Kenshinmunac:


Thanks a lot.. I'm just frustrated and fed up. Never been lucky with this relationship stuff no matter how hard I try.

Offpoint1:
I see a ship whereby 2 captains are trying sail,
A kingdom where 2 kings are trying rule,
A pack of wolves with 2 Alpha male,
A car where 2 drivers are trying to drive,
I see a perfect ingredient for a disastrous home.

Op, you don't need my advice... you need common sense. You don't have 2 madmen in a room and expect a tidy room.

Kenshinmunac:
Good evening everyone, I have an issue, I just met this girl recently. At first she seemed very calm quite and reserved until I got to find out that she is this very impatient type of person that gets angry easily and talks back at one, if I ever try to raise my voice at her when she does something I don't like she will be like "are you shouting at me I don't understand, you are raising your voice?"

I am now even scared to talk to her and correct her because she will talk back at me and it will lead to argument because I hate my gf talking back at me, and she is so fucking proud and won't calm down and I too am the type that get angry easily, I can't seem to cope with this her character guys I'm thinking of ending the relationship, but it's hard cause I got attached to her already

She has refused to be controlled and like to do what ever pleases her. She basically wants to make the rules in this relationship and I don't want to let her so I don't seem like a weak man. We have broken up and made up twice now because of this anger issue we can't seem to tolerate each other and I don't want or give her the chance to make the rules

I'm afraid if I get married to her tomorrow the union will end up in disaster as it will be filled with quarreling and fighting except one of us come down for each other and I don't want to be her foot mat since I'm the man in the relationship I feel she should come down for me since I will be the one to take care of her, provide and shelter her. I deserve that fucking respect she has no right to talk back at me over the slightest of things just because I express my displeasure over things she does wrong.

Please guys, advice me I'm fucking heart broken right now. I still love her and we broke up again this evening and this time with a whole lot of word exchange guys.

I'm just confused. I hate moving from relationships to relationships. I'm so fragile emotionally. It fucking devastates me

Oyindidi:
Swallow your pride and you'll enjoy life not just relationship

cococandy:
You’re a control freak. She’s not your child!

Just listen to yourself and the words you’re saying.

You want to control her
You’re correcting her
You’re raising your voice at her
You get upset that she talks back at you.

Like she’s supposed to keep quiet like a child and listen to you talking condescendingly to her in the name of correction.
What are you correcting her about? What makes you think you know more than her and as such are in position to correct her.

You’re just upset that she isn’t accepting of your mansplaining.
What normal person looks for who to control?

I hope she sees the signs and leaves you before she ends up in a horrible marriage with someone looking for a subordinate, not a partner.

I wonder whose raising these prideful, egocentric boys who think they can come into a woman’s life and run the show. Oh I know.

GTFOH

Macfortune:
I think you're the one withholding yourself. Two captains can't be on same ship. You have anger issues, same with her, one needs to learn to tolerate each other. If you love her like you claim, getting rid of your anger issues doesn't make you a weakling.

However, since you both are not ready to let go off your egos, it's best if you guys go your separate ways and this time, mean it. But try and talk to her about the need for her to change. If it's futile, then walk out of the relationship.

Macfortune:
I think you're the one withholding yourself. Two captains can't be on same ship. You have anger issues, same with her, one needs to learn to tolerate each other. If you love her like you claim, getting rid of your anger issues doesn't make you a weakling.

However, since you both are not ready to let go off your egos, it's best if you guys go your separate ways and this time, mean it. But try and talk to her about the need for her to change. If it's futile, then walk out of the relationship.

Kenshinmunac:


True, Thanks brother

majormofor:

so this topic reach page 8 sha I just hope u already know what to do, pls abandon ship o,she will come later asking to join the ship. Start seeing other girls

Kenshinmunac:


I am not really pride I just don't want to take nonsense from anyone I'm just strict, but to people they think I'm proud, but I won't tolerate anything I don't like from any body no matter what. I'm very sensitive to things.

Kenshinmunac:
Good evening everyone, I have an issue, I just met this girl recently. At first she seemed very calm quite and reserved until I got to find out that she is this very impatient type of person that gets angry easily and talks back at one, if I ever try to raise my voice at her when she does something I don't like she will be like "are you shouting at me I don't understand, you are raising your voice?"

I am now even scared to talk to her and correct her because she will talk back at me and it will lead to argument because I hate my gf talking back at me, and she is so fucking proud and won't calm down and I too am the type that get angry easily, I can't seem to cope with this her character guys I'm thinking of ending the relationship, but it's hard cause I got attached to her already

She has refused to be controlled and like to do what ever pleases her. She basically wants to make the rules in this relationship and I don't want to let her so I don't seem like a weak man. We have broken up and made up twice now because of this anger issue we can't seem to tolerate each other and I don't want or give her the chance to make the rules

I'm afraid if I get married to her tomorrow the union will end up in disaster as it will be filled with quarreling and fighting except one of us come down for each other and I don't want to be her foot mat since I'm the man in the relationship I feel she should come down for me since I will be the one to take care of her, provide and shelter her. I deserve that fucking respect she has no right to talk back at me over the slightest of things just because I express my displeasure over things she does wrong.

Please guys, advice me I'm fucking heart broken right now. I still love her and we broke up again this evening and this time with a whole lot of word exchange guys.

I'm just confused. I hate moving from relationships to relationships. I'm so fragile emotionally. It fucking devastates me

royalair:
If you think nairaland will help you on this hmm you deserve....

daniwise:


If this is all U have to say then I feel really very sorry for ur bf/husband.

SifonAbasi:
This platform saved my marriage.

cococandy:
You’re a control freak. She’s not your child!

Just listen to yourself and the words you’re saying.

You want to control her
You’re correcting her
You’re raising your voice at her
You get upset that she talks back at you.

Like she’s supposed to keep quiet like a child and listen to you talking condescendingly to her in the name of correction.
What are you correcting her about? What makes you think you know more than her and as such are in position to correct her.

You’re just upset that she isn’t accepting of your mansplaining.
What normal person looks for who to control?

I hope she sees the signs and leaves you before she ends up in a horrible marriage with someone looking for a subordinate, not a partner.

I wonder whose raising these prideful, egocentric boys who think they can come into a woman’s life and run the show. Oh I know.

GTFOH

So what's your advice again??

Oyindidi:
Swallow your pride and you'll enjoy life not just relationship

Kenshinmunac:


I am not really pride I just don't want to take nonsense from anyone I'm just strict, but to people they think I'm proud, but I won't tolerate anything I don't like from any body no matter what. I'm very sensitive to things.

castrol180:


One of the talkative feminists sighted once again

shakuna:
Have been in its kind of relationship before, trust me bro is she keep behaving you won't seek for advice before you run for your life just forget about getting attached to her your future is very important bro.

Oyindidi:
Expect less from people, how old is the girl?

Renegadefrank:
You both need to deal with your anger issues. Also, her pride getting in the way is wrong as relationships need compromises, so long as you do the same. Nonetheless you have to find out whether she talks back at you because she's independent minded/strong willed or because she's stubborn. You find that out, then you can move forward with a solution coming from both of you. All in all, it's not rocket science, you should sit down and discuss your problems and compatibility. If it won't work, go your separate ways and stop making yourselves miserable. Godspeed and best wishes

castrol180:

In what year? Though I know it's uyo