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| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by mmadu5(m): 12:13am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: OP you forgot to add im i sure im not a KID |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:18am On Mar 12, 2019 |
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| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by OmonoWrites: 12:18am On Mar 12, 2019 |
I had concerns about finances because a lot of couples break up because of money. Turns out, I married someone who has the same mindset like me, we get along just fine when it comes to finances and the other stuff  12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by princessayesha(f): 12:19am On Mar 12, 2019 |
If your heart is pure and you have good intentions you will have a very successful marriage. If you are a good person you will attract a good partner ( you attract your kind ) if you are a player or a cheat, well, keep a seperate bank account for DNA tests ( if you know what I mean ) 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by DP84: 12:23am On Mar 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1:The struck out part is too Walt Disneyish. Don't think the world and your surrounding will pan out in slow motion when you meeting the one. Often times, it is quite the opposite; someone you prolly never imagined or hoped. In the end, it is a great leap of faith. 11 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:23am On Mar 12, 2019 |
stevups:word, i pray father lord let us end it well, 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Special8019(m): 12:24am On Mar 12, 2019 |
I'm 32yrs but still unmarried, not because I don't like to or because of[color=#006600][/color] money but I just have constant concerns, worries, and fears. I have been in relationships severally where we both love, respect and care for each other; but I call it off every time it was getting really serious, not because of any grievous issue in particular (because nobody is perfect) but just because of worries and fear of the unknown. Some of the worries I have are things like: - Would I still like her in the near future after locking it down with her in marriage? - Am I sure I have considered all my chances? - Am I sure I won't regret my choice or find a better choice tomorrow? - Am I sure this is the right person for me? - Am I sure I'm not walking into misfortune with my two eyes open? - Am I sure I'm done a balanced analysis in making a choice or just looking at one side? Some people think I don't like marriage or that I'm just flexing, but these fears and concerns make me develop cold feet whenever a relationship I'm in start getting serious. These fears and doubt are real. So guys, what were your fears and concerns before getting married and how did it turn out after been married. When your ready for marriage you will embrace your fear. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:26am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: Due diligence. U must be an accountant or a banker |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Elvisu: 12:28am On Mar 12, 2019 |
I’m 42yrs and yet to marry. May God help me. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Platony(m): 12:31am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Let me start with "Nobody is Perfect". Secondly, wen u find d right person,... Ur heart will convince u. U jst have to be tolerant & at same time, love ur partner in marriage with d help of prayers too, dat is wat is keeping mine. Two wrongs can't mk a right. U & ur partner must be tolerant & understanding also, try to settle issues amicably because marriage unfolds things u never saw during courtship. Even if u guys dated for 20yrs, marriage itself has its own version of updating u guys. Have u not asked why people divorce? Some will say : Him/She no know say na so him/she dey b4?? My brother thats an ancient talk because I've come to know dat Marriage is ever ready to unleash a different u. It only takes a wise man or woman to sail through marital challenges till old age. Dnt be scared bro,...U'll sail through & always remember "NONE IS PERFECT". #Shalom 11 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by jaxxy(m): 12:33am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: I had very similar fears back then because 1.I didn’t know what I wanted, I was only knew the physical looks. So I meet A and like her, then meet B and get confused. 2. I didn’t Know what was priority in the person I wanted considering the fact nobody is perfect. (Searched for perfection) 3. I wanted more experience. 4. I lacked insight and knowledge 5. I hadn’t understood the complex nature of women.(I do now to a good extent) 6. I didn’t understand the concept of love. 7. Art of discipline. Bottom line, know exactly what u want and go for it. The rest doesn’t matter. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by davillian(m): 12:40am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Gentleziggy:And that's were karma will show him pepper. This dude is not ready for anything serious Mr C Ronaldo. 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by dbaruwa(m): 12:42am On Mar 12, 2019 |
It is a normal thing to entertain some of these fears u mentioned. But one basic question which u should ask urself is " am I matured enough most importantly psychologically to handle a woman? If yes, then it's a good start. Secondly list all the attributes u will want to have in a wife (remember if u get up to 70 percent in a particular lady u are lucky). Then list what attributes u cant accommodate from ur wife such lies, carelessness, nagging etc. If her positive attributes is relatively fair and u can accommodate whatever fault u fill she has, then go ahead. Remember u need to be relatively stable financially and above all go to ur God in prayers. I used this technique and happily married for 9 years now. 18 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GREENLIGHTLAW(m): 12:44am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Bros, no matter how much you are told here and now, for the fact that you have fears already, which I consider normal, you will get to discover more in the course of being married. I will advice you don't go too far with women in relationships until you are ready to settle down. You may think you are still getting along well after breakup but they don't forgive easily o, especially as you already gave a hint you are usually nice to them. Who go wan lose you? Women are institutions that nobody will ever graduate from, so also is marriage. However, if you play by the basic rules, then you scale through e.g. don't allow things you won't want in marriage while dating, e.g. day 1: baby can we eat out? You agree. Day 2: same thing, this time with the request of a friend joining, at whose expense? You don't have to put women to test before marriage, I don't think it's necessary. Majority of them will pass and pretentiously deceive you into believing they will remain that way, if I hear, wait until they are in, this also has to do with sex, or have you not heard about some women that oga wan kill them with koboko? Yet they might have told you back there that they don't get tired. More some other time. All the best 9 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:53am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Marriage gives me the creeps,must everybody be married? My fear is that with the way women are wayward what if I make a ho a housewife,there’s no way I can settle with a woman that has had more sex than me.dont ask me how will I know,bish that’s why I’m looking for a virgin. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by ChiefSweetus: 12:57am On Mar 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1:"Perfect love casts out all fears." ... my operational code. 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by 6lam(m): 1:00am On Mar 12, 2019 |
kazvid:*It is* not it 4 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 1:12am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Elvisu: Why are you not married at such age? 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by nymphomaniac(m): 1:24am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Op, na once man dey die. When you see a lady that fits into your physical and psychological compartments, kindly go ahead. What is the worst that could happen? I believe there will never be an eflluxion of your fear if you don't take the leap of faith with a woman. Finally, there is a 95% chance that where you are good and faithful to your wife, you will have a happy marriage. #MarriedFor1yearInThePastButNowSingle. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by olaolaking: 1:30am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: Anybody that is running away from responsibility is not responsible 5 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by showafrica(m): 1:47am On Mar 12, 2019 |
libertyfather: Wrong wife.. Sorry about that.. 2 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by tiwasiaife(m): 2:03am On Mar 12, 2019 |
GodisGood4321: You are a Catholic |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by EmpressT(f): 2:06am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Aside finances, my biggest fear is to end up with an estranged partner. I don't want to ever experience such tragedy in my life. All I want God to bless me with is true happiness. I love to smile, I love to see people happy every day. Anyone who is due for marriage should be aware that every little thing that glitters aren't gold. This is directly to ladies. Get a life of your own i.e be independent. Be passionate about what you feel is good for your future. Learn to take responsibilities for yourself. Handle life issues with maturity and humility. Then, the man who fits in your taste will surely come your way. When you meet your significant other, just be You. Don't fake it cos it's not gonna get you anywhere. Love everyone around you including your enemies. Jesus taught us so. Learn to forgive and forget whosoever gets you mad. Learn to impact value in the lives of people. Don't discriminate. We're one body in Christ. Also, we ladies should mind the kind of friends we keep. These days, friends cannot be trusted either best friend or casual. All these words I have said are very paramount when it comes to marriage. Love, trust, peace and harmony are the way of life. So it is in marriage. May God help us to choose wisely. 15 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by cococandy(f): 2:07am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Maybe they should be worried that you’re the wrong person for them. Seeing as you have commitment issues 7 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by cococandy(f): 2:08am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Nobody should want to be with you. Hopefully no one will. justscorchone: 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by cococandy(f): 2:09am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Stay single iamwhat: 3 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:13am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Onyi22: Omo Igbo ati owo 1 Like |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by TONYE001(m): 2:42am On Mar 12, 2019 |
Offpoint1: And what would her millions be used for? If I answer this my question, would you believe....or you'd argue? Even if I've been married for 5 years now... 4 Likes |
| Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by bellotaofeek: 3:15am On Mar 12, 2019 |
So the rich also cry..... NA waH o. 1 Like |
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