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Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by hybridblood07(m): 11:21am On May 22, 2019 |
She did the best thing ever..if I were the husband, I will not divorce her but love her more. Moreover, I will find out why she cheated and we will fix the problem. There are many issues that could have led her to cheat. 1.Maybe the husband does not satisfy her sexually 2. The husband might not have her time. Amanee: |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Rugsoul13: 11:21am On May 22, 2019 |
Bible permit divorce in case of adultery an mind u committing suicide u heading for hell fire divorce is penalty for ur immoral act. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by omotoyossi(m): 11:21am On May 22, 2019 |
10mins pleasure ruined something it took u years to build. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by grandstar(m): 11:23am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003: I'm proud of you. You took that great leap forward and told your husband. You have that load off your chest. You're already becoming a better person.and better still, a much stronger person. You are making peace with your husband and God (Read Proverbs 28:13) As regards your husband's reactions and actions, your best bet is patience and reasonableness. Your husband needs time to process things. He's in turmoil Many things are going on in his mind. Things 'heal' with time! You too need patience. The enormity of s problem reduces with time. Imagine being the cause of a multiple crash accident. Your mind is in chaos You are wondering how you'll foot all the bill. You're hoping no one beats you up and so on. Fast forward a year and the accident will simply be a distant memory. At present, the iron is still very hot. Emotions are high and rational thinking may have been thrown out throw the window. Imagine your husband saying those kids aren't his? Patience is key. Let your husband inform your parents. It's inevitable. And it's another load off your chest. Your relations, friends and all will get to know. More load off your chest. You need to end the fear of people finding out lest it controls you. It makes you vulnerable, very vulnerable. That fear will haunt your life. Imagine a baby mama who does not reveal she already has a child to her fiance. She will live in fear of her man fearing out. Even when married, she keeps up with the pretence she has no child outside to her husband. Would you pray to be in her shoes? Is it an easy load to carry. Get stuff off your chest and start gathering your life together. What does not kill only makes you stronger. In the event that your husband takes you back, have some say in the process. Ensure he has forgiven you and has thrown the past behind him. If not, he'll think has doing you a favor and might keep reminding you of your past action. Also, as you're a truly changed person Start an exercise regime. Exercise builds morale and lifts your mood and you need this in abundant quantity. It will also put you in great shape which your husband will appreciate.and may even tempt him back In the event things don't work out and he calls it quits, please move on (Read Ecclesiastes 3:6). Develop a strong character or men will take advantage of you. You're still young and can find someone new. Inform him of your past. Set boundaries. No sex or inappropriate touching until marriage. If he says no, then it's "hit the road jack, don't come back no more". Any suitor must genuinely love your kids. Some sterile men don't mind marrying women with kids. Anyway, watch out and screen out wolves in sheep's clothing. 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by hybridblood07(m): 11:23am On May 22, 2019 |
Nice advise. God will continue to give you wisdom. A sensible man will not divorce her but continue to show love and support. But I don't understand why some men sleep with married women..... Is there something special about it bros? faithfull18: |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Agugbadin: 11:24am On May 22, 2019 |
Don't take your life, you have cleared your mind by telling him calm down. You asked for forgiveness from man, next is to ask God to forgive you and leave it there. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by PrimadonnaO(f): 11:24am On May 22, 2019 |
rafhell: What's the big deal? If you got your money ready, you get your house in a day...clean and move in a total of 48hours. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by BlueAir: 11:25am On May 22, 2019 |
JasonScoolari:why'd she report u |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Deapexboy(m): 11:25am On May 22, 2019 |
Beckham14: Bitter Nigerian Truth 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Deapexboy(m): 11:26am On May 22, 2019 |
hybridblood07: Wonderful Nigerians 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Oyindidi(f): 11:28am On May 22, 2019 |
Some secret no supposed leave our heart. Now you have messed up your life by yourself. I'll advice you go to God in all sincerity and ask him to help restore your marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Olufemiolaolu(m): 11:29am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:Do you xpect him to cuddle you? |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by svc1(m): 11:30am On May 22, 2019 |
If you had followed this thread, you would understand that the said lady is not repentant of her atrocity. Remember she said she craves for more sexual pleasure from her colleague and also stalks him on SM. Now to my own opinion. A married woman won't sleep with another man that is not her husband, if she's still sexually attracted to her husband.. in short women are not built that way. Before a woman sleep with a man that's not her spouse, it takes a whole lot of emotional attachments to give in.. she practically burns out and gives in.. But when she does, there's no going back. Its like Sisqo just went lose on her emotion.. The said poster is not sexually attracted to her husband in the first place, so it's easy for her to give into sexual advancement from men she's sexually attracted to because if she continues in that same marriage, she would just be a shadow of herself, and the husband "go take her eyes see sometin". I would advice you stick with the divorce, get a good lawyer to defend you and fight for u and ur kids (child support is very importanter). In future try to have a good rapo with ur ex hubby for ur children's sake.. No one should blame u, U are not attracted to old men shikena.. U married him cos he was ready and d men ur age weren't ready to settle down.. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Kelechiicharles: 11:30am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:madam u need counseling and serious advice on what to do, their are d spiritual aspects and the physical. If u have genuinely repented God will forgive u and restore ur home if u care u can reach me on this line 08059709977 for counseling and some prayers to make. The bible say the heart of the king belongs to God and he turns to where ever pleases him. God will turn the heart of ur husband to ur direction in Jesus name |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by OCtheKing: 11:31am On May 22, 2019 |
[An adulterous woman never wins anywhere not only in Nigeria. U re a fucking hoe author=Vyolet post=78313573] OP, herein lies the best advice for you. 1. He may come back to you once he is calm but be rest assured that things will never be the same again no matter how much you try. 2. Take it as the consequence of the destructive act, an adulterous woman never wins in Nigeria, you have laid your bed, lay on it. 3. Pick the pieces of your life in time, whatever happens in the end, life goes on.[/quote] |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by alfajohn: 11:32am On May 22, 2019 |
rafhell: |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by INTEGRITYA1(m): 11:35am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003: Dear Sister, this is not the end, don't take your life. The dead has been done and it's quite unfortunate; but you can still get over this difficult and urgely situation. I salute your courage because what you just did to confess such to your husband, numbers of ladies/women out there are doing worst without remorse or feeling bad. My suggestions. Be careful with your own relatives you're looking up to for solution, if the situation is later settled; hardly will the stigma be erazed from their side. If possible, don't discuss it with your husband relatives because they will discourage him further. Your husband friends, among friends there are/is friend; so if you are very sure of one or two among his friends, they can help out or else stay away from them. Religious body If your pastor or imam is a matured individual they can help. Not the type of pastor you will confide in and will later go to podium and start saying God use him to sort so so and so issues even he will not mention names; it's capable of causing further damages. Be careful and be sensitive of people you're looking up to. If it's ok by you, I don't mind to volunteer and meet with your husband to plead on your behalf. Above all, this is not the end you can overcome this situation. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by cornel994(m): 11:35am On May 22, 2019 |
Beckham14: why all these venom? |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by kamez(m): 11:36am On May 22, 2019 |
nairalanders will be putting people into trouble........ whoever adviced u to confess to ur husband, is a witch sent to destroy ur marriage.... you cheated on him and u regretted, u were sorry. all u needed to do was to change ur ways and make sure u never cheated on him again.... but instead, u listened to crazy nairalanders and their yeye advice.... I am a man and I am telling u that as a man, I can never ever ever forgive a woman who cheats on me, not even if Jesus Christ pays me a personal visit... don't bother to tell me if u cheat on me, it's better u just change and pray that I don't find out about it.... because whether u tell me, or I find out by myself, it will still have the same outcome and that is DIVORCE!!! 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Ryabcool(m): 11:36am On May 22, 2019 |
sisisioge:Chai! make I no see any post of you condemning a cheating man again o. See as una dey show empathy to a cheating wife but go all guns blazing on men. Even telling her she shouldn't have confessed and kept deceiving the man. At the end of the day, it's obvious women are just as guilty of the nasty sheit they accuse men of. We are all hypocrites. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by JasonScoolari: 11:38am On May 22, 2019 |
BlueAir:Maybe my comment rendered her wet adulterous pussy dried. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by freeDR(m): 11:38am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003:Why not just die and rid the planet of another bumbling fool like you? slowpoke. What were you thinking when you went ahead to tell your husband? |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Nobody: 11:38am On May 22, 2019 |
sharpsharp: It is not right to castigate the husband for his action. He's human and he's free to reason out whatever he thinks is good for HIS LIFE. Praying to God to manipulate his mind in favor of the woman is not fair either. He's human - and not a robot. He should be entitled to his decisions and consequences. Even in the bible, the only reason God permits divorce is on the terms of infidelity. Right? Should we be fair to that woman and be prejudice the man just coz the woman is the one on Nairaland? That won't be fair! I feel for her, but we need to tell her to face the reality & accept whatever decision that man thinks is right for HIS LIFE. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by OCtheKing: 11:39am On May 22, 2019 |
[quote author=Vyolet post=78313573] OP, herein lies the best advice for you. 1. He may come back to you once he is calm but be rest assured that things will never be the same again no matter how much you try. 2. Take it as the consequence of the destructive act, an adulterous woman never wins in Nigeria, you have laid your bed, lay on it. 3. Pick the pieces of your life in time, whatever happens in the end, life goes on. An adulterous woman never wins anywhere not only in Nigeria. U re a bleeping hoe |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Wettoid123: 11:42am On May 22, 2019 |
Evil woman, ashawo,free area,,,u are not f8t to be in that house |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by babadee1(m): 11:42am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003: Telling your husband was a foolish mistake. Tell God your faults and let Him assuage your guilty conscience. Your husband can do nothing for you now. You've blown it with him. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by ICONgold(m): 11:48am On May 22, 2019 |
This is the first right step you have taken for both of you to heal. your husband reaction is so good and a testament to the fact that he loves you dearly, another man would have kept quiet, accept your plea and sentence you to a life time of systemic pains. Dealing ruthlessly with you and cheating to your face. Leave him, continue to beg him, call your parents before hand and let them know. Continue to beg, send people he respects but be selective in your choice of people to tell too. Give him time to heal. Accept all the blame and don't blame anything or anyone. He will eventually forgive you. If he doesn't you will find happiness and peace with time. I told you in my first comment that the guy you cheated with will never stand by you or accept you if your husband divorce you. Congratulations for telling him, when he eventually forgive you, you will hardly want to tore this path again. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Nobody: 11:50am On May 22, 2019 |
Super story. But your husband is nice. Me, I will pick up my pumpee and damn the consequences. |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Budline1(m): 11:50am On May 22, 2019 |
Marbella003: You shouldn't have confessed to that, no matter what. You should have just ended the affair and never do such again. The truth is always bitter. I'm a man and I know how most men think about this things. An ex once tried that stuff with me and I never took her back again. I hope he takes you back though but you'll have a lot of work to do to prove to him that such won't happen again. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by Ifeanyie12(m): 11:51am On May 22, 2019 |
@OP, if your story is true, you did the right thing by going to your husband with the truth. It takes a lot of courage to do that and I applaud you for that even though you were hoping you could get penance from tears and remorse (something you shouldn't have anticipated). However, your marriage would never be the same again even if your husband forgives you and takes you back. He's going to suspect every move you make for the rest of your life, disrespect you sometimes, keep unusual late night's, enjoy other female company than yours, etc eye... my advise for you at this point is to live for just one thing; HOW TO BUILD BACK TRUST. A divorce would RUIN you |
Re: I Told My Husband That I Cheated On Him. Now He Wants A Divorce. by bluefilm: 11:53am On May 22, 2019 |
That's men for you. Men don't like hoes for a partner. Men might play around with hoes, buy them gifts and all that. But one thing all men know is that you should never ever make a hoe a housewife. Women may accept a cheating partner; but men rarely do. So if you're a hoe, try as much as possible never to let your guy find out. Because once he does, the relationship is as good as over. There's no going back. |
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