I don’t wake up any morning and decide I’m going to get into a rift with anybody and same with millions of people in the world. When I sit or lie down to consciously plan my day most mornings, I don’t add ‘have a 30mins misunderstanding session with my loved one" and neither do these other people. It’s one of those things that just happens… even to the best of friends.

The most lovey-dovey couple have misunderstandings; close siblings misunderstand themselves; colleagues, too. I hope you now get the picture: having misunderstandings in your relationships is not an accurate indicator of its un-wellness. You don’t have two people in that ship and think it won’t happen.

As common as this occurrence is, it holds great destructive powers when not handled right. When the two people involved, communicate from different emotional wavelengths, they ruin things. When the focus shifts from the problem at hand to tearing the esteem of one another, they further ruin things. But deep within their hearts, that’s not the solution they’re hoping for.

Then, how do we go about handling misunderstandings, when they arise, without losing treasured relationships in the process?

I’ll reference and paraphrase a scripture that helps: as much as is within your power, live peaceably with all men. This shows there’s something we can do, there’s resident power to. Let’s see a few guidelines.

Firstly, if something the other party does offends you, in clear words, make your grievances known. Don’t start acting funny and then expect them to pick the cue, not everyone will. And then, you’d further be angered because of failed expectations.

Secondly, don’t always up and run when there’s a squabble. Stay and figure things out; stay and resolve things. Staying means:

-listening to their side (what they have to say),

-understanding them (seeing things from their viewpoint),

-calmly stating your hurt and not spoiling for a fight,

-loving and desiring their company— your together time— even when you feel like putting a planetary distance between both of you.

In general, staying means communicating with a tank full of love.

Thirdly, place great value on what you share and what you mean to each other. See the conflicting matter before the both of you as the problem and not each other. And so, attack the problem not yourselves.

Fourthly, don’t spend time that would be better spent in productive labour, creating mountains out of molehills. 

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