To add to all I've said before i leave work, I have also experienced g/f's paying their cheating b/f's back and i know how them guys felt. A friend of mine almost killed himself cos he just couldn't accept the fact that the g/f cheated.

Play them at their own game if u wanna accept the status quo like a no-hoper and if not move the heck on. It's really a free world. No one was born to suffer in pain

that is very true~ paying them back in their own coin.

Jaybee i am not pleased with what u are saying 1 bit,

U are spoiling my GF here,

Look @ her agreeing 2 what ure saying

U go answer query from me later!!

so its good 2 pay evil with evil, shakes head, Jaybee we would do this outta nl

jay bee:

To add to all I've said before i leave work, I have also experienced g/f's paying their cheating b/f's back and i know how them guys felt. A friend of mine almost killed himself cos he just couldn't accept the fact that the g/f cheated.

Play them at their own game
if u wanna accept the status quo like a no-hoper and if not move the heck on. It's really a free world. No one was born to suffer in pain

From a man's point of view this is maybe the way to go but,SPITE will not solve this.

She would be better to leave the HUSBAND and start a CLEAN life .

2 wrongs do not make a right, her kids are more important than getting back at her husband.

Choice!

Cheating, like excessive drunking, lying, ill-manneredness, laziness etcera is a personal flaw. Unless that individual is willing to recognize that, that particular trait is his/her weakness and genuinely work towards being a better person in that aspect, change can never occur.

How does choice come in? Place cheating on an imaginary scale and put his other attractive qualities on another and then, decide - Are the positive qualities strong enough to make up for his cheating nature? Can you live with it and its aftermath [now and/or in the future, favourable or unfavourable]?
If Yes - Stay there and enjoy the loving side of him while it lasts.
If No -  Walk away.

Then  again, what's the guarantee that, the next man You'D meet isn't a cheat  too - Worse still, a cheat and not even half as caring as the present man - ? What's the guarantee that he doesn't have a drinking prob - He probably may not be a cheat but a drunk and an abuser- ? Would you prefer a drunk to a cheat or a liar or an abuser?

My point? They say everyone has (a) flaw(s) [I agree].
I think, all one has to do is settle with the person whose flaw(s) one thinks one can put up with.
Assuming this man's name is 'A' - [one of] A's flaw(s) is cheating.
Can you put up with this flaw - cheating- ? Or you'D rather walk away and find someone with a more acceptable [to you] flaw?
You will not meet a Mr Perfect anywhere, you'll always, like now, have to choose to stay or leave. Choice!
The ball is in your court.

@post
nothing actually

i can never stand a cheat
but again there is no perfect Man
but this lady made the Man sound so perfect with little no perfection attitude that makes one have a second thot

y me:

i can never stand a cheat
but again there is no perfect Man
but this lady made the Man sound so perfect with little no perfection attitude that makes one have a second thot

I am shocked the way Nigeria ladies hide under the shield on online computer,I CAN NEVER STAND A CHEAT,well all know how you all end up been 3rd, 4th and 5th wifes.

MOBO444:

I am shocked the way Nigeria ladies hide under the shield on online computer,I CAN NEVER STAND A CHEAT,well all know how you all end up been 3rd, 4th and 5th wifes.

nah wa ooo

wetin come concern mofo like you with me ending up as the 25th or 100th wife nah

in as much as the Man isnt a degraded retard like you am cool with it

What really stuck out for me is the fact that she is making excuses for this guy, even going as far as blaming the women for taking advantage of him because of his charm, damn VULTURES She only knows of 3 women the man has cheated with, there could be more that just remained under her radar. We are all human and make mistakes but once is enough, this guy is a walking morgue. . . . . . . . .