Hi everyone,
Please I need mature and genuine advice. Dated a guy for about 2 years but it didnt work out because my parents were against it. After we split,I was hurt and decided it best to just close that chapter of my life while he always wants to be a part of my life(even though he was seeing someone else). About 8 months after we split,he is getting married to someone else and wants me to come for the wedding. I always said i wont go for his wedding but now that he called me and gave me an IV,I felt that will be bad because he always tells everyone that no matter where I wed,he must be there. Plus the wedding is in my church.
My major reason for not wanting to go is because I think I'll feel embarrassed. Dont want unnecessary attention that day cos alot of people knew us together, plus those who will keep saying 'dont worry, God will soon do your own, we will soon gather for you too..he really wished he could marry you etc'..I also think it will be unfair to his wife,will she ever feel comfortable having me around her husband....is it really possible or even necessary to remain friends with an ex.....please I need advice

P.s....could it be that I'm just some form of emotional cushion for him while he tries to face reality with his new wife

Please do not attend.

Thanks.

God bless.

Are you comfortable going?
Do you still have feelings for him?

Skip if you've feelings for him. But if you don't, then just honour his invitation [if you are comfortable going]. Like seriously, think about all the free food!

It's possible to be friends with an ex. But he's getting married so why bother... Just be on good terms really.

At the end of the day, despite being romantically involved there was most likely also a friendship. It also doesn’t sound like he’s a bad person or you split on bad terms, he did not initiate the breakup either. I don’t think his invite was malicious essentially, it’s just awkward.

If you aren’t comfortable however, don’t attend it. Going by what you’ve written, if I were you I wouldn’t personally, too soon and too close to home (literally).

I want to say 8 months is a bit quick but I know people who have gotten married after just 6 months of being a relationship so you never know.

Girrrrl!
1. You need a boyfriend.

2. He gave you an I.V
not hancuffs.

This should not even be up here. If u don't go. What will he do to u Beat u or wat

No need going. You're emotional already and will sure fvk up there. Respect yourself.
If by chance you meet somewhere, let him understand that you simply can't be there.