Toks2008:
I'm ok with a lady keeping her options open but when she starts sleeping with them she has crossed the line.

This is why I don't place a premium on any lady. Only fools do.

I give you my best and still expect the worst from you...i can not come and go and kill myself.

Lol, keep her options open and you think sex will not be involved? Can you date a girl without sex being involved? Be realistic

frozen70:



I already know that you don't have a good reason for your commitment

I will reserve mine

why do you say that? Are you now a judge? It's a pity many Nigerians especially the ladies aren't open minded

punna na barber seat, after u don barb finish, another person go enter

na WA oo, we wher still del single wentin we go do, can we still find virgin in this country

zolaman:
she was his girl freind, not the wife. no big deal.

This is the problem of this generation...Even if she is the wife she will still do the Same thing... marriage don't stop ppl from cheating

MrMou:

Where & how do you guys meet such girls & date them? Any very emotionally intelligent guy will sense these kin girls easily but a lot of guys aren't; una just dey claim "woke" up & down!

emotionally intelligent?? alright!! Goodluck to him finding love without trial and error.

hopexter:
She's not your wife yet and she's not putting all her eggs in one basket. I see no big deal here.

She's a prostitute

dingbang:
why do you say that? Are you now a judge? It's a pity many Nigerians especially the ladies aren't open minded

You men doesn't even know what you want from ladies

But am sure you guys want a mumu that will tolerate and endure all kind of slavery

You guys cheats with impunity yet still acuses ladies

Is only a thief that can detect the foot print of a fellow thief

In any relationship, if anybody wants to cheat let that person cheat

If anyone wants to be faithful let that person be faithful

They are adults

[color=#000000][/color]Na dem

frozen70:



You men doesn't even know what you want from ladies

But am sure you guys want a mumu that will tolerate and endure all kind of slavery

You guys cheats with impunity yet still acuses ladies

Is only a thief that can detect the foot print of a fellow thief

In any relationship, if anybody wants to cheat let that person cheat

If anyone wants to be faithful let that person be faithful

They are adults

urm lady, last time I checked, the thread wasnt about a man cheating, so get your shittt together, and your comment is so out of place due to the fact that you wanted to know why I mentioned women cheat. I am surprised why you twisted the whole story just because you have been a victim of cheating in the past.

A girl/boy friend is like an animal in the jungle, no owner. Whosoever meets the animal can kill it.

Hmmm dis matter tire me oh, it's just like attending a wedding and all the hot jollof rice pass you by. Chai THAT KIND THING DEY PAIN!

Well, I know it's always hurtful when a lady cheats (eh dey pain wella ) but all blame can't be put on ladies alone. I have always noticed on this forum wen it comes to ladies cheating , guys will say all sorts of thing to condemn the ladies and they think it ok. How will a full human being continue saying 'I will continue bleeping , swimming etc till dey die' cos ladies ain't loyal. Bros una loyal. Now this guy has bleep and bleep and bleep his friend girlfriend.

The problem here is that people feel it's normal to cheat so almost everyone is doing it.

When guys think ladies are confused human beings ain't they too confused? Na dem still talk for one other post say a girl cannot tell dem no sex in a relationship cos they think she will be doing it with someone else, they will move out of the relationship. Person no want sex and they say you are a liar , want sex you are a hoe. Seriously, I keep telling people stand your ground , I you want to have sex go ahead nd if you want to abstain pls do, you will get someone that will choose what you want. Don't kill yourself.

Those saying they will marry a virgin, pls bro tell me it's not a joke. Ok imagine now you meet a girl that is still one, pls tell me with dis kind of mind set guys are having these days you will not rush and chop your own ( thinking I've made it in life) cos you will feel the girl won't stick with you or will you rush and get married to her? And pls at what age so that you don't become another NED N?

And I want to correct something, pls there are some men and women that will never cheat on their spouse. Yes there are!

And most times when we talk about doing dis and doing that to this person , let's us also know that there are still some incurable disease worse than AIDS. some unknown disease waiting to be transferred. And what of people with bad spirituality. You mix your blood with so many blood and think you are still sound spiritually.

Well, I know that in life people will get to a stage and know that life does not start and end with sex.

Stay blessed.

Remember to have a backup plan

nzeobi:
imagine the energy the friend who doesn't want to marry her will be using on her.

what a rough sex.

Lwkmd o. Bros yo no go kill me

Elbone2:
What do mothers teach their daughters this days?!Just asking......

Money is all that matters. You can take a good look at Rita and Regina Daniels as a case study.
PS. There are still good mommas out there.

Ryan03:
Lol, keep her options open and you think sex will not be involved? Can you date a girl without sex being involved? Be realistic

Keeping options open does not always involve dating. A woman can be commited to one guy yet have other suitors on the friend zone... I don't know how to explain but it is very possible for a lady to keep her options opened at every point in time and still be sexually faithful to one guy.

Made4naijalove:
A guy met the shock of his life after he visited his friend’s home and saw his girlfriend there. The friend had no idea they were dating and the girl didn’t know the guys were friends.

A video has gone viral showing the moment a guy walked into his friend’s house and saw his girlfriend who has been dating for almost 2 years in his friend’s room.

According to another twitter user, the guy has been spending alot on this girl and she is supposed to be in school, only to find her in his friend’s bed.

The lady is seen in the video lying on the bed facing the wall while the two guys stand in a corner talking about the situation.

A Nigerian man gave a narration of how he caught his fiancee cheating on him despite his marriage plans for her. According to the man identified as Isaiah Chidiebere, who took to a popular group on the platform, he was checking through her phone when he found out she has been cheating with 2 other guys.

But while he waited for her to explain the incriminating chats he allegedly saw on her WhatsApp, she grabbed the phone from him and smashed it on the floor, breaking it into pieces.

watch video

source

https://www.made4naija.com/nigerian-guy-visited-his-friends-home-and-met-his-girlfriend-there-in-lagos/

one of them go still buy a new and even more expensive phone!

she is a runz girl na so no need to create drama out of it.just break up with her.

hahahah hahahah guy na wa. For u ohhh

Shibaraba:
If say sniper dey when jumoke go dey fvuck my course mate I for don drink am. But guess what, I'll forever be grateful to jumoke. She opened my eyes onto say no be only one person get punna. Its for everyone. Just nack your own comot there. Thats why when one person dey talk say person na one minute man l just dey laff. Tow tow wey be say dem don dey drill before you reach there and them go still drill after you comot na him you wan kee yourself. For me if possible 10 seconds make I just log in sign signature log out na him sure pass. No matter how you do am you no fit find oil inside am.

Back to the matter,I go still drop transport for her so she go come house make I shine the Congo again. I no fit come dey disturb myself onto heartbreak. The only loyal hole na the one wey my left hand form. Greased with vaseline

Toks2008:


Keeping options open does not always involve dating. A woman can be commited to one guy yet have other suitors on the friend zone... I don't know how to explain but it is very possible for a lady to keep her options opened at every point in time and still be sexually faithful to one guy.

hm in nigeria its very hard oo for a lady to have open options and still be faithful to her main guy.d other guys plus her sugar daddies will still want to chop dhier share and if she no gree open then they wont spend on her hence she will have no option than to open.there are some ladies who can be sexually active with 15 different partners at d same time.na small tin to some ladies.

lefulefu:
hm in nigeria its very hard oo for a lady to have open options and still be faithful to her main guy.d other guys plus her sugar daddies will still want to chop dhier share and if she no gree open then they wont spend on her hence she will have no option than to open.there are some ladies who can be sexually active with 15 different partners at d same time.na small tin to some ladies.

Very true but it is still very possible.

GoldChest:


She's a prostitute

What about men? Do we ever keep a single girl?

R Kelly & usher, same girl

Lol, I told my girlfriend some days ago. "You will still cheat,you have it all set in motion",girl was trying to give attitude after I said that.
A girl that discussed every step of your relationship(in a very bad way)to another guy in a matter of days after you told her to let you take some time off, talked little of you and the relationship(the guy aided too) and then finally he invited her over and girlfriend was already contemplating . I just shock

I knew cos I went back to her after just 2 days and asked her to send me her whole convo with the guy. 2days o, I just weak

hopexter:


You're jobless. Now it's gender now. Go to bed, it's way past your bed time.

Is that all you could say ? Happy new month btw

Skmoda360:

Is that all you could say ? Happy new month btw

Happy New Month to you too. May this month be a blessings to us and less suffer to you. Have faith bro. Things will be better, I can feel it.

Lilymax:

"Men are sexually restless"??
Bro, That is no excuse. Good girls do exist, but y'all keep breaking their hearts. And no one says anything about that, but if one girl cheats, all em Nairaland bashers start pouring into the thread to rain insults on females.
Love does not exist in Nigeria anymore, and we are all at fault, so we might as well share the blame equally.

If you're a good girl, then stay away from bad play boys or stay away from fornication altogether, no be by force to fck dck.
Never compare yourself with a guy, the life of a man and woman is different. Man no dey get hymen, man no get pssy wey fit expand to sack bag, the society doesn't overlook promiscuous women the way it does to men.
In the other way, being a woman especially good woman has lots of advantages too over a man.
So, there is advantages and disadvantage sort of, for each gender. But the issue with girls is, you always want to compare yourself with guys. You want to eat your cakes and have it at the same time.
You want the advantages of being a lady and also enjoy the freedom and restlessness of a guy too. Not possible. You'll pick one. Either you're a man or a woman.
Moreover, it's not about guys breaking anybody's heart, most of the girls today are just naturally cheaters, nympho and coded oloshos who think it is the duty of guys to carter for their financial needs. As a result, ladies jump from one dck to another. Filthy things.

Gratefulheart01:


If you're a good girl, then stay away from bad play boys or stay away from fornication altogether, no be by force to fck dck.
Never compare yourself with a guy, the life of a man and woman is different. Man no dey get hymen, man no get pssy wey fit expand to sack bag, the society doesn't overlook promiscuous women the way it does to men.
In the other way, being a woman especially good woman has lots of advantages too over a man.
So, there is advantages and disadvantage sort of, for each gender. But the issue with girls is, you always want to compare yourself with guys. You want to eat your cakes and have it at the same time.
You want the advantages of being a lady and also enjoy the freedom and restlessness of a guy too. Not possible. You'll pick one. Either you're a man or a woman.
Moreover, it's not about guys breaking anybody's heart, most of the girls today are just naturally cheaters, nympho and coded oloshos who think it is the duty of guys to carter for their financial needs. As a result, ladies jump from one dck to another. Filthy things.

Can you please stop generalizing. And stop with the insults. I don't know about your orientation, There is no excuse for breaking the heart of someone you once told how much you loved her. Take me for instance, i am not perfect, but i tried to be a good girlfriend. I was 100% loyal, i was always there, never demanded anything from him, but do you know what he said to me? He said he suddenly didn't feel like having a girlfriend anymore, that he was scared of having the same thing that happened between him and his ex happen again between us. but he would still love to keep seeing me. And that the 100% i was giving to him should be reduced to 10%. And immediately we broke up, he started flaunting his new babe. I let it go, now he's back, disturbing me to come back, saying things to make me feel guilty, stuff like "why did i find it so easy to let him go"?. It took me a whole year to get over him, and im still single, because i don't want a rerun.and i know many girls who have encountered the same kinda guys.
So stop with the blame trip, you guys are also to blame.

dingbang:
a woman's cheating is more painful

Exactly

Omega30:
U look loyal sha

They no dey write am for face.

Toks2008:


Keeping options open does not always involve dating. A woman can be commited to one guy yet have other suitors on the friend zone... I don't know how to explain but it is very possible for a lady to keep her options opened at every point in time and still be sexually faithful to one guy.

True. Good girls do it.

The only thing is, don't lead them all on, don't give them undue hope, don't make them feel stupid for waiting for you, don't milk them dry, very importantly, don't sleep with them, & most importantly, don't use the word "love" on them to deceive them.

These are my guides!