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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Kenziee: 12:43am On Feb 28, 2019 |
This is serious |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by susanfrancis25(f): 12:53am On Feb 28, 2019 |
dis matter get weight ooo, pls just go and confess to ur family members and ask God for forgiveness. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by wman(m): 12:54am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Notice how this thread was matured with people giving helpful advice. But the moment it was moved to front page, the immature brats started commenting. 5 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 12:55am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Hmmn. This matter strong oo. Op, if you have money, secretly do a DNA test between you and the girl. If you find out she ain't yours, bury the matter. If she is yours, do whatever will put your mind at rest. Just have it in mind that things won't remain the same again. Good luck. 6 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by JAMIJEC94: 12:55am On Feb 28, 2019 |
you be sharp guy but no go again ooo |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by aku626(m): 12:57am On Feb 28, 2019 |
First you must be truthful to yourself. Are you truly seeking to free yourself or you are yearning for your child? They’re quite a number of homes that are In the same boat as yours(not having kids). I understand how conscience might be pushing you to make amends however it must be thought through over and over. Would your confession at this point help your wife or home or family at large? If NO suspend it get to a omgood counsellor and open up to him or her for better advise. The Bible says He who covers his sin wouldn’t prosper, at some point you’ve to confess and seek forgiveness from your wife and brother but do so when the time is right. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Kylekent59: 12:58am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Blood will flow if you tell your brother. Incest Betrayer taking away the said to be daughter he loves so much. Two questions you need to ask yourself 1. Is is better my action keeps hunting me or is it better I get freed 2. Is it better I keep pretending to be saint or I confess my sins and make up for a better life. Talk to your other brothers about this. Tell them it has to be discreet till the right time. Tell your wife how you were forced and you fell and what it resulted to. I believe if your wife finally forgives you, your problem will now be your brother. Assemble with your other brothers and your wife and say it. Free yourself once and for all. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by ONY3KAH(m): 1:02am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Modupetemmy1:take this advice... I will add that if you must confess go to a catholic priest/pastor that's away from your immediate vicinity.. confess to him and move on. Put everything in prayer. If your wife finds out, she might not be able to control her reaction and thereby cause more harm than good. Your brother's case will be worse he'd either kill you or himself.. and then you go dey regret say you tell am in the first place. 3 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by lakefist(m): 1:04am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: Talk to ur wife first. She is d only one dat can defend and stand with u. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by KingOfAllIgbos: 1:06am On Feb 28, 2019 |
This would make a great movie script...if true..hmmm Assuming it is ... this is exactly why i can't trust a woman even with my shadow not to talk of with a brother ALL men, no matter how much you love your wives should do DNA tests I have seen a family of 5 where first 3 were confirmed bastards that the man's best friend had been donating 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by tunwumi: 1:07am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: Firstly you erred. But how are you sure the one you called yours is even yours. A lady that had sex with more than a single man cannot tell who father the child. Telling your brother or opening up will not solve any problem I can guarantee that. It will cause more damage than good for you, your brother, the innocent child and your wife. Get a good hospital and personal doctor let your wife be examined and guided. Please let the buried dead rest. Resurrected dead don't bring joy that's why everyone run away. What would you have done if your wife or brother tell you the same. 4 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by cmecproblem(m): 1:11am On Feb 28, 2019 |
OP PLEASE DO SOME RESEARCH ON RHESUS COMPLEX, YOUR CASE IS NOT SPIRITUAL YOU CAN FIND A SOLUTION FROM YOUR FINDINGS. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by nairalanduseles: 1:15am On Feb 28, 2019 |
My brother don't let anyone deceive u.......It's a medical condition u will need to see a specialist |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 1:16am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:I won't tell him if I where you, just find a good hospital and they'll give you great solutions. God has forgiven you, but going down that road with your brother will break him more. Come on! He has gone through alot already, if you must tell him out of guilt why do it now his broken? He needs help to stand on his feet back again so don't torment his soul please. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Charsidy255(m): 1:21am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:my candid advice for you is that wen next your wife is pregnant, get her pregnant care drugs. It will make her baby to stay. She wouldn't have miscarriage again |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 1:22am On Feb 28, 2019 |
OKOATA: How can your Best Friend sleep with your GF. Mehn me I can't forgive that kind of thing. If it's the Girl I want to marry, I will kill the guy honestly, It's either I die OR we both die. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 1:24am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Michelle55: Omo mehn, if I catch that Best friend.I go kill am straight up! No excuse, na death by Suicide I go do sef. Hang him, then put a note with his hand writing. God punish Devil. Mtchew!!! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by DeLaRue: 1:24am On Feb 28, 2019 |
This is all about you, you and you. You are not thinking of the others involved in this. You claim the secret is killing you, but disclosing this family secret will 'kill' and do immeasurable damage to several people. Consider the emotional turmoil this is likely to create in your 'daughter', her three siblings, their father - your brother. Straight away , that's 5 people whose lives may never be the same again after your disclosure. Then, there's your wife who will not forgive you in a hurry for the grave dishonesty of keeping this from her all this while and who may also begin to see you as the source of her pregnancy- related problems. I fear you're going to end up ruinning a lot of innocent lives. If anything, you've waited too long. The girl is 10 years old. She's known your brother as his father all along. What on earth would she make of the news that 'uncle' is actually her father. You risk messing this girl up for life. You are about to throw a devastating emotional bomb into her young life. You had the opportunity to take responsibility and not sleep with that woman. You didn't. You could have come out immediately it happened and do the so-called confession. You didn't. To come out now would be very selfish. Like I said in my opening, it would be about you satisfying you and you alone. This is one secret you should keep to yourself, if only for the sake of that little girl. 10 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 1:24am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Michelle55: Omo mehn, if I catch that Best friend.I go kill am straight up! No excuse, na death by Suicide I go do sef. Hang him, then put a note with his hand writing. God punish Devil. Mtchew!!! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by cj1900: 1:24am On Feb 28, 2019 |
YOU ARE A BLOODY BASTARD... YOU HAVEN'T SEEN NOTHING YET |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 1:26am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Gosh which kin life b this. See confusion and life story. This is a secret that you take to the grave because once it’s out, it will turn into a bigger disaster. Keep your mouth closed. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Wizklynd23(m): 1:33am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Confess Bro.. Lieing again will mean digging another hole Again for yourself.. Just open up & confess |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by keshybabe(m): 1:35am On Feb 28, 2019 |
humm.. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Sirmuel1(m): 1:36am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: I feel for you Bro. I pray you find inner peace. Let me tell you something, in this life, some things are better left unsaid. I think you need to forgive yourself and move on. He is already heartbroken, don't destroy him by telling him this story. He might never forgive himself 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by boban007: 1:38am On Feb 28, 2019 |
LET ME GIVE U A SINCERE ADVISE THE FACT THAT U SLEPT WITH UR BROTHER'S WIFE AND THE BABY LOOKS LIKE YOU COULD BE A MERE COINCIDENCE SHE COULD HAVE BEEN PREGNANT FEW WEEKS OR DAYS FOR YOUR BROTHER WHILE U WERE STILL SLEEPING WITH HER.U NEED TO BE SURE OF THIS THROUGH THE WIFE OR DNA TEST U MAY BE WRONG AFTER ALL.SECONDLY IF U TELL ANY OF UR SIBBLINGS URE RUINED FOR LIFE AND UR MARRIAGE WILL ALSO WRECK UNFORTUNATELY U WERE YOUNG THEN BUT PUTTING MYSELF IN YOUR BROTHERS SHOES I CAN NEVER FORGIVE U TILL I DIE.EVEN UR WIFE'S MISCARRIAGE COULD BE A COINCIDENCE TOO.FOR NOW SEEK MEDICAL AND SPIRITUAL HELP.PRAY TO GOD SINCERELY FOR HELP AND FORGIVENESS ABOVE ALL FAST AND PRAY FERVENTLY ONCE A THIRD PARTY KNOWS U WILL NEVER SURVIVE THE ONSLAUGHT U WILL REGRET IT AND RUIN IT IMMEDIATE AND EXTENDED FAMILY.DONT JUST ROCK THE BOAT BUT TRY DO A DNA TEST ON THE 10YR OLD CHILD U MAY HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN UNKNOWINGLY.UR STORY IS A BIG LESSON FOR ALL TO LEARN FROM. 3 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by themosthigh: 1:38am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Never confess |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by placeofallure(f): 1:40am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: You did this atrocity at a much younger age when you could barely tell your right from left in the midst of the confusion and temptation. That's what you'd tell yourself to justify your misdeeds. But your brother or wife or any of the other family members won't see it that way. To them, you are an evil, sly, conniving bastard! There's nothing to say to absolve you of the blame, you are guilty as charged. Now that you seem to be remorseful, first things first. There's nothing connecting your wife's inability to carry a pregnancy to term and your mistake of yesteryears. Your wife's condition is absolutely medical, not spiritual or extra terrestrial, so seek medical solutions. She'll be fine and you'll have legitimate babies. Then, ask forgiveness from your wife first. This is so the both of you can work together. It will be you and her versus the family. After your wife, you can then inform your brother in Dubai. With him, arrange for the moment you'd tell your brother. Don't tell him alone if you don't want your 6 feet journey to be quickened. Good luck as you take the bold step. 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by 2hrt(m): 1:42am On Feb 28, 2019 |
U wasted ur time to advise him. This is the best advise i read so far but the idiot is keen on finally demoralizing his brother... My guy sincerely, listen to what this woman has said above. Reasons: 1. Your relationship with your brother will never remain the same even if he forgives you. You stand the chance of losing your only brother who is around you, the other is in dubai. 2. You do not want your daughter back, so! let sleeping dogs lie 3. With the present state your brother is, he most likely will kill himself 4. You spoke of Conscience; take it as a punishment for what you did and find peace with God. 5. Your wife accepted your daughter as your brother's child, your wife might not be so nice to her knowing she is your daughter. The attitude of an average Nigerian woman. 6. What you did might not be the cause of your wife miscarriage. like someone suggested on the trend, go to the hospital, it could be the issue of Rhesus. Know that the overall decision lies with you, but how will you feel if, all I have listed above happens after confessing to your brother? You chances of been forgiven are very slim, and chances of worsen your brothers condition are high. [/quote] 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by koolaid87: 1:51am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Nigga, as a Yoruba man, raised by watching Yoruba movie, I'll conclude that the day you bring your daughter into your house to live with you permanently is the day your wife get delivered of the spirit of miscarriage On a serious note, you need to talk to some elders in your family, and share the secret with your brother. It's no more your concern if he forgives you or not. But pls do the right thing You can't trivialize the taboo you placed on yourself by having sexual affair with his wife. Go to him and explain what happened, involve elders in your family, prior to doing that As for your wife, she'll understand and if not, it's up to her Nothing trumps freedom and a great deal of inner peace PEACE! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by na2016: 1:54am On Feb 28, 2019 |
OP, dont confess! Except you want the drunk man to kill you or kill himself and your marriage to scatter. Take your wife to another hospital. The problem maybe incompetent cervix and can be handled medically. |
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