funny how we can just come up here and make comments on topics without actually fully understanding the reality of our suggestions, i made a comment on the first page of this topic "www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-441397.0.html". "the second or third comment i think" about how ok it wld Be to be approached by a lady, little did i know it was going 2 come around 2 bite me on d a88. i was approached by this pretty lass a week back and she asked me out telling me how she's been gathering up d courage to come 4ward, she seems 9ce and decent & she's a miss independent "my kind of lady". only prob is i dont think i'm ready 4 a serious relationship and i dont know how to explain this 2 her. i dont want to break her heart & at d same time, i'm thinking "what if when i'm eventually ready? wld i find some1 as perfect as her?" kind of in a dilema here. some of my friends have adviced me to just string her on and see how serious things might get, that eventually her love 4 me might put me in a position 2 want a serious relationship with her. personally, i think it wld b unfair 2 her but hell, ladies do it 2 guys all the time.

U know wat u want n dont trip 4 me cos it wont work wit me atall

If you are not ready for a serious relationship, simply ask to be friends

Why not start bn friends, how come she just wanna have it all at the same time?, anyways, careful man

poster

you need to open your mouth and be as transparent as possible with her. you have to let her know that though she is great, you are just not ready for any thing serious. you have to let her know before time passes and it becomes an awkward situation

p.s stringing her along is a terrible idea dont damage her for the next man who can be with her

since you know what you want why playing along? tell her your mind if you truly don't have the mind of using and dumping her.

i guess he is interested in her ego, since he said she is independent

Omolola1:

i guess he is interested in her ego, since he said she is independent

Exactly,

Op no vex, you also kinda sound like a gold digger

@ DYT, and ur point is?
@ OMOLOLA1, her money is d last thing on my mind, trust me, as a matter of fact, i feel embarrased for guys that date women 4 money.
@REALITY101, friends shld b a good idea but from her actions and words, she obviously wants more than that.

U know wat u want

Exactly: u just wanna have sex with her. if so, be open. DO NOT! DO NOT, string her along.

Be honest with her yusuf, she will respect you more for it. . . . . . . . . .tell her you would rather be friends for now and see what happens from there!

SA Goddess:

Be honest with her yusuf, she will respect you more for it. . . . . . . . . .tell her you would rather be friends for now and see what happens from there!

kind of agree with this.

Il stick wit SA Goddess on this 1. . .

Yeah poster be friends and tell her what the situation is.

@ IICE, much respect & no offence intended but it's absurd 4 u 2 think that i would waste my time by coming in here 2 look for justification from people i cant even c 2 do something bad, i have a very fragile conscience & i wld'nt want 2 lead her on to believe that i actually luv her 2. by d way i've found a way 2 convince her 2 just be friends.
@ others, 10x 4 ur replies. although there were some assumptions made here i did not really appreciate.

U c,u knew all along

I did exactly SA Goddesses counsel when i had a fix like yours.

But instead she got mad and she swear for me and my family,

I am dead serious. Though she mailed me after 8 months and told me she misses me.

@ DYT, thank you, mom, LOL, but u where wrong d 1st time.
@ DONPUZO, 10x 4 sharing but i dont think she's d type, LOL @ ur experience though.

As if u v nt been waitin n expectin my reply,winks

yusuf_@:

@ DYT, thank you, mom, LOL, but u where wrong d 1st time.
@ DONPUZO, 10x 4 sharing but i dont think she's d type, LOL @ your experience though.

You are welcome Bros, But in case she turns out to be Which [size=1pt]she most likely will[/size] she wouldn't in Jesus Name! Don't fail to contact me on the format i used that made her miss me!

Dyt(){
print<<<amen
Amen
amen;
}
if(Dyt){
$case!=$donpuzo's
}

else{
$case==$donpuzo's
}

^^Wats dat

I used a programming language, I this case PHP, to say.

You should say Amen, else, his case may end up like mine!

.Meanin if dyt his case = urs ryt

In programming an exclamation mark means "not"

if(Dyt){
$case!=$donpuzo's
}

If Dyt(Dyt in this case is a function of you saying Amen!) that is. If you say amen, his case will not(!) be equal(same) with mine!

@ DYT, expecting your reply? i laff in chinese, & it took u just 14 mins 2 reply mine, waiting up till past your bed time 2 catch my post, dont make me get a restricting order LOL.

@ DONPUZO, if she turns out to be like u anticipate, trust me, i'm going 2 come back here 2 tell u guys,

@ IICE, u & dis your pink or is it purple fonts, lol. i agree with u. i only made that statement about how ladies do the same as d reason why my friends adviced i string her along.

If she has all the quality you want in a woman. . . take things slow or you can as well let her Pilot the *ship. . . Sounds like she'll make a great Captain, all you need be right now is a good Passenger and enjoy your ride to a successful relationship.