2dice01:
lol why is that

Because he woo her and she declined


So he shouldnt help the needy

Bros do u know if you date an average 9ja Bae your expenses after 6month can building one room in my area

Follow this kinghopex and Yes you probably would have spent more had it been you're dating her

So help the needy

If u don't have sense u can help her

baby124:
Help her with what you can comfortably help with. This life is funny... you never know when you may need her. She’s still your friend even though you are not dating. Why stick around her if you are so bitter?

Jesus...who told u they are friends?? Or he is bitter??
He just said they are chatting and for fvck sakes, why ask him for money? Is that nor demeaning? Where is her pride for Pete sakes?
OP,if u haven't helped ur mum,dad or siblings and u dey send mumu money as father Xmas,u go hear weeen o...u hear?

You can help her with a reasonable amount of money if you have enough to spare. If your initial intentions were pure, you shouldn't even be asking.

Wilzonjay32:
see below

e nor dey tire you, nairaland kindly make me the chief whip on this platform, this guy deserves some hard knock

ityP:

naso now

Yes I will gladly help her! Sometimes it not until you date her, she can be more useful than what you expect. Sometimes you don’t even know the circumstances surrounding her turning you down.

Trust me my brother, if you still like her don’t give up on her. Just remember that if you don’t God will surely send someone who will help her.

She turned you down four years back and now she’s in the University. That tells me she was a young, naive lady then and wasn’t interested in having a relationship (with you).

At that stage, the decision was good for both of you (unknowingly), else, you perhaps won’t have been able to make the money you’re contemplating on giving her now, and she’d also not have been this interested in school, four years down the line - a lot could have happened.

If I may ask, have you been keeping in touch with her since she turned down your request four years back? If yes, what has been the point of interest - friendship or romantic relationship?

If your answer is the former, then, help your friend. If not, follow your guts.

Another question, is the lady now in a relationship? If yes, is she asking for the financial assistance on an emotional/romantic basis? If yes, then don’t give. But it’s due to constraints, please do give her.

I should say that you really need to be sure of her current financial state and genuineness or otherwise.

That said, one shouldn’t always do good/favour with the intent of receiving it back. It’s even terrible when you’re already thinking of sexual gratification for helping someone. No be every girl be ashewo/gold digger or want to take emotional cum financial advantage of men.

It takes a lot of courage for a decent lady to ask for a favour. The average girl/lady studying in Africa is hugely constrained by want and lack, and the least we capable men/women can do is to help without expecting anything back.

God is the best rewarder, he knows our hearts and sees our actions. We shall all be judged sooner or later!

What’s your mind telling you?

kinghopex:
I really need advice on this..

I asked this lady out back then in 2015 and she turned me down completely without any reasonable excuse...

Now she is in the university studying and today while we were chatting, she told me she is seriously broke that i should help her with money!!

If i were you will you help her

She shud feel guilty about this.. I guess it's time she promise u heaven and earth if u help her. I f u help her two things r involved it's either she loves u for it or she act as if u never exhisted.. use ur head man! get sm brain!

Deepfeel:
Well she turned you down 4 yrs ago but you two are still communicating fine I guess as friends right? Help her as a friend, friends help each other, she's not asking for a chance to love you or be loved by you why take revenge cause someone said she's not in love with you, don't be surprised even with your money she will still turn you down, she's a friend not a lover

these are sensible pple u should listen to kinghopex

Charmingrascal:
Not every Lady you ask out will agree to date u, if u have the money give her


I would rather give a Lady that turned down my advances money than giving an ex who cheated on me

Santa Claus

Gisborne6:
Think of it as helping the needy nt as helping d lady dah turned u down it should be easier

kinghopex this is sensible to

Her parents probably sent her enough money.

But shawarma, cinema and wigs no go allow them manage the money well.

You are weak and emotionally manipulative.

2dice01:
Yes if he has

If dangote ex ask him for money
If he dash the ex 1million will it affect him

our uncle here is Daniel not Dangote,..... wait y I even capital D, daniel ja re

tartarus:
She turned you down 4yrs ago!! 4 years ago!! She probably had her reasons or were you expecting her to date you if she didn't have feelings?! . Now you've still been communicating with her as friends right?, Help her as a friend if you can but the fact you brought this to nairaland says a lot!. Still pained after 4years?!
Why are we guys scared to help out ladies in order not to be seen as mugu?. It's a one time thing, it's not like you're going to become her father and provider. Has she ever demanded anything from you before now in the 4yrs of communication?

bro or sis you can't bet on our girls they always like playing smart, help them today tomorrow will surely come, but that aside I still think the guy should help her for helping sake.... n besides what if the girl is trying to test the water if you know what I mean

Give her 5k charity and block her.

TSRC:
Her parents probably sent her enough money.

But shawarma, cinema and wigs no go allow them manage the money well.

Real talk. Shawarma and Habib ice cream.

baby124:
Help her with what you can comfortably help with. This life is funny... you never know when you may need her. She’s still your friend even though you are not dating. Why stick around her if you are so bitter?

If i'm kinghopex i'll just do exactly as you said. This world is really a small world. you're wise here bro

Eni ti iwo ba ni pa lati se iran lowo fun owon na ni enikeji re. If u have do

deleson:

She turned you down four years back and now she’s in the University. That tells me she was a young, naive lady then and wasn’t interested in having a relationship (with you).

At the stage, the decision was good for both of you, else, you perhaps won’t have been able to make the money you’re contemplating on giving her now, and she’d also not have been this interested in school, four years down the line.

If I may ask, have you been keeping in touch with her since she turned down your request four years back? If yes, what has been the point of interest - friendship or romantic relationship?

If your answer is the former, then, help your friend. If not, follow your guts.

Another question, is the lady now in a relationship? If yes, is she asking for the financial assistance on an emotional/romantic basis? If yes, then don’t give.

I should say that you really need to be sure of her current financial state and genuineness or otherwise.

That said, one shouldn’t always do good/favour with the intent of receiving it back. God is a best rewarder.

What’s your mind telling you?

this handle deserves a lap of a full grown chicken, nailed it

Help her if you have the cash

lol

u dey mind them


remember one i asked out back then in school

later helped her sha

no biggies and her friend that was also dulling still hit it when my time came

its all about the benjies

hoess aint loyal

PotatoSalad:

Real talk. Shawarma and Habib ice cream.

I dey tell you. Especially sharwama.
They can't do without it.

I wasted my money buying sharwama for girls in school just to fucck.

Was successful once or twice, but the vast majority chop my money run.

dumb jamb question!...

if you DESERT me at my WORST, you DON'T DESERVE me at my BEST!

For me, asking her out before shouldn't be a yardstick for your help. She said no when you asked her out for reasons known to her I guess...the same way she said "no" is the same way you also have a choice of saying "no", if that's what you want to say, it's your money. But if you think you can path ways with your money, go ahead. I see nothing wrong in it, unless you are saying everybody you have every helped in your life have always given something in return!

kinghopex:

Make she no use me shine dat my fear

I no that feeling been there done felt it, bro give her na her problem be that, if she does definitely a time will come then it would be your turn to use her shine trust me.trust me my ex thought she was smart when I was giving her what I could afford but there came a time I did same same thing to her and this time mehn I was the MVP in the game of playing, just chilax bro give her

Oga the fact she declined your advances, doesn’t make her your enemy. Besides you guys are still chatting, so uncle help if you can afford it

kinghopex:

Make she no use me shine dat my fear

are u hoping you win her heart with money? Dream on. I know you want to help with the hope that she will fall for u. Bros, it will never happen.

Most girls like to do this... They would ask guys they turned down for money while the ones they agree to date doesn't give them shiiit.

If your name is mugu, give her.

The best tactics is to decline her request... And for sake of humanity, send it to her like 3 months time and make sure it is not more than 5k.

kinghopex:


I really need advice on this..

I asked this lady out back then in 2015 and she turned me down completely without any reasonable excuse...

Now she is in the university studying and today while we were chatting, she told me she is seriously broke that i should help her with money!!

If i were you will you help her

I can see why she is asking you for money. She saw you had no backbone then...she turned you down. Now she see you still don't have backbone... but you have money.... and she goes straight to the point.... doesn't even have to apply gold digging skills... and here you are...asking us what to do.
Let me ask.... why didn't you ask why she rejected you yearsss ago?... don't have the balls to ask? Did you ask which University?...what level?..what course? I can bet my life you didn't. Bro... if you love yourself.... stick to your levels.... that babe will chew you up.....then spit you out... and you wouldn't even know.