Infact you dont need any advice because you have drawn your conclusion.

She is a feminists.

And feminists are bad for you.

Do you want us to tell you to go against your wish

liberalchick:
Then ABORT!

Most people get too distracted with the physical appearance and ignore what’s on the inside, if you don’t have shared values don’t go ahead with the wedding.

Physical attraction does not even last up to a year in a marriage, there is a saying “show me a beautiful girl and I will show you a man that is tired of her”. Shared values is what you will have to rely on for the rest of the marriage. People rarely change, most adults are already set in their ways, so don’t expect anyone will CHANGE. “Once a person shows you who they are believe them”

Send ur address make i send u cold stone n pizzas

LilMissFavvy:
You are very wrong. The moment a guy finds his dream woman, he would want to marry her, especially if he is in love. He may even have to prove his worth cuz she may also have other admirers. These things are both ways. Many career women with good looks take their time as well before picking a man.

at the emboldened, women don't pick men, rather we men pick u all..as a lady u can't choose your man, your man chooses u

LasLas:


Ever since we came back from my village i have been having this thoughts of divorce. I have this feeling that i will seek for divorce immediately after the wedding. I don't want to have a broken home. I don't want to cheat on my wife because if i eventually marry her with the way i am thinking now i must cheat on her which i don't want to happen in my marriage.
Please i need your advice.

Bro, what is her fault? If you can't find one, I am afraid to tell you that the village people are at work.
That your thought is of the devil, do not give it a room in your heart.

If you suddenly started feeling this way after you came back from the village.
my brother, please pray about this. the devil is a fool

LasLas:
Please nairalanders, I need your opinion and advice though i expect a lot of bashing because it is normal here on nairaland.

I met this girl two years back and we started dating since 2017. We have been into each other since then.

Recently i went to see her parents just to make my intentions known. After that, we both traveled to see my parents also.

Ever since we came back from my village i have been having this thoughts of divorce. I have this feeling that i will seek for divorce immediately after the wedding. I don't want to have a broken home. I don't want to cheat on my wife because if i eventually marry her with the way i am thinking now i must cheat on her which i don't want to happen in my marriage. I am thinking of quiting the relationship but i don't know how to go about it, how she will react, what her family members will say and react. I am so confused.

Please i need your advice.

U joined this forum today just to ask stupid questions

LasLas:
Please nairalanders, I need your opinion and advice though i expect a lot of bashing because it is normal here on nairaland.

I met this girl two years back and we started dating since 2017. We have been into each other since then.

Recently i went to see her parents just to make my intentions known. After that, we both traveled to see my parents also.

Ever since we came back from my village i have been having this thoughts of divorce. I have this feeling that i will seek for divorce immediately after the wedding. I don't want to have a broken home. I don't want to cheat on my wife because if i eventually marry her with the way i am thinking now i must cheat on her which i don't want to happen in my marriage. I am thinking of quiting the relationship but i don't know how to go about it, how she will react, what her family members will say and react. I am so confused.

Please i need your advice.

All this emotional immature boys.... Stop moving faster than ur shadow

Shugargal:
Thank you fellow psychologist.. He's sounding as if maybe the said gal is a nairalander and doesn't want her to suspect anything, secondly there's one serious thing he is keeping away. and can only say it privately to a trusted or unknown fellow.

Exactly. This young man is just looking for a reason to bring shame to the lady. I'm sure there's something he's hiding. His writing is not straight forward. That he suspects she's a feminist. After TWO years.
Something tells me it's either he's falling for someone else or he has spiritual problems.

LasLas:

Her ideologies are totally different from mine. When ever i correct her on some issues or tell her to do some stuffs she feel am trampling on her and sometimes she feel i'm punishing her.

give us specific example or gerrara here...

LasLas:

I am actually seeing some feminism traits in her and some other issues.... Sometimes now her talks irritates me

Feminism Run oooo see ikeji see toto see tiwa run

Shibaraba:
Divorce came to mind because she did something either consciously or subconsciously and you hated it.

We wey dey the institution na prison we dey we no fit comot.
We dey push am like that. Wishing we weren't
But then again no one loves going down alone
So please marry. Make you feel wetin we dey feel

,,,

NNEWIsuper:

at the emboldened, women don't pick men, rather we men pick u all..as a lady u can't choose your man, your man chooses u

Clap for yasef

Chi59:


You can't eat your cake and have it at the same time. You think women don't get scared of being tied down to one man for life?
Miss me with that BS.

There's something the op is hiding from us.

I strongly disagree. Not in this our current generation where our ladies see marriage as the biggest achievement.

As a matter of fact I don't think OP would have come to seek for advise if it appears the way you think about women.

Oga Op please save that girl's life and don't marry her
Don't bring a lifetime doom to her please

Bro, put God first also pray and consult your pastor or your imam,they will guide you on how to do
never marry a lady out of pity, marriage is for life
God bless you bro

LasLas:

I am actually seeing some feminism traits in her and some other issues.... Sometimes now her talks irritate me

This is why sex before marriage is wrong.
Her talks now irritate you because you have browsed all her web pages.
I don't see true love in you towards her; if you truly love her, you will discuss this irritation and the likes with her.
I will suggest that both of you see a marriage counsellor asap.
Do not look for a new website to browse.

LasLas:

Feminism traits and the likes....

I'm torn between laughing hysterically and getting very angry over this comment.You're not a serious person. Please do that lady a favour and leave her for someone who's not intimidated by a woman having her own opinions.

emelda86:
Boys too much for this nairaland...

Aswear!

Too many babies in adult bodies.

LasLas:
Feminism traits and the likes....

explain better

wetin happen.... so that we ar sure we are not taking sides

ImaIma1:


It is the new adjective for any woman that has a different opinion from a guy. Once you have a mind of your own and you are not an "oh yes" member, boom! You are a feminist

How come "not being submissive" is what comes to your mind when asking the OP what he meant by feminist?

Just so you know that's what comes into the mind of "most" Nigerian men. Not that we can't stand assertive ladies, but you'll agree with me it's not the same as not being submissive.

OP Have you made your reservations known to the lady in question? If it took you 2 years to find out this side of her then you need to work more on communication in your relationships.

donbachi:
Spiritually,someone is sitting on your marriage..how can you take your wife to be to your village to meet with parent.only to return back with the thought of ending it..it is not ordinary..when it comes to marriage,we pay more attentions to the physical,finances and human qualities negleting the spiritual side of marriage.both of you should seek the face of God.and pray.

they should hear God first

Chi59:


Exactly. This young man is just looking for a reason to bring shame to the lady. I'm sure there's something he's hiding. His writing is not straight forward. That he suspects she's a feminist. After TWO years.
Something tells me it's either he's falling for someone else or he has spiritual problems.

Jah bless you sis... I hope he sees this and better know he's deceiving himself, I wonder how he will get good advices when he's hiding something. all the best to him still.

LasLas:

I am actually seeing some feminism traits in her and some other issues.... Sometimes now her talks irritates me

You are unconsciously sick and don't take this as bashing!!
You are thinking of divorce because she showing feminist trait.
The question is what are the feminist trait? And what are the issues with them?
Please break up with her you probably don't deserve her obviously you are the one with the problem... Heteronormality crap.

LasLas:

Feminism traits and the likes....

The feminism you did not notice since 2017, guy wake up, some external forces are behind. You will find another excuse in your next relationship if you break up with her. Check yourself.

Why are you just seeing the act in her now and not before?

This is my point. Pls go and do serious prayer, you have a problem.

After wasting her time for two whole years, you stopped using your brain and started thinking with your d1ck.

Just break up with her, let her move on to a good person.

You on the other hand need a Jezebel that will show you pepper.

Mumu.

LasLas:

I am actually seeing some feminism traits in her and some other issues.... Sometimes now her talks irritates me

Just when you took her to the village to see your people and you start seeing traits of feminism......

Please tell us that your family said her eyes shook pass your own and she go control you for house.....

That's when you start realising that those your thoughts.......

'Feminist views' Haha. Such a weak man!

LasLas:

I am actually seeing some feminism traits in her and some other issues.... Sometimes now her talks irritates me

Abeg run for dear life.

Guy listen to another real advise...

My say in this matter is that, I want you to know that relationship won't bring out the TRUE nature of the both of you, YOU have yours and SHE has hers. Feminism is not the last of her there are still some that will manifest later from both of you I mean...

If you don't want to continue QUIT... I'm sure she will have something on you too but because of love she overlooked them or are you perfect


MARK MY WORD:- you will still see something else in another lady that you will still complain about...

Anyone with a perfect HOME

If it's because of feminism I pity you

My only advice for you is to go ahead with the marriage, only if she loves you more than you do.
That's the only thing that will make her to be loyal to you.
If not, my brother abort.

LasLas:
Please nairalanders, I need your opinion and advice though i expect a lot of bashing because it is normal here on nairaland.

I met this girl two years back and we started dating since 2017. We have been into each other since then.

Recently i went to see her parents just to make my intentions known. After that, we both traveled to see my parents also.

Ever since we came back from my village i have been having this thoughts of divorce. I have this feeling that i will seek for divorce immediately after the wedding. I don't want to have a broken home. I don't want to cheat on my wife because if i eventually marry her with the way i am thinking now i must cheat on her which i don't want to happen in my marriage. I am thinking of quiting the relationship but i don't know how to go about it, how she will react, what her family members will say and react. I am so confused.

Please i need your advice.

Though you've not said anything but I think you're feeling as if you are settling for less.

Most times people tend to become disappointed in their partner because they feel they are settling for less.

The once sweet talks becomes tedious. They start noticing little imperfections in their partner, like how the makeups sits imperfectly on their face, how their clothes are torn in particular places.

The glamor that was once there is no more.

Op marriage is two people coming together to build a home.

If she's really a good girl, faithful to you, please hold her.

Love her, like you've never done before. Make her happy.

Don't destroy a beautiful relationship because you feel like you're trapped or that there's something better for you out there. There's probably no one better.

C'mon kip kwayet! After you chop all the kpomo finish since 2017, now you are thinking of what? If i hear. Did you tell us when you met her? Did you tell us before you involve your parents? Why tell us now? My friend go and marry your woman and stop being a child. Who will you leave her for? Me? Omo, i no want toks sorry. Carry your cross.