DO YOU NOT KNOW THAT YOU ARE THE TEMPLE OF GOD AND THAT THE SPIRIT OF GOD DWELLS IN YOU? IF ANY ONE DESTROYS THE TEMPLE OF GOD, GOD WILL DESTROY SUCH PERSON. FOR THE TEMPLE OF GOD IS HOLY, AND YOU ARE THAT TEMPLE.

BUT EACH PERSON IS TEMPTED WHEN HE IS LURED AND ENTICED BY HIS OWN DESIRE. THEN DESIRE WHEN IT HAS CONCEIVEDGIVES BIRTH TO SIN, AND SIN WHEN IT IS FULLY GROWN BRINGS FORTH DEATH.

PUT TO DEATH THEREFORE WHAT IS EARTHLY IN YOU: SEXUAL IMMORALITY, IMPURITY, PASSION, EVIL DESIRE, AND COVETOUSNESS, WHICH IS IDOLATRY.

Tales By Moonlight

JejeNaija:
I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and told her it's quite early and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return.

My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.

Think Fast.

Congratulations. You got yourself out of a potentially intractable and big trouble. Deleting the phone number is the most important thing you did and not the initial resistance you put up.

When will men realize marriage castrates them by hindering them from becoming what nature intended?

Biglittlelois:



If kissing is not cheating you won't be scared to tell your wife, you will convince her it's not cheating that it is just locking lips and exchanging of saliva, you did not resist 100%.

Go and tell his wife for him nah ,as if you are the holy one

Do you know if his wife has also kissed and didn't tell him ?

He should end it there as he didn't fall to sleep with the woman ,simple and clear

Like say the married woman go even tell her husband if she go house

Abeg na only God fit judge us

luminouz:


It was sudden naaaaaaa....it could take some seconds before you overcome the shock and react... Who do u like this na U even questioned his sanity
He didn't cheat oooooo oooooo.....100% performance for me.

Whether na electric shock or clinical state of shock, he cheated(especially after he admitted flowing with it for a little while)... Getting emotionally invested in someone who isn't your significant other without even touching the person is cheating, talk more of getting physical(a kiss in this case).

Biglittlelois:
You didn't resist the temptation 100%, you kissed her and flowed with the kissing for a while, that's cheating, you have to tell your wife cos you locked lips and exchanged saliva with another woman.

Nopes.
He did not cheat.

I wonder what you’ll say if he actually slept with her.

Kennydoc:


Can you just give that guy a break? He tried, please. He's a man for crying out loud. He didn't deliberately put himself in that situation. The temptation pursued him and nearly overtook him, yet he stood strong finally. Many pastors would have even ended up having sex at that time.
Stop being too judgemental.

Actually one could argue he deliberately put himself in that situation looking a the happening in the bus and when he went to eat. these signs were there and he kept going on even to the extent of booking the same hotel with her

JejeNaija:


MY OWN VERSION OF THE STORY

I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. [s]At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap[/s]. Then the kissing intensified, then I raised her body up placed her on the bed. We had s.ex for four rounds. [s]As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and[/s] I told her it's quite early to do more than four rounds when she required for more and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her again. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return. Immediately, I returned. I called her then we had more rounds and crashed into the bed. we woke up the following morning then we took this same bus. we still talk and plan to have more exciting times together whenever we are chanced .
Best story told!

[s]My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.[/s]

Think Fast.

hehehehehe . Thats the story most of us would not have told!

JejeNaija:


Unfortunately dear, I don't need an accolade. Those who really understand what I have said got the message properly. If you think your husband will kiss only you in his lifetime then its well but pray he is able to control himself when necessary.

you resisted the temptation that is clear but you encouraged it from inception. That is your fault.

Remember the way you kissed her, imagine your wife kissing another dude that same way.....How do you feel?

luminouz:

*sighs*
What am I to do with you

Now...go to the kitchen and make akamu for me...right NOW!!

Hahahahaha i'm sick of Nairaland!

JejeNaija:
Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.

Think Fast.

This line is the most important of everything you have said brother.

Ladies think we are all scum....but we aint. In my case once I am smelling temptation, I tell my wife. Once I tell her e don spoil be that and that is where it ends. Nice one brother

kings59:
Nice resistance.


Sometimes I would just put myself into temptation.

I would just go to a bar that I know ladies would be patrolling, I would just keep looking at them and controlling my mind. I would look at them and keep saying," devil is this all you can do, bring more"


Sometimes I go to a place I would see sexy/naked girls just to know how strong I am in spirit and my resistance accuracy.

I can remember 2016, I and my 5 friends went to a brothel/bar just for drink, we sat on the chair in our space and table, suddenly girls started coming out and started shaking their yash, both full naked and half naked, both the ones that wore transparent cloth/thighs .

Next thing, they all started falling, saying this girl ass is hot and soft, I go like enter dis and dat.

The temptation there was much and it takes a strong heart and spirit to refute the offer.

I was the last guy remaining after all had gone to their various choice.

A fair skinned lady of average height came and told me that all my friends had made their choice, that I should take her, I told her I don't do with prostitutes, she said ok then.

I was glad I didn't fall, it is just good to learn how to resist temptation.


I would advise the op to tell his wife about this, but he should skip the" she kissed me" part.

That way, your wife will trust you more and whenever she comes across what the husband experienced, she will also resist the man.

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zeb04:
you resisted the temptation that is clear but you encouraged it from inception. That is your fault.

Remember the way you kissed her, imagine your wife kissing another dude that same way.....How do you feel?

Girls una no go read the full story. You think e easy like that? It was in the moment, cut him some slack.

luminouz:

U missed the point darling...NL babes are always emotional not logical...now lemme address your point

I know my wife or gf can't initiate the kissing (when she is not mad),so she was kissed SUDDENLY and a time delay after,SHE BROKE OFF.....THATS NOT CHEATING TO ME...ITS JUST BASIC FVCKING LOGIC!!!

OP has my 100%... Is like u dont know what it takes for a full grown married man in this day and age to reject such a luscious offer sha

Lmao @ "I know my wife or gf can't initiate the kissing "..I'm sure the husband of that woman feels the same way.

"Suddenly" is the word you used here, but the op admitted to flowing with it for a while. There's a difference.

"Is like u dont know what it takes for a full grown married man in this day and age to reject such a luscious offer sha". With this statement, you just made it clear that you are lowering the standard because it's a man that is involved ...My dear it is also a huge deal for a woman(married or not) in this day and age to have self control...We've all got blood flowing through our veins.

It's your 100%,so it's okay if you insist on giving it to the op...Just make sure that you also give a woman who finds herself in op's situation a 100%. That's my humble submission.

you said at a point you were flowing with the kiss,only God knows how long the kiss lasted, the saliva exchange from a total stranger. Guy,you cheated.

Biglittlelois:



My answer to your question is yes he cheated cos he kissed someone else


I'm glad you know the stupid kiss can destroy your marriage because that in itself is hurtful cos it is cheating.

You are menstrating.

luminouz:

I disagree...
If he had initiated the kissing..I would have said he went too far but he was kissed and I know such stuffs might be so sudden it could take a while to recover before acting on pushing her away...had he continued with the kiss till he pulled his trouser BUT decided not to fvck the woman...he still didn't cheat...its all about INTENT bro!

Cheating isn't limited to YOUR intent, it also comprise ignoring the obvious intent of the person ready to cheat with you and it would take a very obvious biased mind to think the guy in the story didn't read the obvious intent of the woman before the kiss happened. subtle and obvious greenlights were given by her including her metamorphic stalking. cheating doesn't have to be until you sink your dick in the vagina of someone else.

Lois keeps hammering on the kissing aspect as cheating as though he initiated it...that's wrong. What more does a woman want?

Biglittlelois keeps hammering it not because she thinks its cheating - I think - but because most guys out there would adjudge it to be cheating if the gender were reversed!!!!! this is the subtle point of hers that apparently flew over (almost) everyone's heads which is summed up in the post below

Biglittlelois:
Stir up distrust, moment of weakness, very good coming from a guy, so is it safe to say women or a wife can kiss another man cos it is a moment of weakness, then she shouldn't tell her man or husband cos it can bring distrust

Let me be clear on something though. I'm not saying she's right and I'm not agreeing with her at all. I just think it's unfair how most responders have been tackling her rather than her point. you just took your time to address her point which is what reasonable people should do not going personal

Yes bro
Ur story taught me alot of lessons

Biglittlelois:


I will ignore your first comment.


That is not 100% performance, he shouldn't be scared of telling his wife if to him he didn't cheat, simple as that.

Shut Up your stupîd mouth. He is scared because of how women foolishly overreact and take things out of proportion just like a mumu like you is doing. He resisted 100%

hopefulLandlord:


Actually one could argue he deliberately put himself in that situation looking a the happening in the bus and when he went to eat. these signs were there and he kept going on even to the extent of booking the same hotel with her

Yes, he showed some indiscretion but I can tell you that if he knew the lady would go that far, he wouldn't have booked the same hotel with her. He probably wanted some casual company but obviously didn't plan to mess around with the lady. Remember that if the lady hadn't come back to his room, they probably wouldn't have met again. He simply wasn't expecting to see her again.

[quote author=JejeNaija post=78206677]I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and told her it's quite early and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return.

My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.





ARO SO LELEYI JARE

holysaint1:


The two bolded lines kinda contradicts themselves.


Now another way you can look at it is where a family of a man, his wife and 3 children have nothing to live on for the day. And the parents (man and wife) both agree that the woman should go and prostitute (even if it's for a night) so that they can put food on the table for the family.

Now is this still cheating on the partner or not. ??

And don't you think such act, either willingly or unwillingly, will pave way for infidelity to creep into the lives of that couple. ?

Doing something wrong behind you partner/wife is called cheating, in the scenerio you painted, both partners agreed for the wife to prostitute, Op's case is totally different from that.

Lisaflex:


Lmao @ "I know my wife or gf can't initiate the kissing "..I'm sure the husband of that woman feels the same way.

"Suddenly" is the word you used here, but the op admitted to flowing with it for a while. There's a difference.

"Is like u dont know what it takes for a full grown married man in this day and age to reject such a luscious offer sha". With this statement, you just made it clear that you are lowering the standard because it's a man that is involved ...My dear it is also a huge deal for a woman(married or not) in this day and age to have self control...We've all got blood flowing through our veins.

It's your 100%,so it's okay if you insist on giving it to the op...Just make sure that you also give a woman who finds herself in op's situation a 100%. That's my humble submission.

I'm not that husband.. I'm not old...read the story again and get the underlining reason for her behaviours...unless u want to tell me all women are like her

'Flowing with it' goes with the reaction delay scenario I told you about

'A man in this age'.... We are scarce darling...that's my point

Your last statement...you still think I'm siding with the OP cuz I'm a man,no my dear...its because I'm logical...if I feel OP cheated,I go tell am straight up..I'm real and raw that way

JejeNaija:


Whatever dear... I believe when you get more matured you will understand the true meaning of cheating. What about married actors and actresses who kiss in some movies and their husband/wife has no problem with that? Do you call that cheating when their partner knows its nothing but just a simple movie and a professional act?

Bro, no need explaining that much to convince someone who has no real experience of such before other than relying on mere imaginations to judge. I've been in your shoes before. These women start the move and give us every reason to trust them and one would never imagine them taking it to the next level until they expose their amorous tendencies. It happens so sudden and only men who are on their guard can resist such temptations. In the end you'll be glad you did not yield to the temptation and that's why i'm impressed with you. That person judging you should wait for her turn let's see how she handles it. I hope her story will be nairaland worthy though. Hypocrite!

hopefulLandlord:

Cheating isn't limited to YOUR intent, it also comprise ignoring the obvious intent of the person ready to cheat with you and it would take a very obvious biased mind to think the guy in the story didn't read the obvious intent of the woman before the kiss happened. subtle and obvious greenlights were given by her including her metamorphic stalking. cheating doesn't have to be until you sink your dick in the vagina of someone else.


Biglittlelois keeps hammering it not because she thinks its cheating - I think - but because most guys out there would adjudge it to be cheating if the gender were reversed!!!!! this is the subtle point of hers that apparently flew over (almost) everyone's heads which is summed up in the post below




Let me be clear on something though. I'm not saying she's right and I'm not agreeing with her at all. I just think it's unfair how most responders have been tackling her rather than her point. you just took your time to address her point which is what reasonable people should do not going personal

Lol...I'm not responsible for a girls intent..just mine and my decisions based on my intent

I never got personal...I'm not like that...she and all the other girls went the personal route...not me

On Lois part...She said its cheating...that's what I've been trying to address so far...dafuq did u think I was arguing about?? Her shoes

Lastly..if the roles were reversed like I told lisaflex...so long she doesn't give in and she never initiated it...I will give the babe 100%... We are all humans...but that's never Lois stand...she is all about cheating or not..

I rest my case

Op u did well only if ur story is complete, cos I know u edited some part

Lisaflex:



Whether na electric shock or clinical state of shock, he cheated(especially after he admitted flowing with it for a little while)... Getting emotionally invested in someone who isn't your significant other without even touching the person is cheating, talk more of getting physical(a kiss in this case).

There u go again...being emo all over the place...

He was never emotionally interested or invested...he saw the green lights but never made a move...SHE DID! If HE DID...then i can judge him otherwise!!! Why are u so quick to judge this guy?? I noticed all the female folks here left the woman and focused on the man. Y'all so intent on making him seem like the bad guy here...misplaced priorities if you ask me...

At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset author=JejeNaija post=78206677]

You were already lost. What if your wife's spirit has not come to give you a "dirty slap" what would've happened. But you took the right decision after that. Keep it up.






I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and told her it's quite early and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return.

My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.

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