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She's Getting Me Confused...."help Out Pls" / So Confused ,,,,,HELP / I Love Her, I'm Proud Of Her But I'm Confused Help ! (2) (3) (4)
| His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Nobody: 6:17pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
My close friend and his "Fiancee" have some serious issues and I need you to help him. Carefully follow the cases below. CASE 1: She is afraid to get married and My friend feels that after 2years of wonderful rship she shd love him enough beyond her fears to get married to him the next day. CASE 2: 6months into their rreship she went to her EX's place and slept over. She claimed notin happened, they had serious fight and my friend forgave her. CASE 3: Again 3 months after that he discovered she was taking money from that same EX and he still forgave her. CASE 4: 2years into their rship my friend discovered hot romantic text messages her supervisor at work sent to her. she denied initial but later cried for forgiveness, she claimed she just got carried away. CASE 5: 4days after the text message wahala, she organised a little birthday party for her mother and didn't tell him about it, even when he was with her till 11pm the previous day. Her supervisor at work bankrolled it. This time my frd was mad and he confronted the "supervisor" and people are claiming it is childish, But I think I cld have done worst if I where in his shoes. She is now begging and desperately want the rship. Her attitude actually prove it is true. My frd loves her so much, he cld give his life for her, but his afraid of recurrence of such event when they are married. I love this person too and am asking him to give her another chance, but deep down am also afraid I may be leading him to a marital doom! What do u think? pls advice, should he leave or shd he stay? |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by MOBO444(f): 6:24pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
There goes the black woman again, dump her fast. |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 6:32pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
Obviously she was after money. . . collecting it from all and sundry and shez prolly ready to settle down now. . . if your fwend can stomach all these things she has done and learn to trust her once again {which i seriously doubt} he can go back to her but if he cannot look past all wat she has done he berra forget her and move on.A relationship dat is not based on trust and openness is totally baseless |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by LordReed(m): 6:36pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
It seems she herself is afraid of wat she might do afta she's married cos even afta being involved in a 2 year relationship she can do all those 2 d guy then he needs to tink 2ce. As a matter of course he should sit her down n ask her wat it is dat makes her go 2 orda guys. Wat is he not giving her? Money? Attention? Sex? Romance? She should be open about it if she really wants it. 2ndly he needs to be firm wit her and let her know dat she can't keep messing him up like dat, he has to put his foot down. |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by 1105(f): 6:59pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
MOBO444:  |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by double08(m): 7:10pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
You should have dumped her like 6 months ago,what are you still waiting for? |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by pharmking: 7:32pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
Are people just bind or something? Reccurence of behavior means that the person is not making an effort and that's how she run her life. Obviously the girl knows that no matter what the guy won't dump her. I would dump her long time ago and not beeing in a relationship for 2 years. |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by 912(m): 7:43pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
If your friend is wise he will understand these words "Marry her and you marry misery" |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 7:56pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
 Men know how to kiss each ova's butt ha ha if its a man dats doing this y'all expect the girl to forgive and think of wen the going was good now the coin is flipped and you are all screaming dump her dump her like its the national anthem Am sure the guy too must have done somethings that his friend failed to mention here dont be sentimentally biased abeg |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by double08(m): 8:01pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
googles: its a man's world,GET USE TO IT!!!!!  |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 8:06pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
double08: I refuse to |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by double08(m): 8:14pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
googles: get married to two men at the same time then you go know the real truth |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 8:17pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
double08: Done that and guess wat ?? am still breathing in my world !!!  |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by double08(m): 8:33pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
googles: on point |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 8:38pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
double08: i just dismissed yur "man's world" theory boo i had my cake and i still ate it and even kept the remaining in the freezer "manz world" existed in the yester years mehn ryt now its whoever is smart's world  |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Osama10(m): 8:53pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
googles: Be truthful, its a man's world. |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by double08(m): 8:53pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
Osama10: leave am jor |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 8:57pm On Aug 20, 2010 |
Osama10: well i expect yuh to console yurselves but hug reality Mr Laden |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Osama10(m): 12:11am On Aug 21, 2010 |
googles: |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Ladyjide(f): 1:37am On Aug 21, 2010 |
Leave her, |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by vivaladiva(f): 1:57am On Aug 21, 2010 |
tanx google all these men need to wake up n smelll the coffee of 2010 its a mans world or u fink its a mans world because women let u get away wiv murder---but am happy some sisters r waking up now n giving as good as they get give it anoder 50years all this its amans world will be a thing of the past even if it is a mans world---it aint even a black mans world |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Jaideyone(m): 1:59am On Aug 21, 2010 |
googles |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Hubcool: 1:59am On Aug 21, 2010 |
He should leave her, his girlfriend sure doesn't care about him [img]http://s04.flagcounter.com/count/JPIn/bg=FFFFFF/txt=FFFFFF/border=FFFFFF/columns=1/maxflags=1/viewers=3/labels=0/pageview=0[/img] |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 8:09am On Aug 21, 2010 |
vivaladiva: ***DEATH*** Jaidey-one: SIR !!! |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Nobody: 8:14am On Aug 21, 2010 |
vivaladiva: now imagine where that leaves the hapless black woman. poor thing. |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by philip0906(m): 8:51am On Aug 21, 2010 |
Sometimes I wish civilisation never reached d doorsteps of africa. . .many of these girls 4 no dey open mouth anyhow |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 9:02am On Aug 21, 2010 |
philip0906:  |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by philip0906(m): 9:04am On Aug 21, 2010 |
^^ Gooooooooogles. . .how your night na?y u dey twist mouth like dat na? |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by googles: 9:14am On Aug 21, 2010 |
davidylan: vivaladiva: MOBO444: [b]intra-racists  philip0906: am fine. . . . i was only wondering if you were referring to me ni |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by Niiade(m): 9:37am On Aug 21, 2010 |
[color=#000099][/color] First i would advice u support your friend on any option he chooses,dont support his girlfriend just plead on her behalf, If he want marriage with her he should relax on that issue now.let the girlfriend work for it and prove she wants to get married to him.not the other way around and secondly this issue is one sided so replies u should get would be one sided, He should keep this relationship open cus she has been havin an open relationship with him and keeps in contact with her options tht he found some and still not found the rest, he should scout other options. He should take her but use his head to check for serious changes in her,not the lovey dovey thing again o |
| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by 1105(f): 9:38am On Aug 21, 2010 |
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| Re: His Confused: Help Me Help Him by philip0906(m): 10:45am On Aug 21, 2010 |
@Googles no not u. 190.:I just pray ur mouth won't take that shape permanently |
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