rely on your spirit to pick the right answers for you in an exam?

Something you should know: If your lady-friend starts using better make-up, quality fake hair, quality jewellery, more stylish clothes that fit her perfectly and show some skin, etc, you’d probably be physically attracted to her. It would be as if she was a totally different person.

luvmijeje:


Bros, the OP said he's being led to someone he's not attracted to?

NPComplete:


Yeah that's what he said. And that's because the one he is actually attracted to wouldn't give him the time of the day or has been hitched by someone else. So the desperate guy is now back to the unattractive good girl that is available and he is now trying to rope one spirit into his confusion.

OP, leave the spirit out of your confusion.

luvmijeje:


You do have a point. Your comment reminded of a friend who couldn't leave this babe despite the spirit and his family being against her.

And I'm like guy, shebi you said God said this babe no be your own. And what came out of the guy makes me to burst out into laughter.

He said that babe they give am different kind of style.

luvmijeje:


What do one rely on to pick a wife?

luvmijeje:


NPComplete, I initially asked Seun this question, knowing him, he will think I'm trolling or setting a trap for him.

I really want someone who will answer me genuinely from another perspective.

Esthered:
Dear OP, you made mention of your spirit leading you. My question to you is how do you hear from God? God speaks to His children in so many ways therefore do you hear from Him?
If you can answer sincerely, you wouldn't even put the question on a public forum. If it's truly the spirit, he'll open your eyes to things that makes her desirable to you beyond her looks and whereas your mind is elsewhere hence the confusion. God is not an author of confusion.

NPComplete:


Yeah that's what he said. And that's because the one he is actually attracted to wouldn't give him the time of the day or has been hitched by someone else. So the desperate guy is now back to the unattractive good girl that is available and he is now trying to rope one spirit into his confusion.

OP, leave the spirit out of your confusion.

luvmijeje:
What do one rely on to pick a wife?

Anfieldboss:
You made some salient points, she is actually not my first choice but I'm not desperate and she is actually beautiful, though not my kind of beautiful, I like curvy girls and she is straight.

NPComplete:


There's not really a one-size-fits-all approach to this. It depends entirely on the individual.

Some would seek beauty only; just a trophy wife. Others will seek intelligence. Others good character. And some will seek a form of combination of these 3. Some even marry a woman because she is rich or has connections. In the end every man will do what they find interesting.

Now depending on all those, u may either rely on ur own judgement to find one. Or your friends. Or your family. Or even your church or pastor. But each choice has its concomitant disadvantages. There's no one that guarantees a perfect marriage. All have worked. And all have failed.

In the end u have to rely on the hand that fate deals to you.

Seun:

Common sense, I guess. First you figure out what qualities are most important to you, then you start searching for someone who has those qualities, after upgrading yourself to a level that can attract such a person.


Keep searching until you find what you like!

CaptainStephen:
I didn't even bother to checkout my wife's physical assets the day I met her, it was later I noticed.

sherylbakky:
Really?
Tell me, what attracted u to her?

sherylbakky:
Really?
Tell me, what attracted u to her?

CaptainStephen:
Her kind heart and cheerful spirit.

laurenjones:
OP I understand your fears. There is this feeling that you might have regrets in future especially if you later come across a woman that meets your desire.

Your joy may never be 100%,

Anfieldboss:


That's my fear, I want to be satisfied with my wife, I don't want to have cause to look at another woman when I'm married.

1StopRudeness:


U are already making a big mistake thinking that marrying your carnal choice or spirit led choice or wateva choice is what will make u not to look at or desire another woman...

.U a man, a specie of variety, u don't have one shoe, or clothe. U will always see and want more....The fact that u live for Christ and spiritual may help u in your journey of self control...So u know u are no longer slave to the sinful desire of the flesh....
Oga , don't get it twisted u will jam ladies that will make u feel like for a second to rewind time, even opposite to the what u use to think is ur spec...It's ur willfull decision that will keep you not because u married a particular spec of lady.......