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What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 10:18am On May 31, 2019 |
What would you advise a lady who is Afriad of sex, commitment in relationship and scared of getting married due to horrible past experience? Do you think is normal? Please your view on this. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by dingbang(m): 10:23am On May 31, 2019 |
She should open up to her pastor/priest and seek for guidance and counselling. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by xendra: 10:27am On May 31, 2019 |
wait it out, it passes. just keep praying and working on yourself. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by Osyxcel(m): 11:04am On May 31, 2019 |
xendra: Good reply. Just wondering if it was a guy, would your response have been different? |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by PuZZyNegro: 11:07am On May 31, 2019 |
celeb4reallife: What is your age range? |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by ifyalways(f): 11:14am On May 31, 2019 |
celeb4reallife:Only she can decide what she wants. If shes comfortable with her status i see no problem there. Make she just go register as a nun. However, if she wants to change status quo, she should seek help from a therapist. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 11:25am On May 31, 2019 |
dingbang:Noted |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 11:26am On May 31, 2019 |
xendra:Noted. Thanks |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 11:27am On May 31, 2019 |
Osyxcel:I think it's application for both gender. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 11:28am On May 31, 2019 |
PuZZyNegro:An adult. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by ibkayee(f): 11:55am On May 31, 2019 |
Sexual assault violates an intimacy that can shatter a victim's trust in all relationships so it is very normal to feel anxious/apprehensive about entering one afterwards. Also note that not all survivors of rape respond in the same way. She should go at her own pace, see a therapist, prayer may help if that’s what she’s into but along with pragmatic, professional medical help, not in place of. She may also find that speaking to other victims in similar situations may help the process too. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by PuZZyNegro: 2:17pm On May 31, 2019 |
celeb4reallife: How adult are you? |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 2:49pm On May 31, 2019 |
PuZZyNegro:. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 2:49pm On May 31, 2019 |
ibkayee:Thanks for sharing |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by xendra: 6:04pm On May 31, 2019 |
Osyxcel:Oh you mean if a guy is going through same? yea, I believe it's a process, most of this things tend to lighten with time, and if you meet the right person the process becomes quicker. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by Osyxcel(m): 6:48pm On May 31, 2019 |
xendra: Spot on! In extreme cases, just like someone suggested, therapy should be considered. In the end, it all depends on meeting the right person, just like you said. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by chii8(f): 7:18pm On May 31, 2019 |
It depends on the age range, for a younger adult, the person can wait it out but for an older adult, the person might need serious counseling or need to even visit a therapist. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by Richy4(m): 8:25pm On May 31, 2019 |
In my opinion.. Therapist.... He/she can talk to one it helps..A lot of people thinks it's a waste of money..I have seen someone mentioned pastors.. Pastors are not qualified therapists, people go to them in third world countries because they can't afford a real qualified therapist.. Reassurance... To take that baby steps again, He/she must start confessing within; that everyone is not like the EXS... within some period he/she will start beliving...one's reassurance that he/she was not at fault helps to ie (forgiving one's self ) He/she should not rush it... take one step at a time... a broken person needs patience and time to heal... 1 Like |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 9:01pm On May 31, 2019 |
Thanks for sharing @ Richy4, @chiii8, @osyxcel 1 Like |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by bukatyne(f): 10:48pm On May 31, 2019 |
celeb4reallife: Fear of sex and commitment/marriage are totally different issues. Do you care to explain more? |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by Richy4(m): 2:45am On Jun 01, 2019 |
bukatyne: It was self explanatory enough Dear except if u wanted gist...In case you still don't understand, then let me try and explain First probability ...it means that the lady was forced into sex without adequate preparation or when she was not ready for it by a partner or an inexperienced lover...And the experience was equal to hell here on earth... Second probability... the Lady was a rape victim.. Third probability... She may have witnessed a close one that went through hell either being Raped or intense marriage crisis by a bad partner... So the thought of that repeating it's self again scares the crap out of her.. i guess I don't need to explain the correlation between sex and marriage right? Oh! By the way anyone going through that doesn't always wanna talk about it... expecially victims of rape.. I hope this has given you a bird view of what OP was talking about ... 1 Like |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by sisisioge: 3:52am On Jun 01, 2019 |
Richy4: ![]() ![]() ![]() You will refuse to get in a fight yet you have a way of subtly irking someone. She asked you! Anyways, we hope all none of these your hypotheses happened to her. She might be like my cute friend who was just scared of sexxx due to all the stories we told her about the bad first time. Plus, the sight of a kini was too much for her to handle as an invasion into her privacy given that she once struggled with a tampon back in the days( tampons aren't popular here for lots of reasons). Long story short, it finally happened when she was 31yrs old...since then, she's turned to be the one with the best experience when it comes to sexxx. Each time it's gist time...she always talk quality ![]() OP, don't be so afraid. Just relax....let your mind take its time to be ready. No rush for sexx, relationship, marriage or anything relating to the boys. Their wahala is plenty especially when they aren't ready too. Cheers. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by ValCon888: 4:06am On Jun 01, 2019 |
Don't talk to any pastor. Many men and women of the pulpit are sexual predators in disguise. We are in an age where information is free yet we act like we are in chains. Why? There is nothing a pastor can say that cannot be found in a book. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by celeb4reallife(f): 4:40am On Jun 01, 2019 |
Thanks@Richy45, @sisisioge, @Valcon88. Pastor or religious leader is not one of the option here at all. General view from well experienced and intelligent people like you all is good enough. |
Re: What Is Your Opinion About This? by Richy4(m): 6:47am On Jun 01, 2019 |
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