MOBO444:

^^^What you need is a lecture from black brother then you will wise up for good.

s.ohiemi:

Please don't mind him,he's a retard u see.@post,u didn't really xplain your relationship wiv d guy.pls be clearer

MOBO444:

3 question for you, post your picture, have you finish rocking town and how old are you.

jay bee:

I can help you forget him . Contact ma PA mobo44 for details

jay bee:

Is he single?
Has he changed?
Do you see future with him?
No one can help with your current situation but you. It's either you are ready to move on but continue being miserable cos of someone that doesn't even think twice about you.
Go out on dates and love somebody else. with time he will fade away.

jay bee:

Yeah u def have to try harder.
Obsession is a very dangerous road for someone like yourself that still has your whole life ahead of u.
It won't be easy but gotta be done hun.
Time does heal heartbreak. You can do it

Moyola:

. . .dont understand yur plight!

missagbaa:

babe,u should try the moving,u are the only person that can help urself ok.its a decision u hav to make 4 urself,

oyinda.:

i don't think there is anything we can do to help besides telling you to move on which you have already heard many times over. sorry.
i don't want to be personal but are your parents together? what is your father like? what are your brothers like? people tend to be attracted to men that are like their fathers. that's why i ask.
it baffles me when women are attracted to men who they know are up to no good. seems like they love being treated like poo.
even criminals serving time in jail have lots of women admiring them and writing love letters to them in prison.
I think you should go and fix your own personal problem first. go and learn to be comfortable with being loved. otherwise, you will always be depressed all your life.

oyinda.:

then i beg you not to start such a cycle. what ever u decide to make of your life now will affect your children in d future.
obviously this guy is not meant for you. if you can't move on then learn to deal with your depression. nairaland won't help you. we're not miracle workers.

fiswu:

Without knowing it, you opened my eyes to a new reality. Thank you for your honest comments! I never look at it from this angle.

amefi:

Hope to really talk to u as a frnd if u wud allow me to in private. contact me here ameduf@hotmail.co.uk n lets get smfins sorted out.

fiswu:

Thanks but I'm not vulnerable. I have to face this by myself.

fiswu:

I met a young man over 2 years ago while I was still at university. I was always hesitated about  him because he seemed up to no good like a womanizer, and we never have any relationship. However, I tried as hard as I could to avoid him even though we live in different states, and he didn't show that he really cared about me, but I would always feel the need to talk to him just to make sure that he's OK. I have been advised more than once to quit contacting him. Finally, I found the strength to do so 3 months ago, but it was hell; I ended up depressed to the extend that I could not concentrate on my own life, and did not even have the motivation to start looking for a job as I recently graduated. Then, few days ago, while I was sleeping my sub-conscience dictated me to contact him which I did. Our conversation was to me what oxygen is to my body.

I'm a very beautiful woman and amongst others, there's a successful good man who is dying to marry me, but I just can't get him out of my mind and I would not like to hurt a good person. Tears have become my refuge. Without hearing from him, it's like I'm lost,  I don't know what to do anymore   . I don't know why this is happening to me  .

Please people, I will appreciate your comments!

Ujujoan:

@ Poster

I once felt the way you feel about someone (maybe I still do).  I know it's hard for you to believe that you can never be with him because probably, you are used to getting the men you want, but the truth is that, he's just not for you. If he were, he'll be the one calling you and not the other way round.

You are 26, you can't afford anymore 'childhood fantasies' at your age. Forgetting him might be difficult, maybe even impossible, but you really do not have any other choice. If there were a little chance that it could work, then maybe you should try it, if for not for anything, to get him out of your system.

But if you ask me, I'd say dont bother. You win some, and lose some . . . .  you need to let him go now, so you waste more time on him. Keep the channels of communication open, call him if you feel like, cos if you don't, it'll just feel like there's an empty space in your heart that only him can fill. Fill the void by hearing his voice and the while, try and build your life with someone else. With time, he'll fade into your past and be nothing more than a very good memory!