Cutebabiesmum:

The lady is married and having accommodation issue. She live with her parent and her parent are not really old like that. My husband can go after anything on skirt, I am 100% sure of that. It is just a pity I end up with such man and the most annoying part of it is he's 1min man. I swear to God he can't do more than 1min and can't also do more than 1 round in a day

have u now turned to tonto dike. Coming to social media to embarass your husband, by the way who asked you how long he could last, was he a one minute man when you first married him?

Cutebabiesmum:

My phone is what keeps my company at night because he's sleeping in different room. Without my phone I will cry myself to sleep because I don't have any friend I can talk to. But reading comment on Instagram, nairaland and advertising my product(I have a business) always makes me happy every night

Is this what some married folks go through?

SageMK:




If your husband doesn't give you the attention you seek, or the companionship or sex, or even help foot the bills then he's dead beat. He's good for nothing really.

It's obvious you are unhappy and you're looking for that hint of infidelity to break free... Why wait — Just do it!

You've both given up hope to fix your home.
Trust your intuition and divorce him.

Life is just too short to be miserable.

But you haven't brought any good advice on how to change things.You just adviced her to break free.

Cutebabiesmum:

If any woman has frustrated you why not go and vent your anger on the woman and not me. Did I tell you I want to divorce him now? A lady that was respecting him before just stopped greeting him and I have heard fron a reliable source that my husband do give the lady money for upkeep whereas he's leaving his responsibility at home for me to do just because I own a business and you are here typing what I don't know. A lady here asked if he flirt with other women and I said yes because I don't trust him with women at all. I have seen a lot and I know what am saying.

From all this you have said, you know the answer so why waste seun's cloud space

Cutebabiesmum:
Good evening beautiful people, not like am suspecting my husband but I want to hear people opinion. There's this lady with 2 kids that is staying with her parent in our compound. I heard their landlord evicted her and her husband and they have not been able to raise money and get another apartment so she brought her two kids to stay with her parent while her husband squat with someone else.
I normally hear this lady greet my husband "good morning sir" "afternoon sir" I mean she always add sir anytime she's greeting him. But recently she stopped greeting him even if she come to our apartment to charge phone(their apartment light was disconnected and they haven't pay their bills). Just some months ago, someone from our compound told me my husband is giving this lady feeding money(a married woman o) I didn't believe the amebo because I have been the one financing almost everything in that house including paying my son's school fees because oga said he's broke which I believe him.
Is it possible he's dating the lady or am just getting worried over nothing? Please don't mind all my grammatical error because am not in good mood now at all

But even if his dating her will that stop her from greeting him? If your suspicion is based on her not greeting your husband or the rumoure you heard then it makes no sense besides if your husband is broke how can he be feeding another woman with kids
Investigate more

Ur husband don tear her bush tire... No tink am twice.

Shibaraba:

Shebi na you. I have a dossier on you. But not today. I'm in a good mood. Not today

OK boo.

Cutebabiesmum:
Good evening beautiful people, not like am suspecting my husband but I want to hear people opinion. There's this lady with 2 kids that is staying with her parent in our compound. I heard their landlord evicted her and her husband and they have not been able to raise money and get another apartment so she brought her two kids to stay with her parent while her husband squat with someone else.
I normally hear this lady greet my husband "good morning sir" "afternoon sir" I mean she always add sir anytime she's greeting him. But recently she stopped greeting him even if she come to our apartment to charge phone(their apartment light was disconnected and they haven't pay their bills). Just some months ago, someone from our compound told me my husband is giving this lady feeding money(a married woman o) I didn't believe the amebo because I have been the one financing almost everything in that house including paying my son's school fees because oga said he's broke which I believe him.
Is it possible he's dating the lady or am just getting worried over nothing? Please don't mind all my grammatical error because am not in good mood now at all

The real enemy is the SOMEONE who gave you the information. Where was this person when the money changed hands? How did this person draw the conclusion the money was “feeding money”?

Cutebabiesmum:

The lady is married and having accommodation issue. She live with her parent and her parent are not really old like that. My husband can go after anything on skirt, I am 100% sure of that. It is just a pity I end up with such man and the most annoying part of it is he's 1min man. I swear to God he can't do more than 1min and can't also do more than 1 round in a day

If u want him to last as long as 7hrs, It is possible, there is. Guy on romance section his name is iLegendd, he has a book dat reveal all the secret to last as long as 7hrs in bed, the book cost 10k, but today is his birthday so he is selling it today for 1k, buy it for him and ur story will change

Cutebabiesmum:

The lady is married and having accommodation issue. She live with her parent and her parent are not really old like that. My husband can go after anything on skirt, I am 100% sure of that. It is just a pity I end up with such man and the most annoying part of it is he's 1min man. I swear to God he can't do more than 1min and can't also do more than 1 round in a day

Madam - you are a bad wife. I’m not saying this to insult you. Your husband is your family. Whether you divorce him, separate from him or kill him. He would remain a part of your life.

Stop divulging family issues with the public, your neighbors and your friends.

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dingbang:
Why not ask your husband this question than coming to Nairaland to be misled?

It will be easier for camel to pass through the eye of the needle than the husbad to confess even if confronted.

[quote author=Cutebabiesmum post=78906934]Good evening beautiful people, not like am suspecting my husband but I want to hear people opinion. There's this lady with 2 kids that is staying with her parent in our compound. I heard their landlord evicted her and her husband and they have not been able to raise money and get another apartment so she brought her two kids to stay with her parent while her husband squat with someone else.
I normally hear this lady greet my husband "[i[b]]good morning sir"[/i[/b]] "afternoon sir" I mean she always add sir anytime she's greeting him. But recently she stopped greeting him even if she come to our [/b]apartment to charge phone(their apartment light was disconnected and they haven't pay their bills). Just[b] some months ago, someone from our compound told me my husband is giving this lady feeding money(a married woman o) I didn't believe the amebo because I have been the one financing almost everything in that house including paying my son's school fees because [i]oga said he's broke which I believe him. [/i]

For your husband to lost the honour of SIR from her, it's as a result of two posible occurences

1. Your husband made an advance on her already. She agreed or turned it down 50 50 chance. We guys can relate to that very well, almost always we lost such respect from our female counterparts when ever something related to that happened between us
Awon Omoge asiko yi o ran wa rara

2. She made an advance on your husband and she succeded. So, no more RESPECT.

Base on all these signals, we can say the chance of your husband doing it with her is very very and so so high couple with the fact that, you've been gist by Amebo in your area that your husband has been helping in financing her and lately your husband has been complaining of how broke he is and you're feeling the impacts as well.

At the same time, we can not conclude 100% that the scenario is true because the allegation lack tangible evidence to back it up.

Recommendation
Be more vigilant and handle things with high level of maturity.

There is an adage in Yoruba
"Igba pele ki fo, awo pele kii fa ya"

Amebo, talkative...

Preshy561:
Men of these generation.
Tufia. You hardly see one with sense.
Believe you me, he's dating that lady.

Whenever a lady stops greeting a guy or stops respecting him, they are in for long thing.

She will soon ask him to divorce you and marry her, stay there and be asking questions.

Shibaraba:
Madam youre looking for an excuse to divorce the man so do it and stop disturbing our peace here. Calling him a one minute man plus you pay the bills. By the way what is a married woman doing with her phone by this time? Shouldn't you be collecting the one minute from him?

Women... Una go hear am for my hand aswearugod
Just imagine this nonsense

See mouth. Las las na your type dey wash their wife pant

Ishilove:

See mouth. Las las na your type dey wash their wife pant

i get cousin wey dey wash him girlfriend pant/clothes and even iron/press her clothes but guess what... The guy dey very abusive. Both verbal and physical abuse... But guess what him also know how to dey very caring... Him dey cook well too and other stuffs... Even me I don tell the girl to leave my cousin but for where... Even when she dey catch am with girls, she no still gree leave am... She dey hope say him go marry her ..

SmellingAnus:
i get cousin wey dey wash him girlfriend pant/clothes and even iron/press her clothes but guess what... The guy dey very abusive. Both verbal and physical abuse... Buy guess what him also know how to dey very caring... Him dey cook well too and other stuffs... Even me I don tell the girl to leave my cousin but for where... Even when she dey catch am with girls, she no still gree leave am... She dey hope say him go marry her ..

Love can be madly wickedly crazy atimes. Atimes, the girl would wish she could help it and let go of your cousin. Sadly, she wouldn't.

They tin Taya me o

Cutebabiesmum:
Good evening beautiful people, not like am suspecting my husband but I want to hear people opinion. There's this lady with 2 kids that is staying with her parent in our compound. I heard their landlord evicted her and her husband and they have not been able to raise money and get another apartment so she brought her two kids to stay with her parent while her husband squat with someone else.
I normally hear this lady greet my husband "good morning sir" "afternoon sir" I mean she always add sir anytime she's greeting him. But recently she stopped greeting him even if she come to our apartment to charge phone(their apartment light was disconnected and they haven't pay their bills). Just some months ago, someone from our compound told me my husband is giving this lady feeding money(a married woman o) I didn't believe the amebo because I have been the one financing almost everything in that house including paying my son's school fees because oga said he's broke which I believe him.
Is it possible he's dating the lady or am just getting worried over nothing? Please don't mind all my grammatical error because am not in good mood now at all

I have gone through your other posts and I can categorically tell you that many women are going through this and are silent. From 1 mins man thing, to extra marital affair, to abuse and violence.
I have a very close female friend who is going through exactly issues like this. I have another of my friend the wife calls me to complain about her husband's 'issues'. Strangely, no one can offer any viable solution here. Most you get here are insults and itk comments.
I think you should also look inwards, look at the beginning where it all went bad.

Cutebabiesmum:

If any woman has frustrated you why not go and vent your anger on the woman and not me. Did I tell you I want to divorce him now? A lady that was respecting him before just stopped greeting him and I have heard fron a reliable source that my husband do give the lady money for upkeep whereas he's leaving his responsibility at home for me to do just because I own a business and you are here typing what I don't know. A lady here asked if he flirt with other women and I said yes because I don't trust him with women at all. I have seen a lot and I know what am saying.

Maybe he asked her out and she refused. She may not be going out with him but she no longer respect him.
Your husband is a disgrace

Kendumazy:


Love can be madly wickedly crazy atimes. Atimes, the girl would wish she could help it and let go of your cousin. Sadly, she wouldn't.

i dey tell you... Dem don date for over 9years... Na another man go end up marrying her you can imagine...

queenfav:
There are things you don't come online to say about your husband, especially one that you are still living with. It beats me why you feel nairaland is the best place to get answers to issues in your marriage. What's your aim telling us all this? Were we all there when you married him? Figure out all this on your own please, that's why marriage is not for kids. No one will advise you on what to do because it's YOUR life, YOUR marriage and YOUR husband. Learn to deal with it, no one here actually cares, you are just entertaining us.

SmellingAnus:
i dey tell you... Dem don date for over 9years... Na another man go end up marrying her you can imagine...

What's wrong with another man marrying her?
She has shown she can be enduring and stable. You haven't mentioned any serious character fault in her that would make her undesirable for other men. (Other than the obvious low self esteem she has).
Imagine dating someone for 9 years and he cant complain she's cheated on him, through thick and thin,she's been there. Rather he beats her.
Would it have been better for someone else marrying her if she has dated 6 different guys in that 9 years?
Sadly she is a victim of abuse. I hope she's lucky enough to meet someone else who will show her that she has value. I hope she will get insight one day into her situation and realise she deserves better.

eyinjuege:


What's wrong with another man marrying her?
She has shown she can be enduring and stable. You haven't mentioned any serious character fault in her that would make her undesirable for other men. (Other than the obvious low self esteem she has).
Imagine dating someone for 9 years and he cant complain she's cheated on him, through thick and thin,she's been there. Rather he beats her.
Would it have been better for someone else marrying her if she has dated 6 different guys in that 9 years?
Sadly she is a victim of abuse. I hope she's lucky enough to meet someone else who will show her that she has value. I hope she will get insight one day into her situation and realise she deserves better.

Like i said before, I even told her to leave him cause of the beatings...

Secondly, that she endured before doesn't mean she will be willing to endure again and be treated like a fool...

Thirdly, getting over him will not be as easy as you think... I still have some married exes that are still in love with me... If not that I have never and will not want to have anything with married women , then
I don't think any of them even loved me like the way this girl loves my cousin ..

My brother... Just don't pray to be with a woman that her mind/heart may probably be with another man...

SmellingAnus:
Like i said before, I even told her to leave him cause of the beatings...

Secondly, that she endured before doesn't mean she will be willing to endure again and be treated like a fool...

Thirdly, getting over him will not be as easy as you think... I still have some married exes that are still in love with me... If not that I have never and will not want to have anything with married women , then
I don't think any of them even loved me like the way this girl loves my cousin ..

My brother... Just don't pray to be with a woman that her yourself going back to mind/heart may probably be with another man...

Your last sentence is true. Don't be with a woman/man whose heart is with another. When it comes to matters of love atimes, the heart wants what it wants. It takes special grace and self will to leave a wrong relationship where your heart is. No matter the amount of preaching or sermons you receive, you still find yourself going back to the filth.
Relationship matters sha.
Meanwhile some relationships that start up perfect end up disastrous.
I'm a sister btw

eyinjuege:


Your last sentence is true. Don't be with a woman/man whose heart is with another. When it comes to matters of love atimes, the heart wants what it wants. It takes special grace and self will to leave a wrong relationship where your heart is. No matter the amount of preaching or sermons you receive, you still find yourself going back to the filth.
Relationship matters sha.
Meanwhile some relationships that start up perfect end up disastrous.
I'm a sister btw

oh... Sorry for my wrong assumption... True dear .. sometimes it starts well and ends disastrously...

nwanneni:
you are not prepared to keep this marriage yet!
Ndi heard from reliable source

Until she dies from emotional trauma or depression?

Somzee:


Until she does from emotional trauma or depression?

don't you know the man you married better than everyone else?
Or didn't you court him?Or are you one of those sisters that see courting as evil perhaps?
I will not find it funny with anyone that brings my family up for discussion.
People already know me for this and no one dares bring that BS close to me these days.

Cutebabiesmum:

Ma'am, you asked if he's flirting with other women and am trying to explain his relationship with women. I haven't caught him red handed but I have read so many message on his phone telling his girlfriend to meet him in hotel and am wondering why a man that can't go more than 1 min will be doing with other women. Anyway thanks for your opinion

please don't mind the S.u. I believe you.

yvelchstores:
The annoying part of everything is that someone I your compound told u.... Why will u listen to gossip in the first place. Ask yourself what is d intention of the person telling you this? She obviously wants to cause division as she is of her father the devil.
Whether or not it's true, it's up to you to mend your home.
For u to open up here saying he is a 1 minute man and so on, obviously u don't respect that man.
Treat him like a man who deserves respect. Also allow him to take up any responsibility, even if it's to buy bread and appreciate the bread like u have never eaten bread before. Boost that man's ego, make him feel like a hero. Maintain the peace in your home, irrespective of any truths or facts, very impt.

this is good advice op. do this.

Madam for the interest of your marriage, your children and your own happiness, i suggest you ignore any suspicion that you have until u get something more concrete. If u continue with these kind of thoughts, distrust issues will creep in. Love your husband till u catch him red handed. I will say more if you respond.

qereshi:
sister, easy, some men that have decided to be good, are suffering under their wives, because madam knows that they are good men, and that they would not do anything funny

I understand you. I feel your pain, friend. God will help you.