Dear nairalanders,

I really need ur help! Ihave been goin out wid this guy for the past 3 years! The first 1 1/2 years were beautiful, we met eachothers family and even thought about settling down after finishing university! We went on s holiday and just had loads of fun together. Until he started to change towards me and confessed tht he was having a 7months relationship wid a ugandan girl at his working place! .my world fell apart, particularly when the girl started harrasing and insulting me, tellin me all the nasty things which she used to do wid my bf ans how ugly I was and god knows what!! Althougj I was hurt I decided to forgive him and got pregnant, but lost the baby after all the stress!he at first tried his best to make it up to me after his affair and went back to treating me like a queen, !but he later on started to become obsessive and paranoiid and started being violent and abusive to me! He once even raped me! I thought tht I was pregnant after that incident and told him about it but all he cud say was: don't bring any bastard into my house, I can't be the father of this 'thing'that u may b carrying.I cried myself to sleep on that night but - was lucky tht I wasn't pregnant after I tested negative for a pregnancy! Ireally want to break up wid this boy, because I feel like I have lost all my dignity,self confidence and pride- but - don't know why I still luv him and believe it everytime he tells me that he loves me and can't live without me! Guys I need ur advice concerning this issue

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U mean he rap3d u?
Abeg mak d nxt pesin type com coz i de speechless.

you are on the weak side.You have to be bold and call it quit,he will come back,but avoid him and with time you will get it off.

@poster
RA-PE, INFIDELITY, PHYSICAL ABUSE, EMOTIONAL ABUSE. . . . . . . . . .be careful DEATH is the only one left on that list!
and if you keep on having unprotected s e x with this guy, knowing fully well that he is cheating on you, then it might come knocking at your door sooner than you think with an HIV+ test.

you are in a difficult situation where you have to DISENGAGE yourself from that love and let your BRAIN take over. just like if you were in love with a murderer, no matter how good it may be, this love would be wrong!

this is a serious case of CRAZY IN LOVE!

I feel very sorry for you. It's obvious from what you've told us that he doesn't love you any more. Please pack your bags and leave.
Please do so before death knocks on your door.

190, :

Who ever preaches epistles in his post should please leave it outside!!

whoever has nothing to say should refrain from posting.

Get out NOW!!!!!! Save yourself girl!! That isnt love!!!!!

I will advice you to pray to God he know all things, this are one of the attribute of love. Don't mind people giving you advice to leave him if you know you truly love him call and sit him down, tell him d positive moment you people have share together, i.e Your both plans, your dreams for him etc. and if it still persist you can call me on 08028369369 for special advice on this.

'The attributes of love' What rubbish!!!! Just an excuse you guys use to control people!!

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@poster,True love use 2 live 4ever,Never fades,Never dies but be4 dis can come true a person must be patient,enduring.My sist pls keep enduring and all shall be well

babe you need to be strong.nobody but you can help you in this situation.
Quit working so hard to make the rship work.

If you have frends try and hang out more with them.keep talking about the pain to any listening ear.be gentle with yourself.tell yourself and believe you deserve a better man.
Remind yourself you are a woman and you are made to be loved not abused.write a list of y you must leave him.
If by anychance you have an admirer hang out with him go on dates wth him.
Avoid him

@andromida, do u think dats d best 4 her to do?

How else d'you leave anybody apart from just 'leaving' them? There's no magic to it, i promise. Just up and leavvve!

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Rocktation: How else d'you leave anybody apart from just 'leaving' them? There's no magic to it, i promise. Just up and leavvve!

Exactly!!

@OP, I know it's hard for you, judging by your efforts, time and emotions you've put into the relationship, but the harsh truth is that, that relationship WILL NEVER work out. No matter how you keep hoping for him to 'change', he won't. Just quit the relationship, endure the hurts and pains and move on

You NEED to dump him.Well I know our ladies,they prefer men that feeds them Shit,so any advice here wud fall on deaf ears.

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