kunleweb:


Having fun. This thread has provided so much laughter that will last a while

Yeah, the guy (op) balls are no where to be found, he hasn't done anything wrong.

Gaspardd:

We all have our roles to play, i am the man and shld act like the boss. This is not me being paranoid its about she being full of herself

Full of herself because she paid her bills? Please tell, what should she have done? Passed the money to you so you would pay?

take hrt bro sometimes
Shit do happens

Gaspardd:

We all have our roles to play, i am the man and shld act like the boss. This is not me being paranoid its about she being full of herself

you just keep saying what is not, in as much as nobody should live above their means in pleasing themselves or others, how on earth was the lady full of herself? When she wanted to eat something and you couldn't buy for her, that was just enough to embarrass some girls, fortunately, she's the type that goes with her own money because of guys like you who may sneak out of a restraunt and let her wash plates to pay for her meal. The quality girl had the money and she paid for herself and even you and you are not even keeping quiet, simply put, the girl tried and stop calling her names, just continue with your own lifestyle, if we don't complain about your style, we can never ever complain about such a decent style of that girl. N.B. To date a careful spender like you or walk away totally, it is her choice and her right.

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

Stop making mountains out of mole hills. She wanted chicken and she paid for it. so what's embarassing there? or where you trying to impress her with 1500?

See sometimes just being honest is ohk. she knows you are responsible(you have a Job) and you are just getting to meet her, so you don't owe her a fancy treat (at least not yet), so she did what is right by treating herself. So what's up wit you?
If it were me, I will tell her to get one for me, (I am sure she will). If we click and become an item, I will definitely one day give her a treat or an expensive gift to clear any insinuations of me being cheap
( smart thing to do, besides she has earned my concern and care as my Lady)

See drop this mindset of using money to impress ladies especially as a guy under 35. It's stupid, averagely any pretty girl with an education and a good head on her shoulders will have more money than you.. (real peeps know this).
If I want a girl and I am sure I will be of value to her(I hate being a liability) and the girl wants to vibe with me, then we are good to go..not me paying for affection (only sugar daddies do that)

Your thinking is the problem.

Gaspardd:

We all have our roles to play, i am the man and shld act like the boss. This is not me being paranoid its about she being full of herself

If you actually meant this, then you need to see a therapist for you skewed way of thinking

Henitan24:


Yeah, the guy (op) balls are no where to be found, he hasn't done anything wrong.

Gaspardd:

We all have our roles to play, i am the man and shld act like the boss. This is not me being paranoid its about she being full of herself

haba bros did u call her to discuss what happened? instead of feeding ur ego why don't u calm down try to know her u may b surprised she's just a matured babe who was willing to help. stop speculating n discuss what happened with her you'd b surprised what u will find out. some of us like ladies like dat

She still likes you.

Stop reading meaning into nothing.

What are the odds that the girl is a nairalander and she just read this thread? What do you think her reaction would be?

kunleweb:


Odiegwu

Go joor!

Gaspardd:

I am certainly not proud of all this

'Gaspard' a familiar moniker.

Did you serve in 2016? Batch A?

@Op, i think you should tell us what has been happening between you two since then. Today is Tuesday already

Rilley:
I see miss laughter �

fvck off dimwit !

scarplanet:


It is good to be quite sincere in one's dealings and it is also great to live within one's means.
You mentioned that you live cheap and prioritize your spending, fantastic!

Now read your own words... "On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). " Now how will you call someone, suggested the person meets you, and you assumed that the person you called to meet you also lives cheap and prioritize spending? I mean, you willingly offered to take a person, you were not coerced into it whatsoever, and you still subject the person to your desires because that is just what you want? That is selfish of you bro.

Things to take out of this event:
1. Do not make assumptions for other people and dont presume you can bend a person to your desires.
2. Do not start what you clearly cant finish
3. 2k is never enough to plan outings in Nigeria... She could call you stingy, and rightly so.
4. She is a good friend; any other lady might have publicly disgraced you.

One mistake you made though.... you should have given her the 1500 for transport to pay for herself, and not directly paying the driver. That act probably might have redeemed you from what transpired earlier and less likely solidify her thoughts about you as being stingy and selfish.
And No, that doesn't mean you cannot eventually date her in the future... You might be surprised she held nothing against you.

We learn everyday, I am sure you must have learnt something from what happened to you!

I like your delivery and mindset. Good.

Hedonisst:


Can he even afford to buy proper recharge card for anybody? Looks like the kind of guy that would be sending a girl he is wooing those paper N100 or N200 recharge cards and then quickly call her to smugly ask "av you seeeeen it?"

Mumu somebody.

'have you seeeeeeeen it' lmaooooo

I didn't want to comment but no no no this your comment is hilarious. You are brutal

Nimmadiji:
The date is not the problem. Although, you messed up royally, I mean even when I take my 14 year old niece out, it costs way more than 2k, not to speak of a grown woman who you hope to have a relationship with. Haba.

It's okay to have a budget. Being broke is not a sin.

The real issue is your mentality.

Instead of appreciating how she handled the situation (like a sensible woman who took her own money even though she was in her house minding her business, when a certain shirt-borrowing, 2k wielding someone asked her out), you came here to call her "a glutton" and accused her of being "full of herself"

Why? Because she paid for food she ordered for both of you? The nerve....

It's one thing to be broke, it's another thing to ask a lady (who can take care of herself) to severely limit herself just to make you feel like "the man...the boss"

And if you ate from the food she ordered, the only glutton here is you.

You handled yourself horribly. Class - zero. Tact - zero

My broda na where u hand reach u dai hang your cloth. Sacamange.

Amakavula:
fvck off dimwit !

Seriously olodo

nah change of mind

MissJoy29:

Go joor!

Hehehehe don't play with me oh.

Nimmadiji:
The date is not the problem. Although, you messed up royally, I mean even when I take my 14 year old niece out, it costs way more than 2k, not to speak of a grown woman who you hope to have a relationship with. Haba.

It's okay to have a budget. Being broke is not a sin.

The real issue is your mentality.

Instead of appreciating how she handled the situation (like a sensible woman who took her own money even though she was in her house minding her business, when a certain shirt-borrowing, 2k wielding someone asked her out), you came here to call her "a glutton" and accused her of being "full of herself"

Why? Because she paid for food she ordered for both of you? The nerve....

It's one thing to be broke, it's another thing to ask a lady (who can take care of herself) to severely limit herself just to make you feel like "the man...the boss"

And if you ate from the food she ordered, the only glutton here is you.

You handled yourself horribly. Class - zero. Tact - zero

She works at the same place, and if she gets the same pay as him, and she is able to take care of herself, and him then... shaaaame

I agree.

SageMK:
I wish guys can take a page from your book and stay within their stipulated budget when they take a woman out for a date but nah, most spend uselessly to impress.

Guy, you should walk into your workplace tomorrow with your head held high. You have nothing to worry about & your reputation is in check... Now she knows what you are all about. It's left to her to stick around or bounce.

Hermionegranger:
@Gaspardd She's a glutton?! Because she bought something and paid with it for her own money? She was even trying to make things 50-50 by buying food while you buy drinks. All you had to do was reimburse her for the cost of the drinks after the date since she gave the waiter enough money to cover everything. The problem here is that You're a f***ing cheapskate! And an entitled idiot. Your stinginess is so bad that you cant even spend on yourself and that's why you're busy borrowing clothes upandan. And you're here shouting that you're keeping it real when you're really just a miser. If you don't have money for dates then don't ask people out. If you insist on taking someone then save up for one. I just wish she could have seen the post where you called her a glutton and that would blow the chance you had with her. Nonsense!

Lol.

Your username got me.

This mumu boy don give all of una mouth.

For the first time I have nothing to say.

Una don win this time around.

LeoFish92:


'Gaspard' a familiar moniker.

Did you serve in 2016? Batch A?

Yea bro. Ebonyi corper

Gaspardd:

Yea bro. Ebonyi corper

Lol, we were all part of one whatsapp group that year, which I think was formed from here on Nairaland.

LeoFish92:


Lol, we were all part of one whatsapp group that year, which I think was formed from here on Nairaland.

Yea i remember the Leo. How ve u been bro?

OP I no understand you o, so you prefer a leech to a self sustaining woman? If your value and masculinity is threatened because she paid for you both bills, then you've got work to do. Personally, all the women I've dated are like this, they pay for themselves when we go out. Of course there are periodical moments when I pay, or she paid for both, but customarily, we pay individually. Embrace her, she is a catch.

webizone:
What are the odds that the girl is a nairalander and she just read this thread? What do you think her reaction would be?

I sincerely really do hope she is a nairalander and sees this thread, his b.s needs to be fully blown 100% at work.

Gaspardd:

Yea bro. Ebonyi corper

Which local government ? Ohoazara or onicha lga .I know you .Gaspard so this is you .one of the shy guys in camp .Hope you still hear from maria

kunleweb:



If I tear you slap, he would have bought two pure water and salt only na, sante

vingeophysicist:

Which local government ? Ohoazara or onicha lga .I know you .Gaspard so this is you .one of the shy guys in camp .Hope you still hear from maria

I wasnt shy in camp. Camp was a very horrible exp for me. I queued for all the nonsense one spoon ration. I had to conserve my energy.
Derby and I served in ohaozara but its been long i heard from maria