@ Nigerian Pilot

A number of things cause ill feelings in a relationship, and once ill feelings creep into a relationship, both persons will only suffer bitterness and possibly regrets.

It is important for partners to communicate, voice grievances and come to an understanding or bring up solutions to issues, instead of muting displeasure which only piles up and eventually lead to an outburst that may ruin a relationship.

For a stable and happy relationship, partners should endeavour to avoid things which may cause ill feelings. Here are ways to avoid things that can cause ill feelings in your relationship:

1. Not speaking your mind

As we have said here, it is dangerous to be the partner who never speaks his or her mind. Holding in your feelings, fears, unhappiness and the likes will only make things worse. Are you feeling some type of way about what your partner says or does to you, or some way they act in general which makes you uncomfortable? Speak up!

Refusal to do this might cause ill feelings to build in you, thereby affecting the balance of your relationship with them.

2. Not being listened to

When your partner expresses their opinions and you ignore them, you make them feel worthless and undervalued. Guess what this results to… of course you guessed right… ill feelings!

And while a refusal to speak their mind may be on them, the fault will be yours if they do speak up but you never take their feelings into account.

3. No appreciation

Everyone wants to feel valued, appreciated. Your partner falls in this category, too. She wants to hear about how much you value her. Your boyfriend also wants to feel like he counts, that his efforts are appreciated and that his presence counts and makes a difference in your life.

You need to let them hear these things. That reassurance is good for your relationship.


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